WISH Radio: Straight Talk for Women's Health

If you struggle to fit your femininity in a pretty, little pink box, you're going to love this call with Michaela Boehm. She strips the glitter off the "Goddess" and brings it right back to the pig barn where the real live, multi-tasking women are making life happen.

So often as a "woman" I feel painted in "domestic kid-loving mess." This week, in particular, our youngest  has been a vomit and diarrhea BOMB ready to go off at any minute. Couple that with whipping up breakfasts, lunches, supper and essential oil forcefields for the rest of the family and keep up with the laundry as a result of the little body fluid bomb going off, and I am heavily immersed in the mess and magnificence of life.

So sometimes I don't feel very "feminine," but listening to this call again was a balm to my multitasking wounds and a lift of the feminine spirit if you need it!

Michaela Boehm is a lineage holder in Kashmiri Shaivism Tantra having received a classical tantric education from a young age. In addition to over twenty years of extensive academic and clinical background in psychology and counseling, Michaela also traveled and co-taught with David Deida for 13 years. She has developed a women's curriculum for feminine embodiment as well as teaching couples and men about the principles of intimacy and polarity. You can learn more about her and her workshops and teachings here.

You're going to love Mat and laugh a lot during this call, because he is real and wondering and very in tune with his topic. As you'll learn at the beginning of the call, Mat's background of broken marriages inspired him to investigate far and wide into what it takes to make love work for the long haul. He's done a few interviews with us, but the two will be sharing as part of this series are on how to Crack the "Man" Code, and a little more about his project everlasting.

Since the time Mat and I recorded this call, he got married, had two beautiful children and has created some Youtube videos on relationship advice for women about men that are being seen by millions of people around the world! You'll love checking out his books, website and youtube videos!

To increase love in the world, one heart at a time. I specialize in helping women understand the hearts and minds of men so they can attract the relationship they desire. If you are getting back into the dating scene and want to know how to meet men and build attraction in an authentic and confident way, OR if you are dating or in a relationship and you want less frustration and friction, and more connection and communication you will find invaluable insights and tools in this website.'s Mission:

Over the past 8 years as a relationship coach giving dating advice to women all over the world, I've dedicated my life to helping people just like you find love and create extraordinary relationships.

What I believe…

I believe there is no greater ambition in life than to build a thriving relationship someone you love.

I believe you CAN have the love and partnership you desire.

The best dating advice is to start with yourself and building a life you absolutely love living.

Life is to be lived fully with an open heart, going after our dreams, and creating moments that matter with people that matter to us.

You are more powerful than any condition you're facing.

Your city, your job, your physical condition, your history, none of these things determine the results you get in life.  That might be a hard pill to swallow, but it's true.

Your results come from you, your state of mind, what you choose to focus your attention on, and the actions you take.

If we want new results, we have to be willing to step outside our comfort zone and try new things.

This was definitely the case for me…

Ever had your heart crushed?  Yeah, me too.  Probably the worste pain I've felt.  Which as a former Division 1-AA college football player is saying a lot.

After having my heart broken yet again and being single for a frustratingly long time (to say the least), I decided once and for all to learn what it takes to attract lasting love.

I read every relationship book I could find.  But that wasn't good enough for me.

I wanted the best dating advice in the world.  I wanted to learn relationship secrets directly from couples that had built amazing long lasting marriages.

So, I jumped in an RV and traveled over 12,000 miles around the United States with my buddy (Jason Miller) and my grandma Dorothy to discover the Secrets of America's Greatest Marriages.

At the end of our journey, my best friend and I wrote the book, Project Everlasting: Two Bachelors Discover The Secrets of America's Greatest Marriages (published by Simon and Schuster).

The principles and practices I discovered from these couples changed my life!

Since then, I've met the love of my life.  Fell in love and got married.  Today, we are happily married, living in Southern California.

You can learn more about Mat and his projects here. 

