Woodland Christian Church Sermons | Biblical Teaching

A Wife’s Submission

Lesson 1: Submission is __________________ (Ephesians 5:23; 1 Corinthians 11:3).

Lesson 2: Submission is not:

(Part I) Done ______________ and __________________.

(Part II) A matter of ______________________ (John 6:38; Matthew 26:39).

Lesson 3: Submission means:

(Part I) Husbands still ____________ to their __________ (Genesis 2:18).

(Part II) A wife puts her husband in a ________________ to ________.

(Part III) A wife ________________ her husband even though she disagrees with him.

(Part IV) A wife ____________ ______ (1 Peter 3:5–6).

(Part V) A wife keeps her strength __________ ______________.

Lesson 4: (Part I) Husbands ____________ __________ when they’re wrong (Part II) and wives shouldn’t say, “__ ________ ______ ____!”

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Husband asks wife:

How do I make it hard for you to submit to me?

How do I make it easier for you to submit to me?

Do you feel like I listen to your thoughts when it comes to making decisions?

Do you feel like I admit when I’m wrong, or do I make excuses and shift blame?

Wife asks husband:

Do you feel like I submit “kicking and screaming”?

Do you feel like I put you in a position to lead?

Do you feel like I take control of situations or decisions that should be left to you? Do you feel like I say, “I told you so!”?

Practical Application from Old Testament Relationships

Lesson 1: The danger of passive men and controlling women is shown by:

(Part I) ______________ and __________ (Genesis 16:1-2).

(Part II) ________ and ______________ (1 Kings 21:7-25).

Lesson 2: Husbands mistreat their wives when they respond:

(Part I) ____ __________ (Genesis 30:1-2).

(Part II) ____________________ (1 Samuel 1:6-8; Proverbs 25:20).

Lesson 3: Michal shows a wife can ________ her husband without ____________________ him (Part II) which can ____________ his ________________ toward her (1 Samuel 18:20; 2 Samuel 6:16-23, 2 Samuel 3:12-13).

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Husband asks wife:

Do you feel like I respond to you in anger or pride?

Do you feel like my feelings toward you have changed in a positive way from you respecting me, or in a negative way from you disrespecting me?

What do I do that makes it easier for you to respect me? Harder?

Do you feel like I withhold affection from you like David did with Michal?

Wife asks husband:

Do you feel like I stir you up for good…or evil?

Thinking about the account with Rachel and Jacob, do you feel like I:

Act melodramatically like she did?

Take my frustrations out on you?

Covet what other women have?

Do you feel like I respect you? What do I do that makes you feel respected? Disrespected?

Do you feel like I talk down to you like Michal did with David?

Temptations Facing Husbands and Wives

Lesson 1: As we begin, make the decision to:

(Part I) Focus on ________ ____________________ more than your spouse’s.

(Part II) Turn your frustrations ________ ____________.

(Part III) Recognize your marriage is a reflection of your ________________________ with ____________.

Lesson 2: God created headship before ______ ________ (Genesis 2:16-17).

Lesson 3: Wives are tempted to:

(Part I) ______________ their husbands (Genesis 3:16 cf. 4:7).

(Part II) ______ their husbands (Proverbs 19:13b, 21:9, 19, 25:24, 27:15–16).

Lesson 4: Husbands are tempted to:

(Part I) Be ________________ (Genesis 3:16).

(Part II) ________________ their wives (Colossians 3:19; Genesis 3:16).

(Part III) Be ______________ (Genesis 3:17).

Lesson 5: Reverse the effects of The Fall by ______________ God’s ________________ for marriage.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Husband asks wife:

Do you feel like I am stubborn?

Do you feel like I am harsh or authoritarian with you?

Do you feel like I am passive?

Wife asks husband:

Do you feel like I try to control you?

Do you feel like I try to help you?

Do you feel like I nag you?

“Husbands, love…”

Original language: ________________

Main emphasis of this passage for husbands:

What action comes immediately after “_____________________________”? - what did Christ do?

Main characteristic of Christ’s love is “____________________________”.

Please, remember it this way: I get to love my wife in the same _______________ Christ loved the church, not for the same __________________.

