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Do you struggle to make important decisions? If you suffer from self-doubt before, during or after, you know that indecisiveness is tantamount to self-torture. So, how can we learn to trust our decisions—and receive support from the universe? The answer lies in channeling the power of commitment.

Today on Women's Empowerment School, Sylvia is sharing the eighth chapter of her book, 12 Leadership Powers for Successful Women, 'The Power of Commitment.' She walks us through the six most common decision-making resistance patterns that plague women, making it difficult for us to make important decisions or causing decision-remorse once we have.

Sylvia goes on to share her definition of commitment and outline the five steps for harnessing its power to facilitate buy-in and attract resources from the universe. Listen in for insight around why honesty is key in unveiling the decision you have already made and learn how committing fully will move providence in your favor!

Why most of the decisions we make each day are subconscious

The common decision-making resistance patterns women face

1. Codependency
2. People pleasing
3. Perfectionism
4. Control issues
5. Fear of failure
6. Fear of success

What causes us to experience decision remorse

How Sylvia defines commitment as going all-in

5 steps to gaining the power of commitment

1. Be honest about decision-making patterns
2. Get support to overcome patterns that don't serve
3. Write down feelings before, during and after big decisions
4. Expect synchronicities in days after making commitment
5. Stay away from self-doubt after making decision

How commitment gives leaders energy and encourages buy-in

Why honesty is key in unveiling the decision you already made

How committing fully will move providence in your favor

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We have created a working culture where there is only space for Superwomen. So, we adopt an attitude of whatever-it-takes, leveraging the patriarchal strategies of dominance to reach our goals. And in the short-term, this approach is effective at getting results. But in the long-term, it kills the joy we have for our work, it kills the connections between us, our creativity and vitality—and in some cases, it even kills us.

Today, Sylvia challenges us to explore how the patriarchy influences the strategies we use to pursue our goals. She explains how we have assumed the guise of Superwomen to cope with a corporate culture designed for men by men, adopting dominance, hustling and efforting to get things done—at the expense of our health and wellbeing.

Sylvia also weighs in on the research around the arousal threshold, describing how men and women differ in terms of motivation and why leaders need to adapt their communication style accordingly. Listen in for insight on reframing vulnerability and authenticity as the strengths that they are and learn how we can drop our capes and bring our whole selves to work!

How the patriarchy influences the strategies we use to pursue goals

How Superwomen cope with working in a culture designed for men

How suffering from Superwoman Syndrome impacts our health

The strategies of dominance, hustle + efforting to get things done

Why patriarchal strategies work short-term but aren't sustainable

Reframing vulnerability and authenticity as the strengths they are

The differences between men and women in terms of motivation

The significance of bringing our whole selves to our work

Sylvia's invitation to drop our capes and feel safe being ourselves

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Where did your goals come from? Do they support your soul's longing? Or were they projected onto you by an outside force? Are you realizing your full potential, independent of external expectations?

Today, Sylvia encourages us to examine our goals and determine whether they align with our true desires and values. She describes the characteristics of the patriarchal culture we are swimming in, explaining how the collective subconscious impacts our thoughts and behavior—and why the patriarchy is not sustainable in the face of current global challenges.

Sylvia goes on to share the powerful story of her own decision to say NO to goals that did not align with her soul's longing, explaining her ambition to help other women live their full potential from the inside out. Listen in for insight on creating a true partnership between men and women and learn how to liberate yourself and make conscious choices around what goals to pursue!

How distinctions allow us to discern something in a deeper way

The characteristics of the patriarchal culture we swim in

Why we aren't aware of the impact the patriarchy has on us

Why the patriarchy is not sustainable in the face of global crises

Why inclusion in leadership teams is necessary to our survival

The impact of the status gap between men and women

When the patriarchy came to dominate world cultures

The trend to a true partnership between men and women

How the collective subconscious impacts how we think + act

How Sylvia defines the concept of EVElution

The patriarchy's basis in fear and safety through belonging

The disconnect between external expectations and true values

Sylvia's decision to live her full potential from the inside out

Saying NO to goals that are not aligned with our soul's longing

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Do you struggle with self-doubt? Are you worried people will find out you're a fraud? Do you have a hard time internalizing success? If you feel incompetent and inadequate, despite ample evidence to the contrary, you have a serious case of imposter syndrome. The good news is, there is a remedy that will help you examine that negative self-talk and transform your inner critic into an inner cheerleader!