This power couple is a pillar of what to do to make love work, and if you've never heard their work or spent time soaking up their wisdom, you're going to love this call. Loaded with tools and suggestions for understanding your lover, or another you're deeply invested in, this call is your ticket to happily ever after!

Here's how they describe their story:

Our meeting and connecting happened across a crowded room—really—in January of 1980. We recognized each other first at an energetic/spiritual level and have been thrilled and curious to learn more ever since. From our first conversation we've been passionate about relationship as a path of awakening. We committed and re-committed each step of the way to our first intention: we create a relationship that runs primarily on positive energy.

In these videos we introduce you to the magic moves that continue to guide our daily choices. This conscious relationship map contains processes and practices that can enliven and harmonize your close relationships, as it did ours. We'd love to live in a world where people celebrate each other as equal partners, spending most of our time in expressing genius and supporting creativity. We invite you to join us in the adventure of a lifetime, conscious loving.

You should definitely go straight to their website and check out their amazing videos and services.

I was so excited to do this call with Cynthia Kersey. I share more about the story in today's podcast. At the time of this recording, Cynthia's work centred around coaching and inspiring people to be unstoppable. And during this call you'll hear how she gets excited for some of the different kinds of work she was doing in the world at that time.

In particular, her work building schools in Africa became the centre point of her career, and she organized an entire foundation around raising money to serve and support the world in this way. What started out as an initial project and fund-raiser became the primary drive of what she does. I hope you'll find Cynthia and her work as inspiring as I do.

This call is LOADED with inspirational stories that will help you feel and BE unstoppable!!

Cynthia Kersey is the Chief Humanitarian Officer of the Unstoppable Foundation whose mission is to ensure that every child on the planet receives access to the life-long gift of education.

Cynthia is a leader in the transformational industry. She's the bestselling author of two books, "Unstoppable" and "Unstoppable Women", a collection of powerful stories and strategies from people who through perseverance and consistent action turned obstacles into personal triumph. These books have motivated countless readers with over 500,000 copies sold worldwide in 17 languages.

"I want every child on the planet to receive access to the life-long gift of education"

Cynthia is also an inspiring speaker, entrepreneur, national columnist and contributing editor to Success Magazine, and was a featured guest on the Oprah Winfrey Show when Oprah launched the Angel Network.

Cynthia is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council — an organization made up of internationally known thought leaders and educators including founder Jack Canfield, creator of the mega best-selling "Chicken Soup for the Soul" series.

As an organization, they impact millions of people worldwide and through a rigid vetting process awarded the Unstoppable Foundation as their designated humanitarian organization to support in 2012.

Cynthia's passion is showing how each of us can solve the world's most seemingly impossible challenges through simple individual actions.

You can learn a lot about Cynthia's work now on her website, here.

Brian is probably one of my favourite people in the entire universe! He's made smart decisions for himself and his family, and is the most well-read person I know. After having achieved financial success, he decided how to make the best of his smarts and abilities and resources to serve the world. That's how he create this site: www.optimize.me. I've loved watching Brian over the years, and this call below is one of the later calls I did with him.

I hope this makes you want to gobble up wisdom from him and add him to your list of allies in life. He works hard reading books so you won't have to, and makes it easy for you to apply the knowledge and wisdom of the best teachers and philosophers that have ever lived! Dive in and I really hope you enjoy this call!

• How to start with what you know to make life radically better.

• How to identify that ONE thing you could do which would have the greatest benefit?

• Brian's trick for simplifying self-development

• Brian's best tip for how to get over overwhelm!

• His journaling practice and what it does for him!

• The scientifically established method for optimizing our lives.

• Understanding the power of "thinking on paper" and how journaling can up level your life!

• What the The ultimate currency in life is happiness!

• The results of an incredible study of four-month test where Zoloft and exercise were compared for the effects on depression!

• How to tap into your innate wisdom and talk to your 110 year old version of yourself!

• And so, so much more!!

