In this episode, we dive into the raw reality of experiencing both an induced labour and a spontaneous labour and how two completely different birth experiences shaped postpartum, recovery and motherhood.

After a first birth that began with an induction following reduced movements and ended in a caesarean, Renee shares how she went into her second pregnancy deeply informed, educated and determined to achieve a VBAC.

But despite spontaneous labour beginning naturally, her birth took an unexpected turn when her baby was found to be malpositioned at 10cm, leading to another emergency caesarean and her newborn being rushed to special care.

We talk about:

• Induction vs spontaneous labour contractions

• VBAC preparation and advocacy

• Hospital birth and decision making

• Emergency caesarean birth

• Birth trauma and postpartum recovery

• Missing the golden hour

• Having a baby in special care

• The emotional impact of birth on postpartum

• Navigating 2 under 2 after caesarean births

• Holding gratitude and grief at the same time

This episode is for any woman navigating birth expectations, postpartum healing or processing a birth that didn’t unfold the way she imagined.

Whether you’re preparing for birth, hoping for a VBAC, recovering from a caesarean or entering motherhood again with more awareness, this conversation will make you feel deeply seen.

Thank you Renee for coming on the podcast and sharing your birth story.

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Women Don’t Need a More Birth Plan… They Need This | Birth Preparation, Positive Birth Experience & Doula Support

So many women spend hours creating the “perfect” birth plan only to feel overwhelmed, disappointed or out of control when birth doesn’t go to plan.

In this episode, we’re shifting the conversation around birth preparation and what actually creates a positive, empowered birth experience.

As a doula, I see it all the time — it’s not the lack of a birth plan that leaves women feeling disconnected from their birth but it’s the lack of inner preparation, nervous system support and the ability to navigate the unknown.

This is where your birth compass comes in.

Inside this episode, we explore:

- Why traditional birth plans can leave women feeling disempowered

- The key difference between a rigid plan vs a flexible, intuitive birth compass

- How to prepare for an unmedicated birth, hospital birth, or induction without fear

-The importance of nervous system regulation in labour and birth

-How to stay grounded, calm and connected when birth takes an unexpected turn

- What actually creates a positive birth experience (no matter the outcome)

- How to advocate for yourself and make aligned decisions during labour

This episode is for you if you’re:

Pregnant and preparing for birthWanting a natural birth, home birth or empowered hospital birth

Feeling anxious about labour and unsure how to prepare

Looking for holistic birth preparation and doula support

Wanting to trust your body and feel confident going into birth

Whether you’re planning your first baby or preparing for another birth, this episode will help you move beyond control and into true birth confidence, trust and empowerment.

Because birth isn’t something you control, it’s something you learn to navigate.

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You can’t control birth, but you can soften into it.

She went into birth certain.
Certain she would have a natural, drug-free water birth.
Certain she could do it.

What she didn’t expect was meeting the version of herself who couldn’t do it the way she planned.

After 4 days of labour, sterile water injections and an emergency c-section the physical experience was only part of it.

The real impact was her identity collapse.

Because no one talks about this part:
When your birth plan becomes who you believe you are and then birth asks you to surrender everything.

In this episode, we speak honestly about:

• The illusion of control in labour
• Why rigid birth plans can create deeper suffering
• The emotional and psychological impact of emergency c-sections
• VBAC expectations and facing birth again after trauma
• Why softening, not controlling is true power in birth

This is for the woman who feels like she “failed” her birth.
This is for the woman gripping tightly to one outcome.
This is for the woman who needs to hear you didn’t actually do anything wrong.

Birth is not something you conquer.
It’s something you meet.

Thank you Lorena for sharing your story, it was empowering and a beautiful conversation.

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What really happens in each phase of labour?

In this episode, I’m walking you through the stages of labour from a doula’s perspective so you know exactly what to expect from early labour, active labour, transition, pushing and the placenta birth phase.

So much birth fear comes from not knowing what’s normal. When you understand the rhythm of labour, every sensation starts to make sense. Instead of spiralling when contractions change, intensity builds or transition hits, you can meet each phase with more trust, softness and confidence.

Inside this episode, we cover:

• what early labour really feels like
• how to know when active labour has begun
• what to expect during transition
• why the “I can’t do this” moment is often a powerful sign of progress
• the instinctive pushing phase
• the sacred placenta and golden hour stage

• the emotional shifts women commonly move through during labour

This is the episode I want every pregnant woman and her birth partner to listen to before labour begins, so they can understand what’s happening in the body and trust the process instead of fearing it.

Whether you’re planning a home birth, hospital birth, VBAC, water birth or physiological birth, this episode will help you feel grounded in the wisdom of your body.

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What happens when your birth experiences look completely different… but both change you just as deeply?

In this powerful and honest conversation, we explore two very different birth journeys- a C-section at 37 weeks after a missed breech diagnosis and a later “natural” induced birth that came with its own unexpected challenges.

This episode goes beyond the surface of how babies are born and dives into what these experiences actually teach us about motherhood, trust and the pressure women feel to have a certain kind of birth or postpartum journey.

We talk about:

• Trusting your intuition during pregnancy and birth
• Navigating medical systems and missed diagnoses
• The emotional reality of C-section recovery
• The truth about “natural birth” expectations
• Birth trauma, healing and postpartum recovery
• Why a supported and emotionally well mother is the foundation of a healthy family

This is a conversation every mother needs to hear especially if your birth didn’t go to plan or you’ve ever questioned if your experience “counts.”

Because the truth is…
It’s not about how you give birth.
It’s about how you are held through it.

Whether you’ve had a C-section, vaginal birth, induction or are preparing for your own birth, this episode will leave you feeling seen, validated and deeply reminded of what truly matters in motherhood.

