Words & Contemplations

In this episode of Words & Contemplations, Fai shares a reading of “What Anxiety Actually Is (And Why Telling Yourself to Calm Down Doesn’t Work).”

Anxiety isn't simply something we can think our way out of. This reflection explores what happens when the nervous system senses threat, why trying to force yourself to calm down can sometimes make things feel worse, and what it might look like to meet anxiety with more understanding instead of resistance.

A grounded exploration of anxiety, the nervous system, self-awareness and the small shifts that can help us feel safer within ourselves.

For anyone who has ever been told to “just calm down” while feeling anything but calm.

A gentle 6-minute Yoga Nidra practice from the Contemplations app. A short guided pause to help you step out of the noise of the day, settle your body and return to yourself.

You don't need to know how to practice Yoga Nidra, simply lie down, get comfortable and let yourself be guided. Perfect for a quick reset, before sleep, or whenever you need a moment of stillness.

For longer practices, meditations, breathwork, nervous system resets and somatic movments please explore the Contemplations app:

Download on iOS: [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/contemplations/id6759760549]
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Take six minutes. Nothing to achieve. Just rest.

In this episode of Words & Contemplations, Fai shares a reading of “What Biohacking Gets Wrong About Wellness: Why You Can’t Optimise Your Way to Okay.”

A thoughtful reflection on the growing obsession with optimisation, tracking and becoming a better version of ourselves, this episode asks whether wellness has become another thing we feel we need to get right.

From sleep scores and supplements to routines, movement and nervous system practices, there is value in caring for ourselve, but there is also a point where trying to optimise everything can take us further away from simply being human.

This is a gentle reminder that wellbeing isn't a performance, and you don't need to perfect yourself to feel okay. Sometimes the most valuable thing you can do is stop measuring, stop fixing and listen to what you actually need.

In this episode of Words & Contemplations, Fai reflects on what has happened since she first started writing this blog and why, after everything that has changed, she is still here.

What began as a place to put words has become something much more personal: a record of change, uncertainty, leaving behind an old life and slowly building something new. This episode looks back at the experiences, questions and lessons that have shaped the journey, while acknowledging that some things don't become clear until much later.

A personal reflection on starting again, finding your way through change, and continuing to write even when you don't have all the answers.

Because sometimes the reason we keep going isn't because we've figured it out. It's because, somewhere along the way, we realise we still have something to say.

Interested in the Contemplations App

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In this episode of Words & Contemplations, Fai shares a reading of “The 5 Stages of Burnout: How to Know Where You Are.”

Burnout rarely happens all at once. It can build quietly through the way we work, think, cope and keep going, often long before we realise just how depleted we have become.

This reflection explores the different stages of burnout and some of the signs that can appear along the way, from pushing through and ignoring the signals to exhaustion, disconnection and the need to recover. It’s an invitation to become more aware of where you are, rather than waiting until your body forces you to stop.

A grounded exploration of burnout, stress, nervous system regulation, rest and the importance of listening to what your body has been trying to tell you.

Sometimes awareness is the first step towards doing things differently.

In this episode of Words & Contemplations, Fai shares a reading of “I Took the Hard Road. They Said It Had the Best Views.” A personal reflection on choosing the less certain path, walking away from what no longer fits, and learning to trust yourself when there is no guarantee that everything will work out.

The hard road isn't always the brave or noble choice. Sometimes it's simply the honest one. This piece explores the discomfort of leaving behind the familiar, the fear that comes with starting again, and the unexpected beauty that can be found when you stop living according to someone else's definition of success.

A reflection on courage, self-trust, change and the quiet realisation that sometimes the view only becomes visible once you're willing to take the road.

In this episode of Words & Contemplations, Fai shares a reading of “The Meadow of Memories: What If Every Experience You've Had Deserves Equal Ground?” A gentle reflection on the way we carry our past, and the stories we choose to give more weight to than others.

What if the joyful moments, the painful ones, the ordinary days and the experiences we would rather forget all belong in the same landscape of who we have become? This piece explores memory, acceptance and the possibility of looking back without needing to rewrite or reject any part of the journey.

A quiet contemplation on making peace with your past, allowing every experience to have its place, and recognising that your life is not defined by any single moment, but by everything you've lived, felt and carried along the way.

In this episode of Words & Contemplations, Fai shares a deeply personal reflection on quietly leaving a life that no longer felt like a place where she could be fully herself.

Sometimes we don't leave with a clear plan or a perfect explanation. Sometimes we simply reach a point where staying costs more than walking away. This is a reflection on the grief of leaving, the uncertainty of starting again, and the clarity that comes when you stop needing other people to understand your version of the story.

It's about choosing yourself when the path ahead isn't certain, rebuilding your relationship with who you are, and discovering that what you gain through self-trust can be worth far more than what you leave behind.

A personal story of change, self-worth, courage and beginning again, one moment, one pause, one practice at a time.

It also introduces the Contemplations App. Fai and Ben (her programmer husband) have built this for you, for the moments you need to mark with a gentle pause rather than a forcing.

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In this episode of Words & Contemplations, Fai shares a deeply personal reflection on what love really looks like when you have lived it, rather than simply imagined it.

Moving beyond the romance of milestones and fairytales, this piece explores the quieter truth of lasting love, the kind built through shared history, difficult seasons, ordinary days and the freedom to be completely yourself with another person.

A tender reflection on partnership, selfless love, the home we find in another person's heart, and the life we become because of everything we've shared.

A love letter to the person who has witnessed it all, and stayed.

In this episode of Words & Contemplations, Fai shares a reflection on “Burnout” by Emily Nagoski, a book that changed the way she understands stress, burnout and what it actually means to move through difficult experiences.

Exploring the idea of the stress cycle and the difference between experiencing stress and completing the body's response to it, this episode looks at why simply removing the source of stress isn't always enough. Sometimes the body needs something different: a chance to move, release, rest and return to a sense of safety.

A thoughtful and personal exploration of burnout, stress, the nervous system and the importance of understanding what our bodies are asking for when life feels like too much.