He's so freakin' expiring, but words don't cut it. You can learn all about him when you decide to join his community here.

I pulled this interview up from the archives of the WISH Summit to share because it still stands out to me as a powerful, life-changing call. Janet was so sincere and passionate about her topic, that there was a moment that really moved me where she started to explain why finding your passion and following your purpose isn't just something to do in your spare time--it's your duty and obligation, and not doing it has a cost to life.

I wanted to bring it up and dust it off because the message still has value and Janet's message will move you!

• What is "passion" and how do you tap into it?
• Why 80% of people wake up totally disinterested in what they do and how to stop being one of them!
• Why it's not a mistake that you love what you love!
• How to make passion-based decisions!
• How passion links individual intelligence to the organizing power of Nature.
• How to leave the "hut" and move toward the "castle."
• Tips to help you step up your level of happiness and prosperity.
• The first steps toward experiencing more passion in your life.
• What's a "conscious creator" is and how to become one.
• How "The Passion Test" has changed the lives of even the most powerful people, and what it will do for you!
• How to conquer fear and take big steps in the direction of your destiny!
• Why it's not about you to follow your passion!!
• And much, much more!!

Janet Bray Attwood is the co-author of the New York Times Bestsellers, The Passion Test – The Effortless Path to Discovering Your Life Purpose and Your Hidden Riches – Unleashing the Power of Rituals to Create a Life of Meaning and Purpose.  She is also co-author of From Sad to Glad: 7 Steps to Facing Change with Love and Power.

As an expert on what it takes to live a passionate life, she has presented her programs as a featured speaker to hundreds of thousands of people around the world with The Dalai Lama, Sir Richard Branson, Stephen Covey, Brendon Burchard, Tony Hsieh, Nobel Laureate F. W. deKlerk, T. Harv Eker, Jack Canfield, Lisa Nichols, and others.

Janet has taken hundreds of thousands of people through The Passion Test process all over the world. She is the co-founder of The Passion Test Certification Program, which has over 1,800+ Certified Facilitators in over 50 countries. Janet is also the co-founder of The Passion Test for Business, The Passion Test for Kids & Teens, The Passion Test for Coaches, The Passion Test for Kids in Lock Down, and The Passion Test Reclaim Your Power Program for the homeless. You can read the rest of her bio and discover her website and resources here.

This was one of the very first interviews I ever did as part of the original WISH Summit, and it was with the very first woman to hit the self-development stage in a significant way, Dr. Barbara De Angelis. I'm sharing this call again because I find it a powerful call loaded with action steps you can take to shift your mindset right away!!

• How she found her path and finally realized why she was here.
• How your comfort boundaries are stopping you from seeing what's really there?
• The best way to measure freedom and how to increase yours.
• Why thinking that things are "fine" is a trap you should be careful of!
• Why there's nothing "missing" with you. It's more about what you need to let go of in order to free yourself.
• How to identify your "baggage" and what to do to let it go.
• What to do if you know there's more, but aren't sure how to reach it.
• The most common things that drag you down and how to spot them.
• How to navigate through the unexpected to define ourselves.
• How do women block or push down their power—their power to transform others.
• The characteristics of a powerful woman and how to recognize one when you see her!

You'll hear amazing stories about what changing your limitations can do and feel totally motivated and inspired to take action, stop wasting time and making your life what you want it to be!!

"The true role of a teacher is not to take you anywhere, but to help you pay attention to where you already are." -Barbara DeAngelis

Dr. BARBARA De ANGELIS is one of the most influential teachers of our time in the field of personal and spiritual development. For the past thirty-five years, she has reached tens of millions of people throughout the world with her inspirational messages about how to create a life of true freedom, mastery and awakening.

As a best-selling author, popular television personality and sought after motivational speaker, Barbara is legendary in the field of personal transformation as one of the first people to popularize the idea of self-help in the 1980's, and as one of the first nationally recognized female motivational teachers on television. Through her sold-out seminars, TV and radio programs, publishing and speaking, she has created her own Barbara De Angelis Brand, and is sought out not only by corporations, celebrities, and entrepreneurs, but by anyone who wants to learn how to transform themselves, their business, and their relationships from the inside out.

