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Today we are revisiting a conversation with Dianne Bevelander that first aired on December 12, 2018.

Dianne Bevelander was born and raised in South Africa and now calls The Netherlands her home. She is a professor of management education, with a focus on gender equality, at Erasmus University and she is Kim's husband's cousin. Kim met Dianne several years ago for the first while visiting the Netherlands and the connection was immediate! Dianne is an incredible woman doing groundbreaking work to level the playing field for women.

In this episode, Dianne shares what it was like growing up in South Africa and what brought her to the Netherlands. Kim & Dianne discuss the biases and other challenges that women face out in the world, specifically when it comes to women in management positions and other positions of leadership. They also discuss the difference between diversity and inclusion and the work that still needs to be done.

"Diversity is inviting you to the party and inclusion is asking you to dance. I think a lot of us now understand diversity but we are still missing the boat on inclusion."

Dianne teaches women that we all can lead and make a difference in helping to lift other women up. Women are 51% of the world's population and we can do great things together!

"All of us can make a difference. We can lead from where we are."

Dianne is also a cancer WARRIOR and has been in the fight of her life for several years now and is still fighting. She talks about about her battle with cancer and why she doesn't think of herself as sick. She also shares her feelings about life and death. Life is not a dress rehearsal so you must do all the things you want to do!

"While you are living, LIVE!"

This is a really powerful conversation with a beautiful and inspiring woman! Believe me when I tell you that we can all use a little bit of Dianne in our lives so get to listening!

xoxo, Kim

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Lauren & Kim met several years ago through the WARRIOR photo shoot that Kim does once a year to empower and celebrate women who are currently battling cancer and some who are in remission. They hit it off immediately and have been friends ever since.

On this episode, Lauren talks about her battle with breast cancer and opens up about some of the things nobody tells you about until you are right in the middle of it like the red devil, side effects from the red devil, chemo brain, getting a mastectomy, reconstruction, mental exhaustion, physical exhaustion, and on it goes.

Kim & Lauren also talk about the pain of losing people you love to cancer and the importance, even in those dark moments, of holding on to HOPE. Cancer is a real a-hole and it does not discriminate but we have to remain hopeful and keep on living!

Adulting can really suck sometimes and Kim & Lauren talk about some of the challenges of being a "grown up" including the art of compromise, parenting, step parenting, marriage & menopause.

Spoiler alert: Kim's only good at being young!

The Pink Wig Project was founded by Lauren's dear friend, Teri Trotter, who passed away in June of 2018 after a long and fierce battle with breast cancer. Lauren is now working as a volunteer for The Pink Wig Project to help carry on Teri's legacy and in this episode, she talks about the power of the pink wig and all the incredible work The Pink Wig Project is doing to give hope to cancer WARRIORS and their caregivers, all while raising awareness about genetic testing and funds for cancer genetic research.

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Sonja Mustiful is a career coach and author. After working in the corporate world for many years, she now uses her experience to help others lock down their goals and unlock their full potential.

On this episode, Sonja talks about her time working in the corporate world and everything she learned along the way. Kim & Sonja discuss Sonja's decision to become an entrepreneur and start her business, Essence of Coaching, where she is now helping others find their true purpose and rise to their full potential.

"We have to find our purpose and stay aligned with it."

Kim also shares some of the ups and downs she has faced being a business owner for 17 years and gets advice from Sonja on how to combat entrepreneurship fatigue and how to communicate clear expectations to those around you.

"We all have control of how we show up."

The ladies also discuss the inspiration behind Sonja's new book "Aim High, Ask Why." It's a call to action for anyone who is ready to take it to the next level.

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Kellie Turnage is a beautiful soul who is using her story of addiction & recovery to give others hope and more insight into the world of addiction.

In this episode, Kellie talks about her need for control and wanting to be the "BEST" at everything which led to a battle with anorexia as a teen & young adult. The signals we send to girls about their weight & body image can be so powerful!

As a young adult in college, Kellie began to drink and party and then, well, she just kept drinking. Kellie opens up about her struggle with alcoholism and addiction that started in college and continued for years through a marriage, divorce, several jobs, and several new cities. You cannot outrun addiction and Kellie learned that no matter where you go, there YOU are.

What was Kellie's rock bottom? Well, as Kellie tells us, addicts don't really have one rock bottom, they have many. Her decision to finally get the help she needed, and to take it seriously, came from a very emotional place.

Kim opens up about all of the emotions she is having in regards to a friend that has been an alcoholic for years and is now in stage 4 liver failure and still continues to seek out alcohol. Why do alcoholics continue to drink when it appears that they have everything to live for? Kellie tries to help us understand the mind of an addict and also communicates some hard truths about addiction that only the addict can change.

The ladies recorded this episode 2 days before Kellie's 3 year anniversary of sobriety and what a difference 3 years of honesty, support, and 12 steps can make!

Kellie is a very brave woman and we are so grateful she was willing to share a part of her journey with us!

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Marianne Bell is an assistant DA in the Memphis Domestic Violence prosecution unit and she is the founding member of the Hot foot Honeys, Memphis' first professional tap dancing company.

