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Welcome to the 14th episode of the Woman Uncaged Podcast with Laura Gates-Lupton and Linda Katz!  In this episode we talk about how to cultivate radical self-trust and why that is such a pivotal part of living an uncaged life.

We explore and discuss:
- The role that self-trust plays in claiming our own freedom
- How patriarchy breeds distrust in ourselves that has us outsourcing our knowing
- Being sold someone else's formula for life
- How unearthing your own rhythms relates to self-trust
- Why hearing our own deepest, most soulful voice clearly is vital (and why coaching can be a powerful aspect of that!)
- How our sense of self-trust is eroded, by ourselves or others
- Keeping promises to ourselves
- THE BEST question to ask to lead us back into our self-knowing and self-trust
- The cycle of self-trust and how we can strengthen this muscle with two simple, daily practices

Resources Mentioned:
Laura's Content Writers' Creation Circle: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1a6cGwg1ttpSciUwVyYrzT3XNFXTT0Jkk4tafMjHJUpE/edit

Quotes Mentioned:
"Don't talk about being true to myself
until you are sure
to what voice you are being true."
- Marion Woodman from Coming Home to Myself

Questions? Thoughts? Emails us at  [email protected]. We love to hear from you!

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Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

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Welcome to the 13th episode of the Woman Uncaged Podcast with Laura Gates-Lupton and Linda Katz!  In this episode we talk about how necessary it is to center our own happiness and success, in order to be uncaged, and how difficult that can be in heterosexual relationships.

"What I’m asking women to do is to center their own happiness and center their success in a way that is radical. And probably going to be deeply destabilizing for their relationships.” Lyz Lenz

We explore and discuss:
-How do we center our own happiness and our success, in the context of relationships?
-What does this mean for our partners?
-How do we find freedom in the context of our relationships?
-The metaphor of keeping our own candles lit.
-How do we create a sense of wholeness for ourselves?
-What role does self-defining play?
-Why the notion of "stolen moments" and "guilty pleasures" piss us off!
-How do we still value relationships and also center our own happiness?
-How do we know what we most want and claim that?
-How do we split the load (both visible and invisible) with our partners without phrasing it as "asking for help?"

Linda talks about setting up her life in a way that furthers her goals and what she loves.
"And the truth is, if your doing so rocks the boat, then you are in somebody else's boat. You're not the captain of your boat." ~Laura Gates-Lupton

Laura tells the story of the time she confused her family with her Mother's Day plans.

We mentioned (and recommend):
This American Ex-Wife by Lyz Lenz
Virginia Sole-Smith's Substack: https://virginiasolesmith.substack.com/p/is-heterosexual-marriage-a-diet

How about you? Where do you struggle with this? What have you figured out that works for you?  What terms do you use instead of "asking for help?" We'd love to hear from you. Email us: [email protected]

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Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

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Welcome to the 12th episode of the Woman Uncaged podcast! In this week's episode, Laura and Linda dive into the feminine archetypes that are missing in our patriarchal culture and how that plays into defining ourselves beyond the roles we play for others.

We explore and discuss:
- The feminine archetypes that have gone missing, using Toni Wolff's structural forms of the feminine psyche (Mother, Amazon, Companion, Wise Woman) as a jumping off point
- Aspects of womanhood are celebrated and those that are denigrated
- How to welcome the archetypes or energies in ourselves that are typically not welcomed in the greater culture
- What it means, and looks like, to define ourselves beyond the roles that we play for others, such as wife, mother, friend, teacher, etc. (which is harder than it sounds!)
- Both Laura and Linda share the first step they would offer a client who is beginning to define herself beyond solely her relationships
- Tracking what archetypal energy is emerging and which one(s) might be a bit worn out!

Books Mentioned:
- The Moon and The Virgin: Reflections on the Archetypal Feminine by Nor Hall
- The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision about Your Marriage by Kate Anthony

How about you? How can you define yourself beyond the roles that you play? What new archetypal energies are rising and which ones are feeling more tired? We'd love to hear from you. Email us: [email protected]

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Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

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Welcome to the 11th episode of the Woman Uncaged Podcast with Laura Gates-Lupton and Linda Katz!  In this episode we talk about freedom and its role in the uncaged life.

We explore and discuss:
-Inner cages vs. Outer cages
-Why rebellious energy feels like freedom, but isn't
-Why its so hard to simply enjoy ourselves
-The many forms of freedom, including defining our own schedules
-The role of justifiable excuses vs. permission
-The big hurdle of worrying about what others think
-Over-responsibility and dropping the reins
-The unquestioned assumptions in our lives (and questions that lead to freedom)
-The structures that keep us feeling trapped
-How to allow freedom now (but if I do, won't the inner rebel take over?)
-The role of self-trust
-Our fear of our power

The book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling the Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul  by our very own Linda Katz

Linda's coaching program: Homecoming: A Return to the Wild Soul Within (you can find out more, here: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/services/homecoming/

How about you? What does freedom feel like for you? Where in your life do you experience freedom? Do you want more? We'd love to hear from you. Email us: [email protected]

Support the show

Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

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Welcome to the 10th episode of the Woman Uncaged podcast! In this week's conversation, Laura and Linda redefine maturity. Too often, being mature often evokes an image of boring "adulting" and overall fuddy-duddy-ness (yep, we made that word up!). What if maturity was enlivened with emotion and irreverence?

In this episode, we explore:

- What is maturity and why is it ripe for redefinition?
- What is emotional maturity? What does it look like and not look like?
- Why dogs and other creatures can make amazing teachers on our road to maturation
- How do we learn that our feelings are unacceptable?
- Feelings that get little space in our culture (such as grief, regret, and remorse) and why they are important to a fully-lived life
- Irreverent maturity: What is it and why is it needed?

