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Have you ever used your giving to steer decisions or send a message?

It might seem harmless—or even wise—to designate your gift to specific ministries or withhold it when you disagree with leadership. But when our generosity becomes a tool for control, we’ve crossed a line. In this episode, we’ll explore the subtle danger of using giving as leverage—and discover a better way rooted in surrender and trust.

Let’s be honest—no one likes the word control when it’s pointed at them. But in church life, this temptation surfaces more often than we’d like to admit.

It might look like this:

• Giving only to certain ministries because you don’t trust how the church allocates general funds.
• Withholding your giving when a leadership decision—like a staffing change or budget shift—doesn’t sit well with you.
• Designating gifts to specific areas, not out of passion, but as a form of protest.

On the surface, it may look like good financial stewardship. But beneath the surface, it’s often an attempt to say, “I want things to go my way, and I’ll use my money to make that happen.”

That’s not generosity. That’s leverage. And Scripture warns us against it.

In Mark 7, Jesus confronts the Pharisees for misusing a practice called Corban—a method of dedicating money or resources to God. While it sounded spiritual, the religious leaders were using it to dodge their responsibility to care for aging parents.

As GotQuestions.org explains:

“The Pharisees took a legitimate Corban offering and used it in an illegitimate and devious way to defraud their parents…Jesus tells the Pharisees that their misuse of Corban was an evil rationale to avoid doing what they should.”

It wasn’t the gift itself that Jesus condemned—it was the motive behind it.

In the same way, when we give to maintain control or push our preferences, we’re following the spirit of Corban. Even if our reasons sound righteous, they can mask a deeper issue: an unwillingness to surrender.

The Bible offers a better vision.

Psalm 24:1 reminds us,

“The earth is the Lord’s, and everything in it.”

That includes our finances. We don’t give to direct the church. We give because God owns it all—and calls us to steward it faithfully.

Consider the example in Acts 4. Believers sold land and possessions, then laid the proceeds at the apostles’ feet. No strings attached. No demands were made about how it was to be used. Just trust, unity, and wholehearted surrender.

Of course, that doesn’t mean churches shouldn’t be transparent or held accountable. Scripture calls leaders to wise and faithful stewardship. But giving with strings isn’t about accountability—it’s about control. And control is the opposite of trust.

Ask yourself: What’s driving my giving?

• Is it love for God?
• Faith in His provision?
• Worship and gratitude?

Or is it something else?

• Preference?
• Power?
• Payback?

When giving becomes conditional, it’s no longer cheerful—it’s contractual. We treat God’s work like a business deal instead of a spiritual act of worship.

But when we let go of control, something beautiful happens: we find peace. We no longer feel the pressure to manage every church decision. We can give freely, knowing God is at work—even when His ways don’t align with our expectations.

If you realize that control has been influencing your giving, here are three steps to take:

1. Confess it to the Lord. God is gracious and patient. Ask Him to realign your heart with His and help you give from a

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