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Why You Feel the Need to Solve Everyone’s Problems - Nice Guy Pattern #3
This week, we’re looking at a subtle but powerful Nice Guy pattern: the urge to fix others.
Maybe you recognize it, that you always try to solve people’s problems, lighten their moods, or “fix” their anger and sadness. On the surface, it feels caring. But underneath, it often hides fear: fear of rejection, conflict, or being outcast.
I know how this is! For many years, I thought my worth came from being the one who could help, the one who made things better and I was very proud of it.
Until I realised - it is a trauma response. It’s survival. It doesn´t come from inspiration but from fear. And I can´t stop doing it…even if I want to.
In this episode, I’ll share stories of how this pattern shaped my friendships and emotions, and how you can begin to break free from it.
✨ Weekly Quest
Observe and resist the urge to fix someone’s emotions this week.
When someone around you feels sad or angry, don’t step in to change them. Just notice what happens inside you.
🪞 Reflective Questions
If this resonates, leave me a comment, DM me, or share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it.
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👋🏻 REFLECT WITH ME
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By Frederik HerreThis week, we’re looking at a subtle but powerful Nice Guy pattern: the urge to fix others.
Maybe you recognize it, that you always try to solve people’s problems, lighten their moods, or “fix” their anger and sadness. On the surface, it feels caring. But underneath, it often hides fear: fear of rejection, conflict, or being outcast.
I know how this is! For many years, I thought my worth came from being the one who could help, the one who made things better and I was very proud of it.
Until I realised - it is a trauma response. It’s survival. It doesn´t come from inspiration but from fear. And I can´t stop doing it…even if I want to.
In this episode, I’ll share stories of how this pattern shaped my friendships and emotions, and how you can begin to break free from it.
✨ Weekly Quest
Observe and resist the urge to fix someone’s emotions this week.
When someone around you feels sad or angry, don’t step in to change them. Just notice what happens inside you.
🪞 Reflective Questions
If this resonates, leave me a comment, DM me, or share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it.
📲 CONNECT WITH ME
Instagram – itsfrederik
👋🏻 REFLECT WITH ME
Send me a DM on Insta or comment here if something sparked in you!