"Irreverent maturity is walking our own path with delight!" - Linda Katz

Resources:

Dr. Gorden Neufeld: https://neufeldinstitute.org/

Course on five-step model of emotional maturation: https://neufeldinstitute.org/course/neufelds-five-step-model-of-emotional-maturation/

Quotes:

“At 70 years old if I could give my younger self one piece of advice, it would be to use the words 'fuck off' much more frequently.” - Helen Mirren

"Wisdom combines experience with knowledge. Experience is lived through the passions of the body; knowledge is learned through the discipline of the mind. Wisdom connects body and spirit in soul."  - Marion Woodman + Elinor Dickson, Dancing in the Flames

How about you? What is your relationship like with the word "maturity"? How would you define it for yourself? We'd love to hear from you. Email us: [email protected]

Support the show

Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

Support the Show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2281161/supporters/new

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Welcome to the 9th episode of the Woman Uncaged Podcast with Laura Gates-Lupton and Linda Katz!  In this episode we talk about Joy.

We explore and discuss:
Why is joy scary and vulnerable? 
Why do we expect the other shoe to drop?
What does it mean to steal joy from the present and give it to the future?
If... when... then...thinking.
What is the joy thermostat?
Upper limit problems.
How does our propensity to make meaning relate to these limits?
How is all of this related to money?
How can we increase our capacity for joy?

This beautiful poem by Robert Friend:

The Last Year (after a terminal cancer diagnosis)
This is the last year.
There will be no other,
but heartless nature
seemingly relents.

Never has a winter sun
spilled so much light,
never have so many flowers
dared such early bloom.

The air is brilliant, sharp.
Never have I taken
such long, long breaths.

The book: The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

The song we danced to before recording: Tight Pants/Body Rolls by Leslie Hall. Such a fun song!!

How about you? What has your experience of joy been? Where is your thermometer set? Do you want it to be higher? We'd love to hear from you. Email us: [email protected]

Support the show

Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

Support the Show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2281161/supporters/new

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Welcome to the 8th episode of the Woman Uncaged Podcast with Laura Gates-Lupton and Linda Katz!  In this episode we dive into a topic that we have touched upon briefly in previous episodes: THE WEB.

In this episode, we explore...

- What is the web and why is it so important in the journey towards becoming an uncaged woman?

- Why is interdependence necessary and how does that differ from codependence?

- Needing other people to validate that we are "right" and how that prevents us from finding and walking our own individual path

- Why curiosity and the desire to understand another human being are key to the web

- Why focusing on action and behavior isn't enough to make lasting change

- The web's role in normalizing women's experiences

- Creating and sustaining relationships with roots that go deeper than simply being "alike"

In this episode, Linda also mentioned a boundaries metaphor that she got from her coach Lianne Raymond and brought up the work of witchy healer Larisa Noonan. 

Thank you for listening and we'd love to hear from you! Let us know how this conversation resonated with you and if there are other topics that you'd love for us to dive into! 

Email us: [email protected] 

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Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

Support the Show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2281161/supporters/new

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Welcome to the 7th episode of the Woman Uncaged Podcast with Laura Gates-Lupton and Linda Katz!  This episode was recorded in February 2023.

The world suffers when women who have these amazing ideas and thoughts and opinions and expertise shrink, and don't share them, because there is this whole additional pressure on when are we worthy enough to be visible. ~Linda Katz

Things we explore in this episode:
Visibility can be hard and normalizing what it's like to put yourself in the spotlight.
How can we be visible, and stay in our bodies, when under pressure?
The inner experience vs. the way we appear
Daring to show up imperfectly and unpolished
Where is there space for invisibility?

Kellita Maloof- The Showgirl Shaman at Showgirl Awakening: https://www.showgirlawakening.com/

Watch the Sistermind Roundtable on People Pleasing here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RayuqegmkFc

Books we mentioned:
The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler
On Photography by Susan Sontag
In a Different Voice by Carol Gilligan

How about you? What has your experience of visibility been? Where do you struggle? What makes it easier? We'd love to hear about it.  Email us: [email protected]

Support the show

Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

Support the Show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2281161/supporters/new

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Welcome to the sixth episode of the Woman Uncaged Podcast with Laura Gates-Lupton and Linda Katz! In this episode we delve into where our power to dream and positively imagine has gone. Some of the questions and topics we explore include:

- How our imaginations have atrophied except in cases of planning for the worst possible outcome?
- Is a pessimist the same thing as a realist?
- Why are we great in crises, but anxious when things are good?
- Where has our capacity for positive imagination gone and what has contributed to its decline? We explore patriarchy, capitalism, vulnerability, conditioning and more!
- How women have more barriers to dreaming in a patriarchal society and how that often begins around puberty

Two books we talked about:
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler

Support the show

Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

Support the Show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2281161/supporters/new

Email us: [email protected]. We love hearing from you! 

Send us a text. We'd love to hear from you!

Welcome to the fifth episode of the Woman Uncaged Podcast with Laura Gates-Lupton and Linda Katz!  This episode was recorded in February 2023.

In this episode Laura shares a story of a difficult travel experience that also had some magic.

We also explore:
-instinct injury and trusting our intuition
-making meaning. Are we making it up?
-coincidence vs. synchronicity
-remembering our own capacity

Linda shares her story of overriding her head for her heart.

What do you think? Have you experienced a magical synchronicity? We'd love to hear about it.  Email us: [email protected] 

Support the show

Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

Support the Show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2281161/supporters/new

Email us: [email protected]. We love hearing from you!