WTF Was She Thinking?

WTF Was She Thinking?

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WTF Was She Thinking? episodes

  • Ep 8 - Another F***ing Journey, the Diagnosis One

    In today's ep:

    • What we've been up to
    • Ordering non alcoholic cocktails
    • Mel fills us in on Scandoval and we unpack cheating in relationships and Mel's take on love addiction briefly
    • When a person is an autistic special interest
    • It's official, Mel is funny!
    • What's involved in getting diagnosed
    • The process is different for everyone
    • Clare's experience getting diagnoses
    • Mel's experience getting a diagnosis
    • The consequences of a late diagnosis
    • Our brief take on mental health and neurodivergent labels


      • Resources discussed in this ep:

      • ⁠Clare's favourite diagnosis meme
      • The Its Not Me Its Booze Brunch Event; find all the details and buy your tix here


        • Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@wtfwasshethinking ⁠⁠⁠

        Follow Mel on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠itsnotmeitsbooze⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠@melwatkinstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠

        Mel is now offering therapy sessions at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.melwatkinstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

        Read more of Clare's story here: ⁠⁠⁠Musings⁠⁠⁠

        Clare marries the lovers ⁠⁠@celebrant_clarewest⁠⁠ and ⁠clarewest.com.au

        59 min
      • Ep 7 - WTAF, Do I Have Social Anxiety?

        In today's ep:

        • What we've been up to
        • The importance of comfort. You are worth it! Buy the sheets!
        • Clare apologises
        • Our thoughts on Disney's "Single Drunk Female" tv show
        • The moment we each realised we had social anxiety
        • Having to face social anxiety without booze to help
        • Mel talks about hosting her very first INMIB (Its Not Me Its Booze) sober event
        • Socialising sober, it does get better!
        • Reminders not to drink
        • Overachievers learning to be mere mortals

          • Resources discussed in this ep:

          • Clare's fave new bedding brand
          • Clare's other sober group; Self Made
          • Vanderpump Rules on Reddit
          • Watch Single Drunk Female
          • Mel's Sober Support Program and 1:1 Therapy offerings
          • "How to Quit Like a Woman" by Holly Whitaker


            • Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠@wtfwasshethinking ⁠⁠

            Follow Mel on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@⁠itsnotmeitsbooze⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠@melwatkinstherapy⁠⁠⁠

            Mel is now offering therapy sessions at ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.melwatkinstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

            Read more of Clare's story here: ⁠⁠Musings⁠⁠

            Clare marries the lovers ⁠@celebrant_clarewest⁠ and clarewest.com.au

            48 min
          • Ep 6 - Our Take on Habits

            In today's ep:

            • What we’ve been up to
            • JLo has started her own alcohol company, WTF was she thinking?!
            • Our habits this morn
            • The habits you never expect to be habbits
            • Feeling like we are failing at habits
            • Relearning your previous booze fueled habits, without booze
            • Our nighttime habits


              • Resources discussed in this ep:

              • J.Lo Has an Alcohol Company Now?
              • Meet Merlin the Pig


                • Follow us on Instagram: ⁠@wtfwasshethinking ⁠

                Mel is now offering therapy sessions at ⁠⁠www.melwatkinstherapy.com⁠⁠

                Follow Mel on Instagram: ⁠⁠@⁠itsnotmeitsbooze⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠@melwatkinstherapy⁠⁠

                Read more of Clare's story here: ⁠Musings⁠


                59 min
              • Ep 5 - Surviving in Silence*

                ***Trigger Warning - Suicidal Ideation and Experiences of Crisis candidly discussed

                Please ensure you are listening from a safe space and take good care of yourself during and after this episode!

                Be sure to skip this one if at any time you are feeling triggered or suspect that you may be triggered by this ep.

                If you are feeling suicidal an array of helpful resources and online and phone support is available here.

                If you know someone that is feeling suicidal an array of helpful resources and support is available here.


                In today's ep:

                • It's offish, we fell in love with Taylor Tomlinson, find out why
                • As always, more about Vanderpump rules
                • Emotional breakdowns at concerts, nothing new here
                • When sobriety doesn't make life better
                • Clare's experiences with different stages and in different times of crisis
                • Let's "confetti for those surviving in silence"


                  • Yes we fell off the face of the earth, and then we did it again.

                  But we are BACK fortnightly from here on out. Tune in again soon! Xx


                  Resources discussed in this ep:

                  • Taylor Tomlinson: Look at you; A Netflix Special
                  • Listen to Clare's sobriety playlist here
                  • Read Rupi Kaur's gorgeous poem "Depression Doesn't Knock" here
                  • Mels now offering therapy sessions at www.melwatkinstherapy.com
                  • Clare is a registered celebrant who marries lovers. Learn more about her services here. Or follow her on insta here.


                    • Follow us on Instagram: ⁠@wtfwasshethinking ⁠

                    Follow Mel on Instagram: @⁠itsnotmeitsbooze⁠ and @melwatkinstherapy

                    Read more of Clare's story here: ⁠Musings⁠

                    ⁠WTF Have They Been Reading

                    1 hr 8 min
                  • Ep 4 - Better Late Then Never, Goodbye 2022

                    ***Trigger Warning - Drug and alcohol use candidly discussed

                    Please take good care of your sobriety vision and spirit for us! 


