WTF Should I Do W/ My Life?!

WTF Should I Do W/ My Life?!

By Jacob SokolSociety & CulturePhilosophy
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WTF Should I Do W/ My Life?! episodes

  • WTF 074: The Big Problem With A Happy Life

    Today I wanna talk about a problem that I see. And the problem is with a happy life.

    I mean, we see this all the time, right? People are looking for a life of smooth-sailing and blissed-out happiness. But lemme ask you this...

    What’s your biggest dream that’s deep down in your heart?
    Whatever your wildest dream is, I ask you this…
    Say I could make that dream a reality for you. Right now. Today. In this moment. That was your reality...

    Would having what you want be easy? Or would having it force you to face challenges bigger than most challenges you’ve ever faced before?

    We think that our biggest dreams will make us happy… but the reality is far from that.

    So what do we actually do?

    Here’s the key...

    It’s not that we shouldn’t wanna follow our dreams. We should!!!
    But instead of wishing for a life that’s challenge-LESS, we need to TRAIN for the challenges.
    Ahead of time!!!

    Are you training for the life you actually want? Or are you foolishly just wishing it’ll fall into your lap one day by doing the same things you’ve always done?

    In other words… are you more focused on SURVIVING than you are on THRIVING?! Which do you think is the wisest approach?
    If you’re ready to TRAIN for the life you want, that’s what I call “mastering your Inner Game”.
    You want to make it so that when the challenges arise, you’re prepared so that you can seize the opportunity.

    So many of us stay stuck in this loop of trying to avoid these things because we’re not training for the challenges. We’re not actually doing the deep, inner game immersion and overcoming some of those limiting beliefs and inner roadblocks. We’re not committed to upgrading our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual levels and evolving to go beyond that... to actually actualize our potential and to create the best version of ourselves!
    Sure, success is great, but what does it actually TAKE to get there?
    It’s the Inner Game.

    And if you’re interested in immersing yourself with the Inner Game, I’ve created a 10-week training program to dive deep into how to become the best version of yourself.

    Find out more at www.sensophy.com/theinnergameimmersion

    Not some glorified, success-promising, make-a-million-dollars crap, but the DEEP work to remove the limiting-beliefs and blind-spots that are there.

    ...To overcome whatever fear is standing between you and what you want

    ...To master your mind, optimize your energy, and get you connected to something bigger, whatever that is.

    We’ll be doing this through comfort-zone challenges and training your mind through engaging in deep practices. This is not an informational thing where I give you “7 things you should learn” or memorize. This will be *experiential*.

    You’ll go out into the world, show up at your best and at the end of the 10 weeks, if you engage in the program, you’ll be in one of the best shapes that you’ve ever been in your life in ALL of these areas.

    I’m beyond excited to take my best work, bring it to you with a community and be by your side as we go into the deep Inner Game to create the outer success that we’re inspired to have.

    11 min
  • WTF 073: Wanna Challenge Your Comfort-Zone?

    Join us in January 2017 for a free comfort-zone challenge!

    If you’re up for playing, this challenge will help you…

    Expand your assumptions about what you think is possible in your life
    Develop the skill of asking for what you really REALLY want
    Overcome your fears of rejection and develop more courage

    11 min
  • WTF 072: What My Fear Of Being Gay Taught Me

    I had a suicidal day about 6 years ago...

    Yes. That’s after I started Sensophy (a life-coaching company). And no, the irony doesn’t escape me.

    I couldn’t explain this at the time. But in hindsight, I was having a panic attack trying to grapple with massive amounts of uncertainty about my future… and even more scary, about who I was.

    It took me 10 years to learn this excruciating lesson that I’m about to share with you. But first, let’s rewind for some real-talk about how this all started.

    Growing up, I had this big shame that I wasn’t man enough. And it came from everywhere. Society. Hip-Hop. Even my pops. So I was always afraid about being seen as feminine...
    But as as a teenager, I didn’t understand the difference between being feminine and being gay.
    Seemed like the same thing to me. And so I would obsess over this question of “Am I gay? Am I gay? Am I gay?”

    As a scared little boy trying to validate his manhood, I did everything I could to prove I wasn’t gay.

    And as I grew up into my 20s, that scared “Little Jacob” was still inside of me… trying to prove his hetrosexuality by doing manly-man things like kick-boxing, racing his motorcycle through rush-hour NYC traffic, and sleeping with as many women as he could.  

    But no matter how many notches I got under my belt… every so often there would still be this voice that came into my mind and said… “But you’re gay, though. Stop pretending.”

    This wasn’t the voice of wisdom, intuition, or truth. It was the voice of fear. The voice of shame. The voice of “not-enoughness”. And I tried everything I could think of to make my mind shut the fuck up already.

    When the external action didn’t work (kick-boxing, motorcycling, sexing), I tried to cover it up internally with standard personal-development stuff… affirmations... meditations… mantras.
    But there was no amount of “self-improvement” that could make up for a lack of “self-acceptance”.
    And while on my blog I was preaching about “knowledge-of-self” being the gateway to happiness... I still didn’t know (with 100% certainty) that I wasn’t gay.

