Let’s be real… some of us are not being ourselves. We’re managing perception.

In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, Frankie Lubin, aka Mr. Made Different, and co-host Alexis Gillespie talk about identity, people-pleasing, code switching, authenticity, and the pressure to become a different version of yourself in every room.

Do you act one way at work, another way with friends, another way at church, another way with family, and another way at home? At some point, that gets tiring. You start losing track of who you really are.

This conversation is for the approval seekers, overthinkers, performers, and people-pleasers who are tired of living for validation. You don’t need more approval. You need identity.

In this episode, we talk about:

Why managing perception is so exhausting
The difference between adapting and pretending
How code switching can become people-pleasing
Why you don’t have anything to prove
How to know if you’re showing up authentically
Why consistency matters in your identity
How to stop shrinking yourself in certain rooms

You were made different to make a difference. Stop performing. Start becoming.

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Are you building a real business… or just trying to be liked?

In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, Frankie Lubin and Alexis Gillespie break down the truth about people pleasing in business—and how it’s quietly holding you back from growth, confidence, and real success.

If you struggle with:

• Saying yes when you should say no
• Overworking to prove your value
• Fear of how people perceive you
• Burnout in your business or job

This conversation is for you.

We dive into the difference between strategy vs fear, how people pleasing shows up in the workplace, and how to set boundaries without sabotaging your reputation.

This isn’t surface-level motivation—this is real talk that will challenge how you show up in business and in life.

• Why people pleasing is hurting your business
• Strategy vs fear: how to tell the difference
• How to set boundaries at work without losing respect
• Why saying “yes” too much leads to burnout
• How to build confidence in your decisions

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Most people think burnout comes from doing too much…
But what if it’s coming from who you’re trying to be for everyone else?

In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, we unpack the real reason so many people feel drained, overwhelmed, and mentally exhausted—and it’s deeper than just work.

It’s people pleasing.
It’s overcommitting.
It’s losing your identity trying to keep everyone else happy.

This conversation will challenge you to look at yourself differently…
Because you might not be tired from life—
👉 You might be tired from never choosing yourself.

⏱️ In this episode:
Why people pleasing leads to burnout
The hidden cost of always being “the reliable one”
How identity confusion keeps you stuck
Why saying “no” feels uncomfortable (but is necessary)
How to stop overextending yourself and start setting boundaries
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Have you ever been so busy trying to keep everyone happy that you forgot to take care of yourself?
Faye Mattox did — and it caught up with her at 62 years old in the form of an anxiety breakdown that left her in her room for six months, unable to work, unable to function, and barely able to pray.
In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, Faye gets raw about a lifetime of people pleasing, control, and performing for everyone's approval — starting from losing her father at age 3, hearing she'd "never be nothing" at 13, all the way to hitting a wall decades later when her body finally said enough.
But this isn't just a breakdown story. It's a breakthrough story.
Faye shares how God used her lowest moment to strip away the approval-seeking, quiet the noise, and bring her back to the only audience that matters.
In this episode:

Why high-achieving people pleasers are often the most at risk for burnout
How the words spoken over you as a child can quietly run your adult life
What happened when Faye anointed her daughter's shoes — and her daughter walked again in 8 months
The moment a 6-year-old spoke with a voice that wasn't her own
Why your only audience should be God — not people

If you're exhausted from saying yes when God is saying no, this episode is for you.

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f you say yes when you mean no, this episode is for you. In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, Frankie Lubin breaks down why people pleasing has nothing to do with having a big heart — and everything to do with fear. Fear of being alone. Fear of being replaced. Fear of losing people who may not even really have you.
Frankie gets real about his own struggle — resetting the clock on promises he made to himself, going back to old habits just to fit in, and what it finally took to break free. This one hits different because it's not just preached — it's lived.
In this episode:

Why people pleasing is rooted in fear, not kindness
How the need for approval destroys your boundaries
Why transition seasons feel so lonely — and why that's okay
How to stop seeking validation from people and start standing on God's word

Scriptures referenced: Galatians 1:10 — Proverbs 4:23 — John 8:32
If you're tired of showing up for everybody else while saying no to yourself, this episode will give you the push you need.
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What does it cost to perform for everyone your whole life?

Alexis Gillespie found out the hard way.

Two overdoses. A near-fatal car accident that put her in a wheelchair for months. The death of her father — less than a year later. And somewhere inside all of it, lying in her Nashville apartment with her Bible, she heard four words that changed everything: "You're not doing this right."

In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, Frankie Lubin sits down with educator, discipleship leader, and Drip Cold Press Juices founder Alexis Gillespie for one of the most raw, unfiltered conversations the podcast has had yet.