Dr. De Angelis is the author of sixteen best-selling books which have sold over ten million copies and been published throughout the world in twenty-five languages. She has had an amazing FOUR #1 New York Times Bestsellers, including Real Moments, Are You The One For Me?, Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know, and Chicken Soup for the Couples Soul, as well as HOW DID I GET HERE? Finding Your Way To Renewed Hope and Happiness When Life and Love Take Unexpected Turns, which received numerous awards and high acclaim.

You can read the rest of her mind-boggling biography here, and explore her current website, books and offerings! 

You made it to Day 10!! I hope you feel proud of yourself for sticking to it. I'm certainly grateful you ventured this way and cross electronic time and space with me. I hope you had the chance to test out the exercises enough to be able to see for yourself that self-worth doesn't come from how you look or what you wear or how much stuff you can pack in your closets, but from how you COMMUNICATE AND CONTRIBUTE to the world around you!

Now that you've had a good dose of inspiration and have felt what it takes to lift life up a little, it's time to put wisdom into action and it will be your turn to do the same for someone else!

Go ahead and listen to this FINAL day's assignment! Everything you need to hear and know to complete this step is explained in the call, and the tool you'll need to complete this final assignment can be found below, in today's blog, along with a few final tips and bits of inspiration! Go get 'em, Tiger!!

You can find the rest of the blog post here. 

Wow! Look at you! If you've been following along and made it to Day 9, you're here reading it and giving it your time and attention then you ROCK!! Make sure you're doing your best to apply the information so you're getting what you came here to this 10-Day Communication Challenge in the first place for! I hope you performed some small random act of kindness, and that you got to feel the zing in your arms and the tingle in your toes that comes with doing something good for a total stranger!

Given some of the bumps and bruises and lessons learned the hard way in life, it actually takes quite a lot of courage to communicate. Very often we don't say what we want, because we're afraid we might make someone mad, or hurt someone's feelings, or sound "stupid," or be laughed at, etc. It can be pretty scary to really speak what you feel or think, but few of us consider what the cost to ourselves and to life is when we say nothing?

As I explained in yesterday's podcast, some of the most life-changing experiences women have had in their personal one-on-one coaching with me has been our taking inventory on the cost to themselves, their family members, and to Life that came about because of the things that went unsaid. It may be scary to ask that question or make that statement to someone, but the inner turmoil you feel when you don't say anything is often far more uncomfortable than the short term stress of keeping quiet!!

So, take a deep breath, stand tall, and hold your head up high because it's time to be brave and this lesson will help you do it!

We're in the home stretch now and if you're here, then you've done an amazing job sticking with it and making it to Day 8 of our 10-Day Communication Challenge! If you've been following along and doing the exercises, then chances are pretty good you've already started to experience some positive benefits to your courage! This can be better confidence, more awareness, and a sense of inner calm and a lot less stress.

If you've been applying the exercises from Day 5 and Day 6, then you should be really feeling the difference in your communication with other people. Maybe they're wanting to talk more to you, share more about themselves. If you've listened to the lesson from Day 7, then you'll know how to gracefully stop communication when you need or want to.

In 2010, a research article published in The Journal of Social Psychology entitled "Acts of Kindness and Acts of Novelty Affect Life Satisfaction" found that participants who engaged in random acts of kindness or acts of novelty over the course of the 10 day experiment felt greater life satisfaction. Other research has shown that happy people tend to do more for others, which, in turn, makes them feel good, which causes them to want to continue to do things for other people, indicating a circular effect relationship between kindness and happiness. 

I thought you might like to put these findings to the test for yourself, so go ahead and listen to today's power podcast for Lesson 8, and read the accompanying article on the blog for more insights and tips!