                    In todays ep:

                    • We are slober and sober
                    • Ahhh yes, December we meet again
                    • Experiencing grief 
                    • Dreaming of a perfect Christmas
                    • Mel's a member of the mile high trauma dumping club
                    • Our personal experience with moderation
                    • Getting to know the addicted mind
                    • Drink ideas for Christmas in March (it's never too late or too early)
                    • Our final wins of 2022. Clare married some lovers and Mel's been working on her biz vision 


                      • Yes we fell of the face of the earth, and then we did it again.

                      Thanks for your patience listeners!


                      Resources discussed in this ep:

                      • For Mind the Sip's moderation post click here. For Mind the Sips insta account click here.
                      • Mels fave NA Ameretti Sour recipe thanks to Lyres
                      • Clare is a registered celebrant who marries lovers. Learn more about her services here. Or follow her on insta here.


                        • Follow us on Instagram: ⁠@wtfwasshethinking ⁠

                        Follow Mel on Instagram: @⁠itsnotmeitsbooze⁠

                        Read more of Clare's story here: ⁠Musings⁠

                        ⁠WTF Have They Been Reading

                        1 hr 2 min
                      • Ep 3 - Eating, Not Eating and Eating Too Much
                        • Netflix's new Heartbreak High
                        • How did sobriety influence our eating habits and relationship with food?   
                        • Dealing with diet and body shame 
                        • Bulimia and binge eating 
                        • Intuitive eating protocols and diets are definitely not for everyone
                        • Currently, Mel's feeling good in her body and Clare not so much  
                        • Perfectionism traits affecting how we feel about what we eat


                          • Resources discussed in this ep:

                          • The post that sparked the convo thanks to Peta Kelly
                          • Mel's current eating coach Charlotte
                          • The podcast episodes that introduced Clare to The Bean Protocol; 
                            1. To Be Magnetic  - Healing Through Food with Nutritionist Karen Hurd
                            2. To be Magnetic - Magic Beans with Unique Hammond
                              • Follow Karen and Unique for all things Bean Protocol
                              • Read Your Tastebuds Are A**holes: How I Trained Mine and Healed Crohn's by Unique Hammond


                                • ***Trigger Warning - Disordered eating is discussed in today's episode

                                If you are struggling you can seek help and support via The Butterfly foundation. 

                                Their "Where do I start" page is a great first step. 

                                They can be contacted for personal support via 1800 33 4673  from Australia or via chat worldwide. 

                                Please take good care of your soul and body for us! 

                                Finally, if you are concerned for someone you love, please click here for more information. 


                                Follow us on Instagram: @wtfwasshethinking 

                                Follow Mel on Instagram: @itsnotmeitsbooze

                                Read more of Clare's story here: Musings

                                WTF Have They Been Reading


                                1 hr 15 min
                              • Ep 2 - Get to know Mel
                                • A huge thank you for your support so far
                                • Zendaya wins her second Emmy for Euphoria
                                • Mels attempts moderation and her sober journey 
                                • Meet Stacy
                                • Growing up with Mel's Grandma
                                • What's Mel being googling?
                                • The surprising way Vanderpump rules influenced Mel's sobriety.
                                • Mel shares her Values


                                  • Resources discussed in this ep:

                                  • The James Swanwick Show was Mel's go to podcast for inspiration throughout covid.  James Swanwick now hosts the Alcohol Free Life podcast
                                  • Mel attended a Her Speaking Event 
                                  • It's Not Me Its Booze, the booze free social club and the Business Mel started when she got sober
                                  • Looking to uncover your values and do some work around your relationship with alcohol? Book a 1:1 consultation call with Mel here
                                  • Mel's watching The Dodo Rescue videos on Youtube
                                  • Vanderpump Rules available to stream on Amazon Prime
                                  • Give Them Lala by Lala Kent a recommended read from Mel


                                    • Follow us on Instagram: @wtfwasshethinking 

                                    Follow Mel on Instagram: @itsnotmeitsbooze

                                    Read more of Clare's story here: Musings

                                    WTF Have They Been Reading

                                    1 hr 16 min
                                  • Ep 1 - Get to know Clare
                                    • Definitions of the word Basic
                                    • The moment Clare decided to try being sober
                                    • Experiencing an autistic diagnosis
                                    • What is Clare's favourite party song?
                                    • Meet Candy Cardashian
                                    • Clare shares her Values  


                                      • Resources discussed in this ep:

                                      • The book Clare found that started it all (in regards to her sober journey) was Quit Like A Woman by Holly Whittaker
                                      • Tempest Intensive and Membership was originally founded by Holly and is the program and community which Clare chose to support her in early recovery.
                                        • However, she wanted you to know the Tempest program has changed since Clare began her sober journey. She now relies on Self Made and Its Not Me Its Booze for sober community and support.
                                      • Clare's sober playlist featuring This is Me from the Greatest Showman
                                      • The party song, to end all party songs.


                                        • Follow us on Instagram: @wtfwasshethinking 

                                        Follow Mel on Instagram: @itsnotmeitsbooze 

                                        Read more of Clare's story here: Musings

                                        WTF Have They Been Reading


                                        1 hr 11 min

                                      About WTF Was She Thinking?

                                      From the publisher's feed

                                      We are Mel from Its Not Me Its Booze and Clare author of Musings, two women that were fucked over by alcohol but discovered upon becoming friends that we have a lot more in common than the decision to live an alcohol-free life.