Alexis didn't just lose her old life — she had to grieve a version of herself she'd been performing since childhood. A little girl who learned that love had to be earned. A woman who changed who she was in every room, for every person, just to feel like enough.

Until God said: enough performing. Time to rest.

In this episode: ✦ Why people-pleasing is an identity trap — and how to recognize it in yourself ✦ The accidents & overdoses that cracked her open to God ✦ Healing a father wound — and why she tells every woman: don't wait ✦ How counseling + faith together accelerated her transformation ✦ What men get dangerously wrong about identity and emotional strength ✦ What a spiritually attractive man actually looks like (from a woman who knows)

If you've been performing your way through life — for your family, your followers, your friends — this episode is your permission to stop.

Identity built on performance will always collapse. Identity built on truth will hold.

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Most men think rebuilding themselves means starting over — leaving the relationship, walking away from the life they built, burning it all down. That's not what God is calling you to do.

In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, Frankie Lubin breaks down how to rebuild your identity from right where you are — already in the relationship, already have the kids, already carrying the weight. We walk through three powerful points: the difference between starting over and rebuilding in place, why your life is reflecting exactly what's in your heart, and why surrendering is the most masculine thing a man can do.

If you heard last week's episode on the three reasons men lose themselves in relationships and thought "it's too late for me" — this episode is your answer.

Scriptures covered: Ezekiel 36:26 | Proverbs 27:19 | Romans 8:6

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Many men don’t lose their relationships — they lose themselves inside the relationship.

In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, Frankie Lubin (Mr. Made Different) breaks down the deeper issue behind many relationship struggles: identity.

When a man doesn’t know who he is, he begins to adapt to his environment, chase validation, and build relationships before he has built himself. Over time this leads to confusion, frustration, and loss of purpose.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• Why men lose themselves in relationships
• How identity affects relationships and leadership
• Why chasing validation destroys purpose
• Why men must build themselves before building a relationship
• How reconnecting with God stabilizes a man’s identity

Frankie shares biblical insight, personal reflection, and practical wisdom to help men rebuild their identity and realign their lives with purpose.

If you’ve ever felt lost in a relationship, disconnected from your purpose, or unsure about the man you’re becoming, this episode will challenge and encourage you.

This podcast is part of the Made Different movement — helping men reclaim their identity through faith, discipline, and responsibility.

Listen to the Words of Encouragement Podcast for conversations about identity, faith, masculinity, purpose, and personal transformation.

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You can win in business, stay disciplined, and still feel stuck in love.

In this episode of Words of Encouragement, we talk to relationship coach Alan Watts (The Love Engineer) about why high-performing men keep repeating the same relationship patterns—just with a different face. We get honest about childhood wounds, identity, masculine rebuilding, and the accountability most people avoid.

This conversation is for the man who keeps thinking, “If I level up more, love will get easier.” It won’t—until you do the inner work. If you’re tired of confusing attraction for connection, ignoring emotional safety, or carrying the relationship on your back, this is your wake-up call.

Key ideas we cover:

• Why “success” doesn’t heal your nervous system
• Relationship patterns and how they form
• Emotional safety, communication, and boundaries that actually hold
• Childhood programming and identity wounds that keep showing up
• Becoming the right one instead of chasing the right one

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You’re disciplined.
You pray.
You show up.
You’ve cleaned up your habits.

So why do you still feel lost?

In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, we break down the real reason high-functioning believers and disciplined men still feel confused, disconnected, or unsettled — even when they’re doing everything “right.”

This isn’t about laziness.
This isn’t about sin.
This is about identity.

We unpack two powerful scriptures — Romans 12:2 and Matthew 11:28–30 — and reveal:

• Why behavior change doesn’t automatically bring clarity
• The difference between conformity and transformation
• How renewing your mind affects identity stability
• Why spiritual exhaustion often comes from carrying faith incorrectly
• What it really means to feel lost during growth

If you’ve ever searched:

“Why do I feel lost in life?”
“Why am I doing everything right but still unhappy?”
“Why do I feel disconnected from God?”
“Why do I feel behind even though I’m disciplined?”

This conversation is for you.

You may not be lost.
You may be mid-renovation.

When identity shifts, stability disappears before clarity arrives.

And that doesn’t mean you’re failing.
It means you’re transforming.

If you’re in a season of rebuilding and don’t want to do it alone, join the Made Different community. We go deeper than surface motivation — real identity work, real faith conversations, real growth.

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If this episode spoke to you and you’re in a rebuilding season, don’t isolate.

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We carry the weight together.

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