Women's Grit & Grace ~Embrace Your Power as a Woman in Life & Love

Women today have more choices than ever before, so why are so many women unhappy and unsatisfied with their life and relationships? Turns out, if you are playing by the rules of being a well-behaved woman, happiness and satisfaction will elude you. 

What do I mean by being a well-behaved woman? A woman who makes nice, keeps quiet to keep the peace, doesn't rock the boat, and often feels resentment for doing so. A well-behaved woman often blames men for the state of the world when the truth is women's silence and absence of action contributes more to her unhappiness and discontent.

"The sins of the father" combines with "the silence of the mother" to create the world we live in. A world out of balance in it's humanity and a world which is calling to women to no longer be so nice and quiet. Join me as I share how women can leave the comfort of behaving nice and realize happiness and satisfaction in their life and relationships instead.

In every woman's life, there appears a bridge she must cross for realizing more of the happiness and peace she seeks. Yet too often, women instead look for a detour around healing the deep anger they feel at men, current and historical. And without facing their legacy of anger at men-rightly so, the life and relationships we seek as women cannot come into being.

Join me as I talk about this bridge calling for women to cross and how crossing this bridge is not giving men's bad behavior towards women a free pass. Nor is it a call to bury the past destructive actions of men against women. Rather, it is to face what is and to choose to lead in moving the story between women and men to a better place. Women's power to heal is vast and requires only the courage to surrender to the grace and power all women contain.

Join me as I share with you about this bridge and how the world-and men-await women's choice to cross this bridge. The world is weary of leadership with which life is not honored as sacred and tending to the needs of all a pipe dream. Join me as I invite you to cross your bridge and how you do not-nor can you-need to do so alone.

Claiming an identity as a victim has moved from awareness to a form of identity and relevance for many people. Yes, bad things happen to good people and God-or whatever you call what logic alone cannot explain-does not play by the rules of good and bad behavior being rewarded in kind. So how does one not get stuck in "woe is me" when your need for justice, or recognition of harm done to you, doesn't happen?

Choosing to claim-and live-the wisdom within every challenge in your life is not easy nor is it popular. The road less traveled is understanding there is a mystical quality to life as a human being which does not answer to the human desire for logic and control. Quite the contrary; the more invested you are in control, the less you will receive the glories and grace which only allowing the mystery of life will deliver.

Join me for this show in which I share however tempting it may be to make your bed with being a victim, it will only bring you further from the joys and wonder your life is meant to deliver to you. Mining the wisdom within what has brought you heartache may be more difficult at first, but the rewards for you are priceless.

Waking up to realizing you are in a relatinoship with a narcissist can feel overwhelming and confusing. When you realize that winning is more important to the other person than a relationship, what do you do? Healing from a relationship with a narcissist requires outside support and guidance, for what got you entangled with a narcissist will NOT get you untangled. 

Join me as I share about women's confusion about the compromising necessary for an intimate relationship vs knowing the signs of someone not availalble for relationship. It can be the perfect storm for women who are givers to be in relationship with men who only know how to take. Waking up to being in a relationship with a narcissist can feel really bad, and, taking the actions required to care for yourself is overwhelming without support and guidance for you to do so. 

This is an important topic for the times we live in and the healing we are seeking for creating happier relationships!

Leadership is often confused with authority and while there is overlap, there is a distinct difference. Women's leadership is more relationship based and includes the well-being of the people she is leading. Yet many women pull back from the word "leader" thinking they must lead has men have done and this confusion keeps many a woman from feeling effective and happy with both her relationships and her life.

Tune in and learn how to embrace the leader you are as a woman and how to relax into being effective in your relationships and your life. No longer buying into the belief of "either-or", women can help bring about a balance of leadership with men's form of leadership. Our times are calling for women to step more into their leadership and the power of their presence in their family and the world.

"Women carry shame and guilt about how they lack, about a perfection they have not realized. This burden of shame and guilt weighs all women down, the only variable being about what each of us feels shame or "not good enough" about.  Enough I say!

In today's show, I talk about how to shine a light where guilt now burdens you and where you shrink yourself in response to feeling you somehow lack. Yes, we are imperfect human beings...just as was intended. Perfection-the devil of lives not lived in joy and peace-is every woman's to no longer aspire to, in trade for living life in joy and peace!

Women's forms of power are different than men's forms of power, although that is not always the case in how women exercise their power at work and at home. And while I am all for having as many skill sets as possible in life, women often use alpha forms of power in their relationships which can leave men feeling unappreciated or women playing a 50's sitcom role. There is a difference in ways men and women can exercise power-do you know your ways of power (not manipulation) as a woman?

Join us as I talk about women's power in relationship-which I call "Being Queen"-can change the dynamics from alpha/beta style power to relationship power. Alpha/Beta power is power in which one person is dominant and the other/s subserviant and is old news in healthy relationships. Join me as I share this essential change in relationship dynamics for what creates a healthy and mutually supportive relationship.

It's Valentine's Day next week and the pressure is on! There are those who hate this holiday due to not being in a romantic relationship (or being in an unhappy marriage). Learning to love yourself at least as much as the love you give others is not selfish, but a smart way to care for yourself and those you love. Being in the business of helping people be happy in their life and relationships, I wish I had a nickel for every time a person got mad at someone because they were insisting that person be their only venue of love. Talk about performance pressure! And complicating the matter is how often the designated lover was in the same “waiting for love” game with them as well. Lots of needing love and not much giving love.

But here’s the truth-you can’t give what you don’t have and without your loving yourself, you are offering a conditional form of love. But why wait for it from another person who may or may not be able to give you just what you want? Love is not a commodity, it is a mystical marathon and perhaps the hardest choice to honor in a world which mistakes love for a commodity. Join me as I share how love is the most powerful choice you can make, but you will need to love yourself first for receiving what love truly offers.

Conflict is a fact of life and most people avoid conflict like the plague! Yet conflict comes when life knows there is a better solution, although change or letting go of control may be required. Relationships of all kinds-personal, professional, social-require engaging conflict for creating better relationships as well as solutions to problems.

Join me as I share some wisdom from my years of negotiating agreements between people who believed there was no way to come to an agreement they would like or want to participate in. And yet, time after time, solutions were reached which made all parties happier and gave their relationship another opportunity to get better. And given the world we live in, becoming more comfortable with conflict-and learning how to engage it successfully-can only benefit your peace of mind and heart.

if you were to look at your life with the eyes of your soul for reclaiming the "mistakes, the wrongs, the different" as footprints of your soul, how would you reclaim the story of your life? One less flawed and perhaps more truly yours? Or perhaps a story of becoming conscious of family patterns you were the chosen one to make conscious and evolve? Truth be told, looking through the eyes of your soul renders many wrongs, differences, failures as the jewels of your life from your soul's perspective.

Join me as I share how claiming your life as a holy journey will change much of what you now despair or are discouraged by. And how your challenges are holy catalysts for claiming the awesome powers and resources of your spirit and soul. Interesting times do not come withour the means to navigate and be victorious in them, if you know how to translate the language of your spirit and soul.