    It was bad. Really bad. So bad, that I considered taking my own life one day. So I pulled out a journal and listed all of the reasons not to.

    The only reasons I came up with were people’s name that I cared about. But even then, I was so ashamed of what these people would think of me.

    At this point, the voice in my head was pounding so loudly that I could barely hear my own thoughts. I finally decided... “Okay. Fine. If I’m gay, let me be gay.”  I thought that’d be enough to quiet my unrelenting mind that just wouldn’t stop yelling at me.

    But. even. after. facing. my. worst. fear. and. leaning. into. it…

    The questioning still didn’t stop!

    And THAT's when I learned one of the hardest lessons ever...
    It wasn’t about making peace with being gay or not… It was about making peace with the fact that I’ll never know.
    When I came to accept the idea of “I will never know”, THAT’S when I found peace.

    11 min
  • What My Fear Of Being Gay Taught Me
    I had a suicidal day about 6 years ago...
    Yes. That’s after I started Sensophy (a life-coaching company). And no, the irony doesn’t escape me.

    I couldn’t explain this at the time. But in hindsight, I was having a panic attack trying to grapple with massive amounts of uncertainty about my future… and even more scary, about who I was.

    It took me 10 years to learn this excruciating lesson that I’m about to share with you. But first, let’s rewind for some real-talk about how this all started.

    Growing up, I had this big shame that I wasn’t man enough. And it came from everywhere. Society. Hip-Hop. Even my pops. So I was always afraid about being seen as feminine...
    But as as a teenager, I didn’t understand the difference between being feminine and being gay.
    Seemed like the same thing to me. And so I would obsess over this question of “Am I gay? Am I gay? Am I gay?”

    As a scared little boy trying to validate his manhood, I did everything I could to prove I wasn’t gay.

    And as I grew up into my 20s, that scared “Little Jacob” was still inside of me… trying to prove his hetrosexuality by doing manly-man things like kick-boxing, racing his motorcycle through rush-hour NYC traffic, and sleeping with as many women as he could.  

    But no matter how many notches I got under my belt… every so often there would still be this voice that came into my mind and said… “But you’re gay, though. Stop pretending.”

    This wasn’t the voice of wisdom, intuition, or truth. It was the voice of fear. The voice of shame. The voice of “not-enoughness”. And I tried everything I could think of to make my mind shut the fuck up already.

    When the external action didn’t work (kick-boxing, motorcycling, sexing), I tried to cover it up internally with standard personal-development stuff… affirmations... meditations… mantras.
    But there was no amount of “self-improvement” that could make up for a lack of “self-acceptance”.
    And while on my blog I was preaching about “knowledge-of-self” being the gateway to happiness... I still didn’t know (with 100% certainty) that I wasn’t gay.

    It was bad. Really bad. So bad, that I considered taking my own life one day. So I pulled out a journal and listed all of the reasons not to.

    The only reasons I came up with were people’s name that I cared about. But even then, I was so ashamed of what these people would think of me.

    At this point, the voice in my head was pounding so loudly that I could barely hear my own thoughts. I finally decided... “Okay. Fine. If I’m gay, let me be gay.”  I thought that’d be enough to quiet my unrelenting mind that just wouldn’t stop yelling at me.

    But. even. after. facing. my. worst. fear. and. leaning. into. it…

    The questioning still didn’t stop!

    And THAT's when I learned one of the hardest lessons ever...
    It wasn’t about making peace with being gay or not… It was about making peace with the fact that I’ll never know.
    When I came to accept the idea of “I will never know”, THAT’S when I found peace.

    Now, one of my superpowers is the ability to thrive in uncertainty, which is why I can provide so much peace of mind for clients when they’re scared to take risks.

    Here are 5 jewels of wisdom (from this story) you can apply to your own life:

    1. Learn to make love to uncertainty. “The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably live with.”(That’s a Tony Robbins’ quote).

    So, where in your life are you looking for certainty or trying to pick the perfect choice? How can you expand the amount of uncertainty you can thrive in every day?

    2. What you resist, persists. The more you push something away,
    0 min
  • WTF 071: How To Master Your Mind Using Meditation w/ Michael Balchan

    Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.

    In today's episode, Jacob interviews Michael Balchan.

    Michael is a Harvard-educated commodity trader and film producer turned executive coach and peak-performance consultant. Michael's custom programs combine the most powerful methods and modalities of personal growth, psychology, performance science, physiology, wellness, and the world’s spiritual traditions. His latest book, Meditation: What, Why, and How To Meditate (Hint: Breathe in. Breathe out.) - is available on Amazon.

    In this podcast you will learn:

    How to use the secret power of mediation to take your life to the next level
    How to increase mental clarity and reduce stress through meditation
    How to upgrade your existing meditation practice
    The biggest common mistakes to avoid when meditating
    A simple hack to boost your willpower in under 60 seconds

    Thanks for rocking with us on today's podcast! Drop a comment and let us know your favorite big idea. It’ll help rewire your brain to ensure you don’t forget what you’ve heard. And besides all that brainiac business, we’d just love to hear from you :)

    Also, you can leave a rating & review for WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! on iTunes. That way, it helps other peeps discover the wisdom. Finally, you can subscribe on iTunes to get all new episodes as soon as they drop!

