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Our text today is Judges 12:2-3.

And Jephthah said to them, "I and my people had a great dispute with the Ammonites, and when I called you, you did not save me from their hand. And when I saw that you would not save me, I took my life in my hand and crossed over against the Ammonites, and the Lord gave them into my hand. Why then have you come up to me this day to fight against me?" — Judges 12:2-3

Jephthah answered Ephraim's accusation with facts, not feelings—he reminded them that he had called for help, but they didn't show up for the fight. He recounted his risk, his faith, and God's victory. Everything he said was true.

But the problem is that facts about the truth aren't always enough to resolve a conflict. His words successfully defended himself, but they didn't defuse the situation. Ephraim was already swelling with pride, and Jephthah's factual defensiveness only pushed them further toward war. The tragedy that followed began here—with words that clarified but didn't reconcile.

Conflict isn't just about what's true—it's about how truth is spoken. We can be factually right but relationally wrong. Words meant to defend can still escalate if they come from a place of pride, frustration, or defensiveness.

James 1:19 says, "Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger." But when we reverse the order, and we are slow to listen and fast to defend, relationships fracture. Leaders especially must weigh their words carefully, because words can either be water for peace or fuel for war.

Think about your own conflicts—with your spouse, your kids, your coworkers, or your church family. Do you defend yourself first, or defuse the argument first? Do your words aim to win the argument or to win the person? The difference often determines whether conflict escalates or dissolves. Let's be men and women who lead well by listening well.

ASK THIS:

1. In my last conflict, did my words escalate or defuse?
2. Am I more focused on proving my point or preserving unity?
3. How can I practice being "quick to hear, slow to speak" this week?

DO THIS:

The next time you face a conflict, pause before speaking. Pray for God's wisdom, listen fully, and choose words that heal rather than harm.

PRAY THIS:

Lord, teach me to use words that build peace, not walls. Guard me from defensiveness, and give me wisdom to know when to speak, when to listen, and when to stay silent. Amen.

PLAY THIS:

"Slow to Anger."