Why do women say they want to find a nice guy, but never seem to want to date them? The answer is that what women are not saying is actually more important. Whenever a woman says “I wish I could find a nice guy”, there’s the unspoken modifier: “I wish i could find a nice guy… who actually excites me." Here's how men can stop being so "nice", and start being amazing. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:  What women REALLY mean when they talk about finding a nice guy Why women aren't attracted to "nice" guys Why being "nice" by itself isn't enough Why nice guys lose respect... and how to get it back How to develop the qualities women are REALLY looking for in men  ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: Why Being A "Nice Guy" Isn't Good Enough Eliminating Neediness What Bad Boys Know (That Nice Guys Don't) Enforcing Your Boundaries Do Women Prefer Dominant Men? Dominance, Prosocial Orientation and Female Preferences Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove  Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

#124 - Why Women Don't Like Nice Guys

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Let's be honest: dating can be a trial. For a lot of men, dating isn't something you enjoy, it's something you endure. From trying to meet women, to getting a number, to actually getting women out on a date... it's more like pulling teeth than meeting a potential partner. Today, I want to give you all some advice I wish I had gotten back when I first started dating. Because, if you’re checking out these episodes, then the odds are good that, frankly, you think dating… kinda sucks. And in fairness: you’re not entirely wrong. Dating for men can be kind of awful. But not for the reasons you might think.  In fact, the biggest reason why dating can suck is because of how much harder we men make it for OURSELVES and in the process, make ourselves miserable… even when we think we’re doing everything right.   So let's look at 5 reasons why dating can SUCK for men… and what you can do about it. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:  Why men have a conflict mentality when it comes to dating The secret to passing women's "tests" Why so much of what you believe about women, dating and sex is WRONG. How guys get caught in a cycle of dating failure Why you're taking the wrong advice about how to meet women  ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: How To Meet Women, Effortlessly  What Men Need To Know About Attraction The Truth About Casual Sex (And Where To Get It)  This Is Why Online Dating Sucks The Fear of Being Invisible  The Love Gap  Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex and the Truths They Reveal What Do Women Want: Adventures in the Science of Female Sexual Desire  Simplified Dating Transcript available at  doctornerdlove.com  Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher, Spotify and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

#156 — This Is Why Dating Sucks For Men (And How To Fix It)

The most magnetic, charming and well liked people aren't popular because of their looks, their money, or their bodies. People like them because of they make others feel and the value that they bring into other peoples' lives.  These 5 qualities will help you create stronger, more profound connections with others, teach you to be instantly charismatic and become incredibly well liked by everyone around you. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:  Why genuine likeability and personal magnetism are rare qualities, even in Hollywood Why sharing the spotlight makes you more popular How triggering one emotion in people makes them like you, instantly Why passion is so attractive in others How authenticity and vulnerability make people want to spend more time with you  ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS:  These Are The Things You Only Learn When Your Friend Dies Popularity 101 The Value of Authenticity  The "It" Factor  How To Be Charming  Transcript available at  doctornerdlove.com  Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher, Spotify and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

#155 — The 5 Things That Make People Like You... Instantly.

Right now, we are living through the most stressful, even outright traumatic year that most of have ever faced in our lives. Even if you’re in a relatively good place, we’re all getting hit with bad news, more stories of police violence, political corruption, the continuing pandemic, even potential fallout from the election. It can be incredibly hard to have a positive attitude and solid confidence. It can be hard not to look around and say “how am I supposed to have the strength to keep going?"  But you need that emotional strength, powerful confidence and positive attitude more than ever. And the first step is to recognize the things that are stealing your happiness and sabotaging your life and learn how to build the emotional strength it takes to persevere, that appealing confidence and the positive attitude that can help build strong relationships and help you face and overcome the challenges in your life that seem impossible. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:  Why one simple word can ruin your self-confidence How we convince ourselves that we're powerless... when we're not The mistake we make that makes us miserable... no matter what we do How we talk ourselves out of success Why your rivals can be your greatest allies  ... and so much more.  RELATED LINKS: The 5 Things You Need To Know To Succeed At Dating   What "Forged In Fire" Can Teach Us About Manhood  Unlearning Helplessness  You Are Your Own Worst Enemy   "Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success"  Transcript available at  doctornerdlove.com  Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher, Spotify and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

#154 — Building Incredible Emotional Strength And Powerful Confidence

Have you struggled with relationships that were bad for you? Maybe you’ve been in a toxic relationship with somebody who was always manipulating you into ways of getting what they wanted, leaving you feeling like a doormat. Maybe you had friends who treated you badly or would pressure you into going along with jokes at your expense or doing things that made you uncomfortable or went against your values. Or perhaps you’ve had family members who would leverage guilt or reciprocity to make you do whatever they want, even if it’s a huge inconvenience to you or emotionally draining or even damaging. Or you were constantly being made to feel as though your interests, desires or wants were unimportant or inconvenient… even if it’s simply “don’t treat me like sh*t.” One of the most important things you can do to ensure you have strong, healthy relationships — with your wife or girlfriend, your friends, your family or even your co-workers — is to have strong boundaries. Today, I'm going to teach you how to build strong boundaries... and how to enforce them. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:  What one viral video teaches us about toxic relationships Why abusers and toxic people prey on people with weak boundaries How abusers trick you into lowering your boundaries for them How to push back when people push against your boundaries The most important part of maintaining healthy relationships  ...and so much more RELATED LINKS: What Will You Put Up With? Boundaries, Self-Esteem and Dating Enforcing Your Boundaries  How Do I Avoid Abusive Relationships?  How Do I Get My Family To Respect My Boundaries? Transcript available at  doctornerdlove.com  Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher, Spotify and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

#153 — The Secret to Healthier, Stronger Relationships

Growing up, I knew I was struggling with things that other people seemed to be able to do without a second thought. I thought I was just lazy, that I needed to be more disciplined and to take things more seriously. But it never worked, and I never understood why. Now, after a lifetime of searching, I finally have the answers.  This week, I want to talk with you about my experiences with having been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, how it can affect you and your relationships, and my experiences with getting diagnosed and getting treated.  Here's what happened. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:  What people get wrong about ADHD Why so many people don't get diagnosed or treated when they need it How having ADHD can affect your confidence and your relationships Why people with ADHD have anxiety and depression How getting treatment has changed my life  ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS:  Overcome Your Fear of Rejection - https://www.doctornerdlove.com/overcome-your-fear-of-rejection/ Top 5 Dating Mistakes — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/top-5-dating-mistakes/  This is What Happened After I Tried Meditation for 30 Days — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/this-is-what-happened-after-30-days-of-meditation/  You Must Unlearn What You Have Learned — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/how-to-unlearn-what-you-have-learned/ When It's Time To Ask For Help — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/when-its-time-to-ask-for-help/ ADHD In Adults — https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-in-adults/ Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com  Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher, Spotify and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

#124 - Why Women Don't Like Nice Guys

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