Main actions Christ performed toward his bride.

Aside to wives: _____________ for your husband in his main role: ______________________ love.

Resist the temptation to ______________________ your husband against the actions of Christ in this passage.

Look for

________________ Christ has already done.

________________ Christ has done these things.

Main (________________) command for husbands.

Therefore, “________________ are husbands to love their wives like Christ loved the church?”

A few practical suggestions:

#1 Make an accurate assessment of your ________________

#2 ________________ to ask good ________________

#3 ________________ in your ________________ and ability to effectively communicate

Larger context

Eph. 5:1-2 - ________________God

Eph. 4:1-3 - ________________ your daily walk in light of your responsibility and opportunity to love your wife sacrificially

Work together to list out the ________________ and blessings you have because you are “in Christ”, from Eph.1-3, and then ask:

“Why does this matter to me as a husband?”, or “Why does this matter to me as a wife?”

“What should I do about in response?” (start; stop; continue)

QUESTIONS for DISCUSSION:

Before today if I was to ask your wife, “What does your husband take joy in?”, how would she answer that question? If I were to ask your children “What does your dad delight in?”, how would they answer that question? What about a business associate? What tone of voice do you use when you talk about your wife?

If we are to love our wives as Christ loved the church, what other action words are there in this passage that we could potentially emphasize? What should wives do as they consider their husband's main responsibility according to this passage? What should wives not do?

If you are a Christian, should you be growing and changing - even if the changes and growth are so slight that it is hard to see on a daily basis? Was there a season in your life where you got to know your wife very very well?  Can you get by in your daily life as a husband with only the knowledge you gained back then?

Pastor Doug—Communicating for the Glory of God in Your Marriage: Ephesians 4:25-32

4 Communication Principles that Glorify God

Be ______________ (Eph. 4:25)

Keep ______________ (Eph. 4:26-27)

Address the ______________, do not attack the ______________ (Eph. 4:29-30)

______________, don’t ______________ (Eph. 4:31-32)

A ‘good marriage’... A. who you are now, in Christ, and…B. who you were before God saved you through your faith in Jesus.

3 answers from Ephesians 1:3-4

3 answers from Ephesians 2:1-3

The Gospel Should Impact Your Communication

The Gospel of Jesus Christ is...

… ______________  and  ______________ (Eph. 2:13-16)

… ______________ for the purpose of ______________ (Eph. 2:17)

… for ______________ and ______________ (Eph. 2:18-19)

CONCLUSION:

God’s ultimate purpose in marriage is for...

QUESTIONS for DISCUSSION:

What is the only thing Satan needs to destroy a marriage?

Which issues do you confront and which issues do you cover with love? How do we determine what we should address, or not?

What was the most recent encouragement you received? What true, edifying, and encouraging words can you say or write to your spouse? When will you do it? How often do you think your spouse would appreciate this type of encouragement or affirmation?

Ask your spouse: “What words do I commonly use that you would prefer I stop using?”

Who are you “in Christ”? Who were you before God saved you?

What did Jesus’s work on the cross unify and destroy?

What’s the difference between ‘peace-keeping’ and ‘peacemaking’?

When you remember the gospel is for both of you, what impact should that have on your marriage? On your communication in your marriage?

Sex in the Old Testament - an Overview of God’s Intention in His Gift of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

Genesis ___ - ___

Genesis ___

Proverbs ___: ___ - ___

Are there other intentions in God’s Gift of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage?

Something __________________ ourselves…

...something that can come __________________ ourselves…

...and something that can __________________ ourselves.

The Challenges that Stand in the Way of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

__________________ Past

__________________ Past

Other Challenges

“What is okay?” - Biblical Principles for Sexual Activity in Your Marriage

__________________?

__________________?

__________________  or  __________________?

__________________?

QUESTIONS for DISCUSSION:

What sticks out to you, from this session? Something interesting? Convicting? Encouraging? Confusing? Comforting?

How can God’s original design (before sin) influence you towards changes you need to make regarding your role in the sexual intimacy in your marriage?

What about in section III - what other intentions are significant to you, and why? Have you ever known someone who (with their spouse) entered into a specific season of sexual abstinence in order to be devoted to prayer?