In this episode, Marianne sheds light on domestic violence and helps give us a better understanding of how the criminal justice system works in regards to the abuser and the victims.

Marianne also discusses the works she does training law enforcement about domestic violence to help them approach each situation with empathy and a more broad understanding about the cycle of abuse.

Kim & Marianne chat about Marianne's passion for tap dancing and what moved her to start the tap dancing company, Hot Foot Honeys.

"Tap dancing is like making music with your feet!"

The ladies also discuss the Hot Foot Honeys' upcoming show called "Time Stepping" which features numbers that focus on women's issues. The show dates are April 5, 6 & 7 at Buckman Performing Arts Center in Memphis, TN.

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Tayla Bonicelli was born in Vietnam and moved to the United States when she was 9 years old. She is now a nail artist & thriving entrepreneur living in Memphis, TN. Kim booked an appointment with Tayla upon the recommendation of a friend and after getting to know a bit about Tayla's journey, Kim asked her to be a guest on the podcast and lucky for all of us, she said yes!

In this episode, Tayla talks about her early childhood years living the in jungle with her mom in Vietnam. She also opens up about having to leave her mom behind when she moved to the United States with her aunt when she was just 9 years old and the trauma and abuse that occured for years while under her aunt's care.

Tayla talks about her decision to finally leave her aunt and make the move to Memphis with just a backpack, a stuffed animal, and $50 bucks. They discuss what happened when she arrived in Memphis and how she got her first job in a nail salon with zero experience. Tayla also talks about making the decision to become her own boss and how that was a life changer.

Tayla also has a beautiful daughter and she talks with Kim about motherhood and the things she has learned about herself along the way.

Spoiler alert: She's a fierce momma bear!

This episode is about a woman who faced near impossible circumstances and still managed to create a life for herself full of love & light. Tayla has a fierce warrior spirit!

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Leslie and Kim met several months ago through a mutual friend and hit it off immediately. And after getting to know more about Leslie, Kim knew she had to have her as a guest on the podcast to share some of her story!

On this episode, Kim And Leslie talk about growing up with parents who have bipolar disorder and the toll it can take on the family. Leslie opens up about her struggle to find stability in her home as a teenager and her decision to move in with a friend's family while finishing high school. Leslie opens up about having a parent with alcoholism and all of the challenges that come with that.

Kim & Leslie both met their husbands through an online dating site but before they met them, well, they had lots and lots of interesting experiences & crazy first dates that did not end with a second date. They both share some of their craziest stories from their online dating journey.

Spoiler alert: You can't make this shit up!

Leslie talks about how different her life looks now and how deciding to quit her job to be a stay at home doggie mom is the right decision for her at this time in life. Kim & Leslie both discuss some of their insecurities and how they navigate them with they creep up.

This episode is just two friends talking about life, love, and the pursuit of a semi-normal kind of life!

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Kim & Adina have known each other for several years. They met for the first time when Kim took some fitness classes at Adina's studio, Live Fit, in Arlington, TN. About a year after they met, Adina did a photo shoot with Kim and they had a blast and have stayed connected.

In this episode, Adina talks about her journey as an entrepreneur and her motivation to start her business, Live Fit, and how it has grown and evolved over the past few years.

Kim & Adina discuss why women fall into the trap of thinking that their bodies are never thin enough, muscular enough, etc. and Adina shares some of her strategies for changing that narrative.

"You have to get your mind right!"

Adina also opens up about some of her own insecurities and how she has dealt with the emotional pain she felt when her marriage of 20 years ended and what it feels like now that she has allowed herself the time to heal and grow.

Spoiler alert: She is in a new relationship and her business is thriving!

Adina is living proof that you can reinvent yourself and start over at any time in life. We are all unfinished and that is a beautiful thing!

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Dr. Jessica Ruffin has been Kim's gynecologist for over 15 years. During that time, Jessica has become more than Kim's doctor, she has become a friend.

In this episode, Kim asks the questions and Jessica answers! They discuss when a young woman should have her first pap smear, the importance of talking to your kids about sex, hormones, libido, anxiety & menopause.

"What is a hot flash anyway and where are all the drugs to enhance a woman's libido?!"

This one is a fun Q & A about stuff that affects all of us. The more we know and understand our bodies, the more informed we are to make better choices about our health!

Spoiler alert: We laugh a whole lot in this one!

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Dr. Jessica Ruffin has been Kim's gynecologist for over 15 years. During that time, Jessica has become more than Kim's doctor, she has become a friend.

In this episode, Kim asks the questions and Jessica answers! They discuss when a young woman should have her first pap smear, the importance of talking to your kids about sex, hormones, libido, anxiety & menopause.

"What is a hot flash anyway and where are all the drugs to enhance a woman's libido?!"

This one is a fun Q & A about stuff that affects all of us. The more we know and understand our bodies, the more informed we are to make better choices about our health!

Spoiler alert: We laugh a whole lot in this one!

Wanna make an appointment with Jessica at here Memphis office? You can do that here: https://www.adamspatterson.com/

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