Dr. Emee Vida Estacio is a chartered psychologist, bestselling author, keynote speaker, and life and leadership coach. She earned her BA in psychology from the University of the Philippines and her master's and PhD from City, University of London. Emee spent 10 years in academia, lecturing at Keele University in the realm of Community, Health and Positive Psychology. In 2017, she founded The PAME Code to support high-achieving professionals in overcoming imposter syndrome and unlocking their full potential. Emee is also the author of the three-book Psychology in Your Life Series: Change Your Life for Good, Imposter Syndrome Remedy and Fear is Not My Enemy.

Today, Emee joins Sylvia to share the personal struggle with self-doubt that triggered her passion to help others embrace their worth. She introduces the definition of imposter syndrome, describing the TLC technique she developed to explore your inner critic rather than fight it. Emee and Sylvia also walk us through several examples of harmful self-talk, discussing how to reframe performance-interfering thoughts to become performance-enhancing. Listen in for Emee's insight on overcoming imposter syndrome and learn to leverage her PAME Code to pursue a purposeful, fulfilling life!

Emee's background and education in health psychology

What triggered Emee's passion to help people embrace their true worth

Emee's personal struggle with self-worth after becoming a mom

Emee's PAME Code for living a fulfilling life

• Purpose
• Action
• Momentum
• Energy

How Emee defines imposter syndrome

• Persistent feeling of self-doubt, incompetence + inadequacy
• Despite evidence that proves otherwise

Emee's TLC technique for exploring your inner critic

1. Is it TRUE?
2. Is it LOGICAL?
3. Is it CONSTRUCTIVE?

The value in working through TLC with a trusted friend, mentor or coach

Reframing performance-interfering thoughts as performance-enhancing

Emee's caveat that structural change requires collective action

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Imposter Syndrome Remedy: How to Improve Your Self-Worth, Feel Confident About Yourself, and Stop Feeling Like a Fraud! by Dr. Emee Vida Estacio

Change Your Life for Good: Rediscover Your Best Self and Find Happiness Within by Dr. Emee Vida Estacio

Fear is Not My Enemy: Retrain Your Brain to Unlock Your Courage to Dream, Dare and Live by Dr. Emee Vida Estacio

The Enemy Between Your Ears WES EP007

The Power of Loving Your Ego WES EP015

Stop the Self-Sabotage WES EP025

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Memory is a fickle thing. You may be confident that your memory of an event is absolutely correct, yet someone else may remember the details very differently—and be just as confident that they're right. Most of us understand that remembering is subjective, but you may be surprised to learn that your biased memory influences the reality you create! When you project your memory of a person or situation (and added judgement) on current circumstances, people respond by living up to your expectations. How does this work? Can you use this creative power to script a different outcome?

Today on Women's Empowerment School, Sylvia is sharing the seventh chapter of her book, 12 Leadership Powers for Successful Women, 'The Power of Projection.' She explains why there is no such thing as an objectively stored memory, discussing the fluid nature of memory and how it changes over time.

Sylvia introduces the idea of remembering as a creative act, offering insight around how your judgement of a client or colleague based on previous experience impacts your behavior toward them—and proves your projection right when they mirror your body language! Listen in to understand the power you possess to co-create your world and learn how to script encounters so that people live up to your ideal vision.

Why there is no such thing as an objectively stored memory

The fluid nature of memory and how it changes over time

Sylvia's insight around how remembering is a creative act

How projections turn into expectations + impact our behavior

How mirror neurons make us feel connected via mimicry

Why people always live up to our expectations of them

How to script encounters so people embody our ideal vision

Taking ownership of everything we think, feel + experience

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For the last 7,000 years, power has been reserved for men. And though cultural norms are changing, many women continue to resist power, viewing it as an ugly or destructive force. How can we better understand our personal power paradigm? How can we step into our power without allowing it to corrupt our character? How can we learn to embrace power and feel safe doing so?

