Hearts Entwined Podcast

Why Women Leave: The Emotional Detachment Process - Lyn Smith


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This deeply personal episode explores the phases of emotional detachment within a relationship, specifically from a woman's perspective, using a powerful analogy of an emotional "bank account." 

Lyn shares her own experiences across two long-term relationships, detailing five stages—from the initial unconscious observation of negative feelings to the final, total emotional and physical withdrawal

KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • A relationship begins with a full "bank account" of emotional energy, but as issues arise, the account starts to become slowly and unconsciously depleted until a woman feels emotionally bankrupt.
  • The initial phase involves silently observing and compounding feelings of disappointment and unfulfilment without understanding the root cause, which then progresses to a breakdown in communication and feeling unheard.
  • As emotional energy decreases, a woman slowly withdraws her investment in the relationship, showing less spontaneity, affection, and initiation, and instead starts taking personal responsibility for her own happiness through external activities.
  • The final stage is the "whip of indifference," where the emotional bank account reaches zero, and the woman has completely checked out—a state of emotional bankruptcy where there is no more energy left to invest, and she is out of the relationship both emotionally and physically.
  • BEST MOMENTS

    "Neither relationship was a toxic relationship... but it just got to the stage where we were on different paths and the relationships had run their course."

    "What I noticed is that, first and foremost, I was observing myself, but not actually consciously at the time... that I was silently observing, certain feelings... like disappointment, feeling unfulfilled."

    "Unconsciously, you start to stop communicating, and this can have a draining effect, it can really be a phase where you're feeling exhausted and frustrated."

    "I suppose in hindsight, I realise now that these things were going on, but I felt powerless to actually stop the train now that it was pulling out the station, so to speak."

    ABOUT THE HOST

    Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert

    Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace.

    She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale.

    Contact Method [email protected]

    This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Mediahttps://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

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