Thank you Victoria so much for this beautiful conversation, honouring you.

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⁠09.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Gympie)⁠

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The subconscious patterns you carry into birth and postpartum shape far more than your mindset, they shape your entire experience of motherhood.

In this powerful episode, we explore the hidden beliefs, nervous system conditioning and emotional imprints that pregnant women and new mums often bring into labour, birth and the postpartum period without even realising it.

From people pleasing in birth to hyper independence in postpartum, to the deep fear that your body can’t be trusted, these subconscious patterns often influence how safe you feel to surrender, receive support, advocate for yourself and truly rest as a new mother.

If you’re pregnant, preparing for birth, navigating postpartum or simply wanting to break generational cycles in motherhood, this episode will help you uncover the deeper patterns shaping your experience.

We dive into:

• subconscious beliefs about birth and motherhood
• nervous system patterns in labour and postpartum
• people pleasing, control and body distrust
• hyper independence in new mums
• breaking generational motherhood cycles
• preparing emotionally for birth and postpartum
• how subconscious healing supports a positive birth experience

This is for the woman who knows birth and postpartum are more than physical events — they are sacred initiations that reveal the deepest layers of who we are.

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In today’s episode, we’re diving into a deeply honest and empowering first birth story that every pregnant woman and first time mum needs to hear.

My beautiful guest shares how she moved through a fast, positive first labour, arriving at the hospital already 6cm dilated before experiencing the natural water birth she had hoped for. We talk about the mindset shifts, birth preparation and feeling informed enough to trust her body as labour progressed quickly.

But this conversation doesn’t stop at the birth.

We also unpack the part so many women are not fully prepared for- the immediate postpartum days.

From navigating the emotional reality of not feeling fully supported as a first time mum, to the unexpected challenges of newborn jaundice, phototherapy and feeding issues.

This episode speaks to the side of postpartum that can deeply complicate what we imagine will be “postpartum bliss.”

If you are pregnant, preparing for your first baby, hoping for an empowered birth or wanting a more realistic understanding of the postpartum transition, this conversation will help you feel informed, grounded and far less alone.

Inside this episode we explore:

• a positive and empowering first birth story

• the power of birth education and preparation

• what it feels like when postpartum doesn’t go to plan

• newborn jaundice and feeding struggles

• why support after birth matters just as much as birth preparation itself

• what first time mums truly need in the early days

This is the kind of story that reminds women: birth is only the beginning and how you are held afterwards matters deeply.

Thank you Mattia for sharing so courageously.

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If you’re pregnant and wondering why you still don’t feel calm about birth, this episode is for you.

So many first time mums believe they need to feel completely fearless, fully prepared and deeply relaxed before labour begins.

But the truth is, birth confidence isn’t about eliminating fear- it’s about creating safety in your body, trust in your support and nervous system resilience for labour and motherhood.

In this episode, we explore how to prepare for birth emotionally, mentally and physically, even if fear is still present.

You’ll learn why “just relax” is terrible birth advice, how your nervous system shapes your labour experience and what practical tools actually help you feel grounded during pregnancy and birth.

We dive into:

• how to calm birth anxiety naturally
• nervous system regulation for pregnancy and labour
• body-based birth preparation
• breathwork for labour confidence
• letting go of control in childbirth
• how positive birth stories build trust
• preparing your mind for first-time motherhood
• how to feel safe in your body before birth

This is the episode every pregnant woman, new mum and first-time mother needs to hear if she wants to move into birth feeling supported, powerful and deeply connected to her body.

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Can a birth still be healing even when it includes intervention?

In this honest episode, I sit down with a mama whose first birth ended in a failed induction, 24 hours of labour and an emergency C-section- an experience that left her feeling traumatised and disconnected from her body and birth story.

For her second birth, she chose a planned VBAC. While this birth still involved intervention through a vacuum assisted delivery and episiotomy, it became an incredibly healing and redemptive emotional experience, showing that a positive birth is not defined by perfection, but by how supported, informed and empowered you feel within it.

This conversation beautifully challenges the idea that healing only comes through an “ideal” birth outcome.

Adding even more depth, she now shares this story through the lens of being a student midwife, reflecting on how her understanding of informed consent, induction, intervention and physiological birth has shifted the way she views both her past births and the way she is preparing for her third baby.

Inside this episode, we explore:

• healing after birth trauma
• failed induction and emergency C-section
• planning a VBAC after a traumatic first birth
• vacuum-assisted VBAC and episiotomy
• why intervention does not equal failure
• informed consent and emotional safety in birth

• how birth education changes your choices

If you’ve experienced birth trauma, emergency C-section, VBAC fears, assisted delivery or are preparing for birth after a difficult first experience, this episode will remind you that healing is still possible even when birth doesn’t go exactly to plan.

🎧 Press play for a grounded and powerful conversation on VBAC, intervention, healing after trauma and reclaiming trust in yourself.

Thank you for joining us Aimee! Follow along her student midwifery journey here

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Everyone says the same thing to new mums: “Just ask for help”
But what if that advice is actually making motherhood feel heavier?

In this episode, we unpack why this well meaning phrase often misses the reality of postpartum recovery, the invisible mental load and the emotional transition into motherhood.

For pregnant women preparing for postpartum, first-time mums in the newborn stage and mothers feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to cope alone, this conversation offers a more honest lens on what real support actually looks like.

We explore:

• Why new mums often struggle to ask for help
• The mental load of motherhood after birth
• Why postpartum support systems matter more than advice
• How pregnancy preparation should include a postpartum plan
• The emotional reality of matrescence and identity shifts
• What partners, family and friends can do instead of saying “just ask”

If you’re navigating pregnancy, postpartum healing, new motherhood or the fourth trimester, this episode will help you feel seen, validated and practically supported.

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