Woman Uncaged

Woman Uncaged

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  • No More Codependence: Uncaged Relationships

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    Welcome to the Woman Uncaged Podcast, Season 4, Episode 5! 

    In this episode, we dive into a question that so many of us wrestle with but rarely have clear models for: what does a healthy relationship actually look like?

    We talk about why so many of the examples we’ve grown up with, including songs, movies, even our own families, often normalize codependence, drama, or self-sacrifice instead of grounded, reciprocal love. Together, we explore what it means to meet one another as whole beings, to communicate directly without manipulation, and to hold onto ourselves even in the messy, beautiful friction of intimacy.

    We share our own experiences of navigating conflict, negotiating differences, and moving beyond the “tit-for-tat” or 50/50 myths that keep women over-giving and under-receiving in relationships. And we ask the hard but necessary questions: how do we recognize when compromise simply papers over conflict, when we’re overriding our instincts, or when we’re minimizing our own needs in the name of being “a good woman”?

    If you’ve ever found yourself drained after being with certain people, silencing your truth to keep the peace, or wondering if your anger means you’re the problem—this conversation will remind you that your feelings are valid, your wholeness matters, and healthy love begins with you.

    Resources mentioned:

    Article on Liberating Motherhood on Substack: https://zawn.substack.com/p/im-a-therapist-in-an-abusive-relationship

    Byron Katie: https://thework.com/




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    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

    ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
    ~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

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    51 min
  • Moving Beyond the Carrot and the Stick

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    Welcome to episode 4, season 4 of the Woman Uncaged podcast! 

    In today's episode we dive into how to move beyond the carrot and the stick in our relationships with ourselves, with how we raise children, how we train dogs, and how we relate to one another. We live in a paradigm that is dependent upon, and celebrates, punishment and reward as heathy ways to engineer the behavior we want, but what if there was another way? What if using the carrot and the stick actually comes at the cost of relationship and sends the feelings that drive behavior underground (only for them to pop up elsewhere at another time)? 

    In this episode, Laura and Linda explore whether behaviors, wanted or not, could be met by the presence of the conscious mother within, and instead of resorting to the carrot or the stick we could create the internal and external conditions that are truly required for growth and blossoming.

    Resources Mentioned:

    DOGS Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dogs/id1674962407

    Rutger Bregman on A Life of Greatness Podcast with Sarah Grynberg:https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/rutger-bregman-how-small-acts-of-courage-change-the-world/id1457268944?i=1000723484406

    Qoya: www.qoya.love 

    Lianne Raymond Coaching: https://www.lianneraymond.com/

    Smarter, Faster, Better by Charles Duhigg: https://www.amazon.com/Smarter-Faster-Better-Productive-Business/dp/081299339X

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    Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

    ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
    ~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

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    51 min
  • The Stranger in the Mirror: Uncaging Your True Self

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    Welcome to Season 4, Episode 3 of the Woman Uncaged Podcast!

    What happens when you realize that the life you’ve built—and even the relationships you’ve nurtured—don’t actually reflect who you are? In this conversation, we dive into how so many women begin silencing their true voices in adolescence just to belong, and how that survival strategy often follows us into adulthood. The result? Friendships that drain instead of nourish, partnerships where we feel unseen, and a nagging fear that if we stopped performing, there might be nothing left of us underneath.

    We talk honestly about what it takes to unbury that authentic self—why the process can feel terrifying, why midlife often brings this reckoning, and how to begin gently reclaiming your own voice. We share tools, stories, and encouragement for navigating this journey with patience and courage. If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this really me?” or longed for relationships that truly fill you up, this episode is for you.

    Books mentioned:
    Why Does Patriarchy Persist by Carol Gilligan and Naomi Snider

    Wild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghy

    Support the show

    Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

    ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
    ~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

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    47 min
  • Uncaging Cronehood: Redefining Aging for Ourselves

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    Welcome to episode 2 of season 4 of the Woman Uncaged podcast! In this episode Laura and Linda dive into uncaged cronehood, that developmental stage in a woman's life that occurs between midlife and elderhood. Often misunderstood, pathologized, or entirely ignored societally, we explore another possibility for this phase of life. What if it is an opportunity for women to uncage themselves more fully? To unhook from the collective culture so that we can do more of our work outside of the dominant patriarchal paradigm? To step out of performance and step into presence? 

    This time of life is often framed as one solely of loss; but if we turn towards ourselves and one another, it can be one of tremendous growth, joy, and courage. When there are fewer cultural expectations, we truly get to make it our own. 

    Resources: 

    The Joy Thermometer Episode: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2281161/episodes/14612200

    Poet Andrea Gibson: https://andreagibson.org/

    Feel the Fear...and Do It Anyway: https://susanjeffers.com/books/feel-the-fear-and-do-it-anyway-revised-and-updated/

    Support the show

    Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

    ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
    ~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

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    Email us: [email protected]. We love hearing from you! 

    48 min
  • Unworking the Dream: Freedom in a Post-Job World

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    In this episode of Woman Uncaged, we explore the radical idea of a post-job world. Inspired by the rise of AI and automation, we unpack what it could mean—socially, economically, emotionally—to live in a world where traditional jobs are no longer the default. Rather than succumbing to fear or dystopian visions, we wonder aloud: what if this shift opened the door to more creativity, rest, equity, and community? What if universal basic income or healthcare became the foundation for a society not built around exhaustion and survival, but around purpose, care, and possibility? From unschooling roots to feminist reflections on work, identity, and worth, this episode invites listeners to reimagine what it means to be human when no one owns your hours. 