Today, Sylvia is helping us explore our personal power paradigm. She explains how a paradigm is influenced both by culture as well as our past experiences, walking us through a series of questions to explore how we perceived power as children and fully understand our initial positive or negative feelings toward it.

Sylvia then guides us through an assessment of how we experience power now, challenging us to compare our current understanding of power with that of early childhood. She addresses why many women continue to resist power and shares a practical exercise for feeling safe as we step into our power. Listen in for the neuroscientific research around power and empathy and learn how we can grow in our power—without losing compassion for others!

How a paradigm is influenced by culture + past experiences

The definition of power as the ability to produce an effect

How to uncover your personal power paradigm

• How did you perceive power as a child?
• Of the adults in your family, who had more power?
• How did you discern who had more power?
• How did power look? How did it sound?
• Did power have a positive or negative connotation?

Assessing how you experience power NOW

• How is power distributed at work?
• How do you sense power inside yourself?
• How do you behave when you feel powerful? Powerless?
• Does power have a positive or negative connotation?

The neuroscientific research around power and empathy

Why women need to feel safe stepping into our power

How to counterbalance the negative effects of gaining power

1. Stay grounded
2. Ask for feedback

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It's difficult enough to make progress toward our vision when we come up against challenging, unforeseen circumstances. But what about the situations where we get in our own way? How do we identify what aspect of ourselves is behind the disruption? And how do we ultimately protect ourselves from such self-sabotage?

Today, Sylvia is explaining how self-sabotage keeps us from honoring our commitments, describing the challenge around managing energy in circumstances beyond our control. She discusses how to identify the self in self-sabotage, making the distinction among the conscious and subconscious mind, the mature self and the inner child, and the higher self and the ego.

Sylvia also shares her top 5 strategies for making yourself self-sabotage-proof, exploring how a lack of clarity, motivation and alignment breed self-sabotage. Listen in to understand the role of a strong foundation in avoiding self-sabotage and learn why shared values are crucial in building a supportive team!

How self-sabotage keeps us from making progress to our vision

How to accept 100% responsibility + maintain healthy control

How to identify the self in self-sabotage

• Conscious vs. subconscious mind
• Mature self vs. inner child
• Higher self vs. ego

The 5 areas that breed self-sabotage

1. Lack of clarity
2. Lack of motivation
3. Lack of alignment
4. Lack of foundation
5. Lack of support

Why attitude and shared values are crucial in building a team

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Easter is an ideal time to feed your soul with the message of hope and abundance. To let go of what's gotten in your way and remind yourself of the ambitions you may have abandoned. To reexamine the big goals you are pursuing and breathe new life into your dreams.

Today, Sylvia is sharing the history of Easter, explaining why and how the date was chosen by the church. She discusses the springtime Pagan festivals celebrating the end of darkness and scarcity and honoring the goddess Ostara, an image of the power to give birth to new life.

Sylvia goes on to explore the egg as a symbol of the sun and the hope of new life as well as the rabbit as a sign of renewal and abundance. Listen in for Sylvia's challenge around breathing new life into your big goals and learn how to drop an outdated mindset and pursue your forgotten dreams!

The history of the Easter celebration and how the date was chosen

The Pagan festivals that celebrated the end of darkness + scarcity

How the goddess Ostara represents fertility and new life

How eggs serve as a symbol of hope and new life in the world

Why the church integrated Pagan festivals into Christian rituals

The rabbit's role in representing new life, hope and abundance

Sylvia's challenge around breathing new life into your goals

Dropping an outdated mindset to pursue your forgotten dreams

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A great summarizing article about the Pagan origins of Easter: www.ancient-origins.net/myths-legends/ancient-pagan-origins-easter-001571.

Prefer watching a video over reading? Enjoy this short video about the Pagan origins of Easter from the article above: www.youtube.com/watch?v=R3wW7S7oq-k&feature=youtu.be.

