Growing up a Graham, I’m used to living my life in the public eye. Negative comments or assumptions about me and my family don’t really phase me, but a recent Instagram message did give me pause: “Your grandparents would be so disappointed in you.” Now, I didn’t actually believe this was true, but the message did make me stop and think, what would my grandparents, Billy and Ruth Graham, think of me and how I’ve chosen to live my life? 

This week on Fearless I reflected on this question, sharing stories about the Ruth and Billy I knew and loved—not the public Billy Graham, but the man I sat with at the kitchen table. Because my grandparents never demanded perfection from their kids or grandkids, they didn’t expect us to perform in order to reach a certain standard. Instead, they practiced what they preached from the pulpit: 100% truth and 100% grace. 

During the episode I share snapshots of my aunt Ruth’s story, and my dad’s story. Both these Graham children walked through hard seasons, times when they messed up and were afraid of embarrassing or disappointing their parents. But in those moments they were never met with a closed door, but instead with open arms of love. This is the legacy I want to leave with my own children. Not a legacy focused on what others may think or believe, but one built on truth, grace, and the opportunity to always come home, no matter how badly you’ve stumbled. This is what Jesus embodied for us—it’s what my grandparents modeled—and it’s exactly the legacy I want to carry forward.