Song of Songs presents a an ideal couple - and their eyes are only for each other. When problems come up, they don’t work through the problems by dwelling on past potential spouses, or imagining life without each other, they work it out together, because love is a chosen pursuit. She’s an aggressor, she takes offense on the relationship, the romance. She voices it, “Hey, I know you’re busy, make time for me.”
He’s gracious, he’s accommodating, he does more than just say, “Okay, I guess,” he makes it fun. Love draws each other out. And love is a chosen pursuit.