    42 min
  • WTF 070: The “Integrity-Gap” Explains How To Maximize Your Happiness

    Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.

    In today's episode, Jacob speaks about using our intuition and how to maximize happiness using the "integrity-gap".

    In this podcast you will learn:

    How to up-level your happiness while reducing anxiety
    How to get action-clues from your future successful self
    How to overcome fear and become more confident
    Bonus: Hear Jacob say a bunch of curse words that’ll piss some people off.

    Thanks for rocking with us on today's podcast! Drop a comment and let us know your favorite big idea. It’ll help rewire your brain to ensure you don’t forget what you’ve heard. And besides all that brainiac business, we’d just love to hear from you :)

    Also, you can leave a rating & review for WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! on iTunes. That way, it helps other peeps discover the wisdom. Finally, you can subscribe on iTunes to get all new episodes as soon as they drop!

    14 min
  • WTF 069: 44 Months of World Travel without Flying w/ Niall Doherty

    Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.

    In today's episode, Jacob is interviewed by Niall Doherty.

    Niall has traveled all around the world without flying and helps people get started working online. He has lived everywhere from Ireland, to Tenerife, to a trailer park in New Jersey.

    In this podcast you will learn:

    - How Niall got clear he would travel the world for 3+ years

    - When it does (+ doesn’t) make sense to quit your job to travel

    - A 3-step “threat assessment” process to overcome fear

    - The 3 main components to self-sabotage

    - How to uncover and retrain limiting-beliefs

    Thanks for rocking with us on today's podcast! Drop a comment and let us know your favorite big idea. It’ll help rewire your brain to ensure you don’t forget what you’ve heard. And besides all that brainiac business, we’d just love to hear from you :)

    Also, you can leave a rating & review for WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! on iTunes. That way, it helps other peeps discover the wisdom. Finally, you can subscribe on iTunes to get all new episodes as soon as they drop!

    54 min
  • WTF 068: How to Live with More Authenticity – Jacob Sokol Interviewed by Bryan Teare

    Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.

    In today's episode, Jacob is interviewed by Bryan Teare. Yes, you read that right - the roles have reversed and Jacob is in the hot seat this time. This episode is from when Jacob was a guest on Bryan's podcast, The Quarter Life Comeback, and the two of them jam out on some really juicy topics.

    Bryan is a coach, entrepreneur, and podcaster. Up until 2013, Bryan was living a comfortable, "normal" life checking all the boxes and following the rules. Until he realized that there had to be something more.

    He quit his job with no plan B, did some soul searching, training and certifications, and is now helping others live better and become the best versions of themselves.

    In this podcast you will learn:

    - How to distinguish between wanting more and being ungrateful

    - Why you don’t ACTUALLY want to travel (and what it is you DO want)

    - Why the answers you’re looking for aren’t in your head

    - How to live with more authenticity (plus a challenge from Jacob)

    - How to make the best use of your twenties
     
    Thanks for rocking with us on today's podcast! Drop a comment and let us know your favorite big idea. It’ll help rewire your brain to ensure you don’t forget what you’ve heard. And besides all that brainiac business, we’d just love to hear from you :)

    Also, you can leave a rating & review for WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! on iTunes. That way, it helps other peeps discover the wisdom. Finally, you can subscribe on iTunes to get all new episodes as soon as they drop!

    37 min
  • WTF 067: Lessons From My Secret Adventures in Russia

    Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.

    I've got this huge soulful vision I'm working toward for 2017.

    (I'll save the details for another time.)

    I've been working toward this vision for months. But before I pour the rocket-fuel into this ship and blast it out into the cosmos, I decided it would be good to step back for some clarity and extra alignment.

    In today's episode, I bring you behind the scenes of that adventure. A journey to a little place you probably never heard of called Russia.

    So you ask, whyyyyyyyy Russia? Why not Bali or Japan or Hawaii?

    Great question. And you'll have to listen to the episode to find that out, plus a whole lot more madness. :)

    In this podcast you will learn:

    - How to use "level 3 consciousness" to create more flow, clarity, and fun in your life

    - The life-hack I used to save $300 and nearly die of laugher in the process. :)

    - A secret trick anyone can use to create extraordinary and unexpected opportunities.

    Are you "all-in" on becoming the best you?!
    Then check out The Inner Game Immersion. It’s a 10-week process where a select group of people join me in playing full-out and becoming the best version of themselves.

    We do that through an uncommon mixture of comfort-zone challenges, mind-training techniques, heart-opening exercises, productivity-hacking practices, energy optimization tweaks, accountability systems, and world-class coaching. You can find out more by going to sensophy.com/tigi.

    Thanks for rocking with us on today's podcast! Drop a comment and let us know your favorite big idea. It’ll help rewire your brain to ensure you don’t forget what you’ve heard. And besides all that brainiac business, we’d just love to hear from you :)

    Also, you can leave a rating & review for WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! on iTunes. That way, it helps other peeps discover the wisdom. Finally, you can subscribe on iTunes to get all new episodes as soon as they drop!

    26 min

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