There is a version of dating in your 30s that feels like running a recruitment campaign, carefully crafted, highly strategic, and somehow still not attracting the right person. Navigating relationships with real intention starts long before the first swipe, and this episode is here to change how you think about all of it.

I sat down with Joyce, a leadership and dating coach with a background in psychology and author of Diamond Steps to Success, to explore what intentional dating actually looks like in practice. Drawing on her own journey through her 20s and 30s before meeting her husband, Joyce brings the kind of warm, grounded wisdom that coaching for women does at its very best. We talk about building a dating profile that genuinely reflects your values, how to ask the big questions without it feeling like an interview, and why creating space for a future partner is as much a mindset shift as it is a wardrobe clear-out.

You will come away with real tools for navigating relationships differently, a clearer sense of the energy you are putting out and why, and permission to let your softness and your ambition exist in the same room. This is one of those inspiring women conversations that stays with you, because personal development for women includes love, and you deserve both.

Your person is out there. Let us make sure they can find you.

This episode is full of warmth, honesty, and genuinely practical wisdom for anyone who wants more intentional relationships.

Because knowing what you want is not too much to ask for.

Episode Highlights

00:00 — Meet Kam and her guest Joyce, a leadership, life and dating coach and author of Diamond Steps to Success

04:34 — Why your dating profile is more like a vibe than a CV, and the small tweaks that attract the right people

07:12 — How being clear on your values signals to the right person that you are serious about building something real

19:14 — What your profile pictures are really saying about you and the visual cues that signal warmth and long term potential

30:31 — The beautiful practice of creating physical and mental space for a future partner before they arrive

36:33 — Why showing vulnerability is not weakness, it is an invitation for the right person to show up for you

41:43 — Getting clear on your values as the real foundation of lasting relationships, beyond the checklist

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Connect with Joyce

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DIAMOND STEPS TO SUCCESS: REACH YOUR GOALS IN 7 STEPS eBook : Oyedele, Joyce: Amazon.co.uk: Books