Episode 72: Busting Negative Self-Talk, Getting Back Into Training & The “so close but not Sub-20” 5K
Okay first things first… yes, we know. The mic situation. 😅
Hayles jumps on at the start to confess to a full technical microphone fail which makes her a little tricky to hear. We debated binning the episode… but decided the convo was too important not to share. Thanks for sticking with us it will be fixed by next week, promise.
And can we just say… 72 episodes?! What is happening. We are so grateful you’re still here with us.
This Week’s Running Recap
12K long run in beautiful Coffs Harbour
Spicy hill sessions (why do we do this to ourselves?)
Ran the 5K leg of a team triathlon in hot, hilly conditions
Our team placed 1st female + 2nd overall
According to Garmin… unclear.
According to the course distance… questionable. Basically No!!!! as the course even though an official race was not (from what we can tell) was the full 5km so Hayley is not prepared to claim it.
The Reality: Getting Back Into Training Is Hard
Post-holidays slump is real. Jussie chats about struggling to find rhythm again while building toward the Ultra-Trail Australia 50.
Motivation dips. Hills get skipped. The inner critic gets loud.
Which leads us into the heart of this episode…
Busting Negative Self-Talk (Without Pretending It Doesn’t Exist)
We unpack the work of Ethan Kross and his books Chatter and Shift — and how his tools can actually help runners.
Because negative self-talk doesn’t just affect elite athletes. It shows up for:
Mums returning to training
Anyone comparing themselves on social media
Anyone who has ever thought “I’m not good enough”
Tools We’re Trying (And You Can Too)
1️⃣ Distant Self-Talk
Instead of “I can’t do this,” try:
“You’ve done hard things before, Hayley.”
Using “you” or your own name creates psychological distance and helps you coach yourself instead of criticise yourself.
2️⃣ Create Rituals
Small pre-run routines signal calm and control:
Rituals reduce anxiety and ground your nervous system.
3️⃣ WOOP Method
Outcome
Obstacle
Outcome: Feel proud crossing the line
Plan: Tuesday = non-negotiable hill reps
Simple. Practical. Powerful.
4️⃣ Mental Time Travel
Fast-forward to the finish line. How will it feel?
Then time-travel backwards to your “ace in the hole” the toughest thing you’ve already conquered. You’ve survived worse. Your brain just needs reminding.
5️⃣ Reset Your Nervous System
Look at photos of people who support you
Spend 13 minutes in green space
Engage your senses: scent, music, touch
Your body needs regulation before your mind can shift.
6️⃣ Be a “Chatter Advisor”
Offer small practical help
Add appropriate affection
Don’t judge. Don’t immediately fix. Just be with them.
(And practice doing that for yourself.)
Why This Matters
The shame spiral of self-criticism is heavy. And we know so many women carry it silently.
If this episode does one thing, we hope it helps you realise:
You are not weak for having negative thoughts.
You are human.
And you can train your brain the same way you train your legs.
Thanks for being here for 72 episodes. We love this community more than you know.
Now we’re off to pick up our kids. 💛
The Women’s Running Collective