    Books Mentioned:
    Unjobbing: The Adult Liberation Handbook by Michael Fogler

    Moral Ambition: Stop Wasting Your Talent and Start Making a Difference by Rutger Bregman

    Making a Living Without a Job by Barbara Winter 

    The War on Normal People by Andrew Yang

    Bullshit Jobs by David Graeber


    Support the show

    Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

    ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
    ~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

    Support the Show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2281161/supporters/new

    Email us: [email protected]. We love hearing from you! 

    50 min
  • Matriarchy: The Ultimate Uncaging?

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    Welcome to the Woman Uncaged Podcast Season 3, Episode 17!

    In this episode, we ask a bold and rarely explored question: What would life be like if we lived in a matriarchy?

    We dive into what that word really means, beyond the idea of simply putting women in charge, and explore the deeper values it might center: interdependence, collaboration, reciprocity, and community.

    We imagine what could be possible if we stepped away from the extractive, isolating norms of patriarchy and moved toward something more vibrant and life-affirming. What would shift if we truly believed that life is sacred? What would change if we honored the natural world, prioritized relationships, and pooled our resources?

    We also discuss the hidden costs of things we take for granted, like fencing off our homes, and the radical possibilities in gift economies and creative, collective living. This conversation is an invitation to reimagine the rules we live by and to dream into a future where we are all free and uncaged.

    Resources mentioned:
    Letters from a Young Matriarch by Nergiz (on Substack)

    The Dawn of Everything (book) by David Graeber and David Wengrow

    Bring Them Home: a documentary about the rematriation of the bison

    Support the show

    Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

    ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
    ~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

    Support the Show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2281161/supporters/new

    Email us: [email protected]. We love hearing from you! 

    40 min
  • Are you mothering your man?

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    Welcome to the Woman Uncaged Podcast Season 3, Episode 16!

    For those of us in heterosexual relationships, it can be very easy to get into the habit of mothering our men. It's not only socially acceptable, it's applauded! In this episode of Woman Uncaged, we explore how the mothering energy can be misplaced in our romantic relationships, what distinguishes mothering from simply caring, and what we lose out on as women as a result. We dive into over-functioning, how outdated gender roles can still play a part, and why women can get stuck being the "general manager" of the family. Listen in on a conversation that questions society's messages around roles and relationships, and invites uncaged women to turn towards what remains untended within themselves.


    Support the show

    Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

    ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
    ~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

    Support the Show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2281161/supporters/new

    Email us: [email protected]. We love hearing from you! 

    47 min
  • From Stuffed Closets to Starved Souls: Why Consumption Can’t Fill the Void

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    Welcome to the Woman Uncaged Podcast Season 3, Episode 15!

     
    We’ve all reached for something shiny—on a shelf, in a cart, online—hoping it might soothe a deeper ache. In this episode of Woman Uncaged, we explore the emotional undercurrents of consumer culture: the difference between needs and wants, the myth of retail therapy, and why we keep trying to fill inner emptiness with outer stuff. We talk about the culture of discard, the fear of feeling, and how longing—when misunderstood—can lead us to cluttered homes and hungry hearts. Tune in for a conversation that invites reflection, discernment, and a more satisfying way to meet your true needs.

    Mentioned Resources:
    "Buy Now" documentary on Netflix

    The Desire Map book by Danielle LaPorte

    Support the show

    Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

    ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
    ~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

    Support the Show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2281161/supporters/new

    Email us: [email protected]. We love hearing from you! 

    50 min
  • The Delicious Pull of an Erotic Life

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    Welcome to episode 14 of season 3 of the Woman Uncaged Podcast! Today's episode was inspired by Tamara of Museguided's recent substack on erotic decisions (found here: https://museguided.substack.com/p/erotic-decisions). 

    In this episode, we explore:

    - How we define the erotic 

    - How choosing desire over duty is an erotic decision

    - The role of feeling in the erotic 

    - Laura's recent year of following her intuitive, felt sense of knowing

    - The role of the unknown in our lives 

    - The juicy side effects of following our life force energy

    - The relationship of the erotic to autonomy and freedom

    - Being okay with other people's reactions to following our desire

    - The inherent risks involved in following our hearts

    - Trusting ourselves, trusting life, and trusting our ability to meet the moments of our lives

    - How our perceived identity can become another cage

    - Setting our desire free in small and large ways

    Resources:

    Museguided Substack on Erotic Decisions: https://museguided.substack.com/p/erotic-decisions

    Jeanette Winterson Quote from Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal: "I have noticed that doing the sensible thing is only a good idea when the decision is quite small. For the life-changing things, you must risk it,"

    Support the show

    Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

    ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
    ~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

    Support the Show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2281161/supporters/new

    Email us: [email protected]. We love hearing from you! 

    44 min
  • Revved Up & Rattled: Nervous System Wisdom for Uncaged Women

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    Welcome to the Woman Uncaged Podcast Season 3, Episode 13! 

    How does nervous system regulation relate to being uncaged? That's what we're talking about today.

    We discuss:

    • the badge of honor busyness can be
    • how a revved up nervous system has come to seem "normal"
    • how our push to maximize contributes
    • antidotes to stress
    • how we each work with our clients who are experiencing stress
    • the impact of our severance from nature on our lives
    • the importance of grounding and centering
    • what we each turn to for ourselves when we're experiencing stress

    What about you? How do you de-stress and regulate? We'd love to hear!



    Support the show

    Laura's Mastermind: https://www.carriebradley.com/mastermind

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul   

    ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
    ~Linda's Wild Woman in the Burbs: https://lindasewalliuskatz.substack.com/

    Support the Show: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2281161/supporters/new

    Email us: [email protected]. We love hearing from you! 

    38 min

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In these unfiltered, unedited conversations, Linda Katz and Laura Gates-Lupton get real about what it means to live full, joyous, and meaningful lives in a culture that continues to silence,…