Before you fully commit to someone, do not just ask if they love you. Ask what they have survived.

In this episode, Coach Los breaks down why a person’s past, resilience, coping skills, and emotional durability matter when choosing a long-term partner. Because the version of someone you experience in comfort may not be the same version that shows up under pressure.

Coach Los breaks down:

• Why love alone is not enough without resilience
• How someone’s past reveals what they may be able to handle with you
• Why you need to know if they self-reflect or self-protect under stress
• How discomfort exposes emotional maturity and coping skills
• Why some people shut down when life gets real, even if they love you
• The difference between someone built for sunshine and someone built for storms

Coach Los also explores why vetting someone is not just about chemistry, loyalty, or shared goals.

It is about knowing whether they have the grit, self-awareness, and emotional strength to stand with you when life stops being easy.

Because if they have never had to fight for something that truly mattered, they may not know how to fight for the relationship when it matters most.