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We live in a culture that seems to revere pushing ourselves beyond the limits of what is healthy. We wear sleep deprivation as a badge of honor and move our own self-care to the bottom of the to-do list (if it makes the list at all) lest we be seen as selfish or vain. But how can we lead with power, clarity and grace if we are drained, irritable and low on energy?

Today on Women's Empowerment School, Sylvia is sharing the sixth chapter of her book, 12 Leadership Powers for Successful Women, 'The Power of Self-Care.' She explains the connection between our health and our performance as leaders and shares the distinction between high-achieving Superwomen who push themselves until they break down versus top performers who understand the value of taking breaks throughout the day.

Sylvia describes how neglecting your inner child leads to self-sabotage and stresses the importance of play in nurturing the human spirit. Finally, she walks us through a list of suggested healthy habits, giving you the opportunity to assess the current state of your self-care. Listen in for insight around why it really is vital to put your own oxygen mask on first—and learn to love your body, nurture your inner child, and rest and play daily!

The connection between our health and our performance as leaders

The tendency for high-achieving women to push until they break down

How top performers work in 90-minute cycles with 10 minutes of rest

Why it's crucial to get 8 hours of sleep and take power naps

The importance of play for creativity and to nurture the human spirit

Nurturing your inner child by checking in and scheduling celebration

Why so many women copy the way their mother lived and worked

Sylvia's suggested healthy habits

• Consistent bedtime and 8 hours sleep
• Regularly drink water + get fresh air
• Inner child check-ins, celebrate success
• Take short breaks every 90 minutes
• Eat healthy, fresh, nutritional foods
• Treat self to something special (monthly)
• Play time with friends one evening/week
• Seek stillness daily to reconnect with self

Why self-care is a necessity to be our at our best for everyone else

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WES EP022: The Evolutionary Woman's 7-Step Approach to Pursuing Goals

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In the US alone, a woman dies of a stress-related heart attack every 28 seconds. But what is causing this kind of life-threatening overwhelm and anxiety? No doubt a major contributor to the crisis lies in the way we work toward goals, as most of us take on the Superwoman archetype and push ourselves in a way that kills our results, kills our joy, and sometimes even kills us. The good news is, there is a better way—the Evolutionary Woman's 7-step approach to pursuing goals.

Today, Sylvia is sharing the fifth and final common mistake we make when setting and pursuing goals, wrong mechanics. She describes the characteristics of a recovering Superwoman, discussing the price this archetype pays in terms of her health and wellbeing. Sylvia then walks us through the Superwoman's unsustainable approach to pursuing goals as well as the Evolutionary Woman's authentic, alternative 7-step system. She compares the way a Superwoman identifies what's missing based on a patriarchal definition of success with the Evolutionary Woman's focus on what her inner guidance calls her to create for the greater good.

Sylvia goes on to explain how a Superwoman motivates herself with harsh inner yelling from a place of judgement and blame, while the Evolutionary Woman commits to listen and feel for answers, mapping out a plan complete with resources and support. Listen in to understand how the Superwoman's methodology often leads to unfulfilling results accompanied by overwhelm and learn how to instead walk the path of an Evolutionary Woman who manifests results and celebrates her learning from the journey!

The characteristics of a recovering Superwoman

The Superwoman's unsustainable approach to pursuing goals

1. Identify what's missing based on societal expectations
2. Define measurable goal to fix + fill painful gap
3. Commit to doing whatever it takes formulate plan
4. Motivate with harsh inner self-yelling (judgement + blame)
5. Self-sabotaging mechanism triggered to fight self-bullying
6. Either don't act OR push to workaholism and burnout
7. Either no results OR unfulfilling results

The Evolutionary Woman's 7-step approach to pursuing goals

1. Gratitude for accomplishments, put intention on heart
2. Ask inner guide what wants to be created for greater good
3. Commit to surrender + listen and feel for answers
4. Map out what heart felt, include resources and support
5. Honest about fears, work for 100% alignment with vision
6. Inspired action with daily reconnection to adjust strategy
7. Manifest results and celebrate learning from journey

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WES EP021: A Multidimensional Approach to Pursuing Your Goals

WES EP020: Goal Proof Yourself

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