What challenges regarding your past still persist? What step(s) can you take to address them?

What is “okay”, in your marriage? What was the last thing you and your spouse discussed together in this regard? Do you talk about sex at all? Why or why not?

What step(s) will you take together to honor God’s intention in his gift of sexual intimacy to you and your spouse? Who will you tell for the sake of encouragement and accountability?

A Wife’s Submission

Lesson 1: Submission is __________________ (Ephesians 5:23; 1 Corinthians 11:3).

Lesson 2: Submission is not:

(Part I) Done ______________ and __________________.

(Part II) A matter of ______________________ (John 6:38; Matthew 26:39).

Lesson 3: Submission means:

(Part I) Husbands still ____________ to their __________ (Genesis 2:18).

(Part II) A wife puts her husband in a ________________ to ________.

(Part III) A wife ________________ her husband even though she disagrees with him.

(Part IV) A wife ____________ ______ (1 Peter 3:5–6).

(Part V) A wife keeps her strength __________ ______________.

Lesson 4: (Part I) Husbands ____________ __________ when they’re wrong (Part II) and wives shouldn’t say, “__ ________ ______ ____!”

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Husband asks wife:

How do I make it hard for you to submit to me?

How do I make it easier for you to submit to me?

Do you feel like I listen to your thoughts when it comes to making decisions?

Do you feel like I admit when I’m wrong, or do I make excuses and shift blame?

Wife asks husband:

Do you feel like I submit “kicking and screaming”?

Do you feel like I put you in a position to lead?

Do you feel like I take control of situations or decisions that should be left to you? Do you feel like I say, “I told you so!”?

Practical Application from Old Testament Relationships

Lesson 1: The danger of passive men and controlling women is shown by:

(Part I) ______________ and __________ (Genesis 16:1-2).

(Part II) ________ and ______________ (1 Kings 21:7-25).

Lesson 2: Husbands mistreat their wives when they respond:

(Part I) ____ __________ (Genesis 30:1-2).

(Part II) ____________________ (1 Samuel 1:6-8; Proverbs 25:20).

Lesson 3: Michal shows a wife can ________ her husband without ____________________ him (Part II) which can ____________ his ________________ toward her (1 Samuel 18:20; 2 Samuel 6:16-23, 2 Samuel 3:12-13).

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Husband asks wife:

Do you feel like I respond to you in anger or pride?

Do you feel like my feelings toward you have changed in a positive way from you respecting me, or in a negative way from you disrespecting me?

What do I do that makes it easier for you to respect me? Harder?

Do you feel like I withhold affection from you like David did with Michal?

Wife asks husband:

Do you feel like I stir you up for good…or evil?

Thinking about the account with Rachel and Jacob, do you feel like I:

Act melodramatically like she did?

Take my frustrations out on you?

Covet what other women have?

Do you feel like I respect you? What do I do that makes you feel respected? Disrespected?

Do you feel like I talk down to you like Michal did with David?

Temptations Facing Husbands and Wives

Lesson 1: As we begin, make the decision to:

(Part I) Focus on ________ ____________________ more than your spouse’s.

(Part II) Turn your frustrations ________ ____________.

(Part III) Recognize your marriage is a reflection of your ________________________ with ____________.

Lesson 2: God created headship before ______ ________ (Genesis 2:16-17).

Lesson 3: Wives are tempted to:

(Part I) ______________ their husbands (Genesis 3:16 cf. 4:7).

(Part II) ______ their husbands (Proverbs 19:13b, 21:9, 19, 25:24, 27:15–16).

Lesson 4: Husbands are tempted to:

(Part I) Be ________________ (Genesis 3:16).

(Part II) ________________ their wives (Colossians 3:19; Genesis 3:16).

(Part III) Be ______________ (Genesis 3:17).

Lesson 5: Reverse the effects of The Fall by ______________ God’s ________________ for marriage.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Husband asks wife:

Do you feel like I am stubborn?

Do you feel like I am harsh or authoritarian with you?

Do you feel like I am passive?

Wife asks husband:

Do you feel like I try to control you?

Do you feel like I try to help you?

Do you feel like I nag you?