We explore the healthy and toxic aspects of the masculine and feminine principles through the Gender Medicine Wheel and discuss the nature of the Divine Masculine.

Here are links to the authors and resources we mentioned in this episode:

The Gender Medicine Wheel was developed by Jose Luis & Lena Stevens at Power Path Shamanism

16 - Talking Rider to Rider

http://www.mediafire.com/download/g484j4eqqxkfddf/KitchenTableAlchemy016.mp3

We talk with guest Carolina Krawarik-Graham on how to have difficult conversations around race and equality, as well as how to confront the unconscious biases hiding in our own minds.

Here are links to the authors and resources we mentioned in this episode:

Geert Hofstede’s Cultural Dimensions Theory (Wikipedia has a pretty good overview)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hofstede%27s_cultural_dimensions_theory

White Supremacy Culture – Tema Okun (two similar versions)

http://www.cwsworkshop.org/PARC_site_B/dr-culture.html

and

http://dismantlingracism.org/Dismantling_Racism/liNKs_files/whitesupcul09.pdf

The White Ladder - Tema Okun

http://www.cwsworkshop.org/pdfs/CARC/White_Identity/4_Life_Long_Journey.PDF

Tema Okun

The Emperor Has No Clothes

What is White Supremacy? by Elizabeth "Betita" Martinez

The Culture of White Supremacy by Sharon Martinas

A few quick tips for countering oppression

~ Don't make and/or Challenge your assumptions. Eric Law talks about how

~ Ask Questions - Demonstrate “Holy Curiosity”

~ Be mindful of your (white, male, economic, relational, educated, accredited, clergy, professional, hetero, cis, "been around for forever", etc.) privilege in any given interaction and/or space and think about how to best equalize the power dynamic.

~ Consider that everyone has more identities (and history) than you're aware of.

No one is just a race + gender expression + orientation. Our identities are infinite.

~ Welcome discomfort. There's so much more opportunity there.

~ Be mindful of how much space you claim, and what that might mean for others.

~ Don't touch people (or things) without explicit consent.

Not everyone responds to touch the same way, not all "friendly" touch is appropriate.

~ Be mindful of your language

and that there may be someone within earshot to whom it may be exclusionary/hurtful.

~ Try to Listen more than you speak.

~ When you speak, speak (only) for yourself (unless requested to speak for a group).

~ Don't make a member of a marginalized group responsible for your education

about issues of marginalization and oppression. Seek out those allied people and groups (like ARE) dedicated to helping with that.

~ Be aware that your intent will not always = the impact of your words & actions.

~ Try not to take things personally.

~ Be open to learning.

~ Exercise humility.

~ Remember that not everyone has the same information!

Share respectfully if you have the opportunity.

We welcome our first musician guest Kristin Center as we discuss how to handle those predatory types in our lives who seek to tear down the weak, the sacred, and the beautiful. Plus, Jacqueline fills us in on her summer Stonehenge sabbatical. Tune in for lots of laughs and a bit of powerful music!

Is happily ever after really possible or just a pipe dream? Or is it our either/or mentality that’s getting in the way? Can we have a big impact in the world? Tune in to discover strategies to “have it all” without burning out or selling out.

Authors and resources we discussed in this episode:

Brene Brown’s BIG (Boundaries, Integrity, Generosity)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ecb6ExBaW80

Leaving behind survival mode and stepping into trust can be difficult when life has given us plenty of reasons not to trust. Mother’s Day is a time for celebration for some, and for others it is a reminder of what we’ve lost or never had.

You wouldn’t think that the topics of creativity and homelessness would go together, and neither did we, until we sat down and talked about them back-to-back. We discuss how creativity is an essential human need, and why most people don’t get enough of it. Then we address the sticky issue of how to handle that uncomfortable moment when you pull up next to that homeless person at a stoplight.

Dealing with death is not easy, but we all have to do it at some point, so we talk about what we most need to know to help others - or ourselves - through the darkness. Then we follow up on our conversation about the drama triangle and talk about how to get out whenever we get caught up in it.

Thanks to Cyd West for being our first podcast guest!

Here are links to the authors and resources we mentioned in this episode:

Deeply Into the Bone: Re-Inventing Rites of Passage by Ronald L. Grimes

The Power of TED by David Emerald

Toward a More Equal World Warren Salinger

Flipping the drama triangle and exploring The Five Attachments – Let’s step into our next stage of evolution as individuals in order to create the future we want (not the one we think we’re stuck with).

Here are links to the authors and resources we mentioned in this episode:

Drama triangle

https://www.karpmandramatriangle.com/

Empathy Deficit

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=7755013

Pink Floyd "In the Flesh" mashup with Trump rallies

https://www.facebook.com/IRBF.org.uk/videos/1543516199276321/

BBC 5 Steps to Fascism (full documentary!!)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PeBisBQblFM

The Five Levels of Attachment: Toltec Wisdom for the Modern World

http://www.dailyom.com/library/000/003/000003072.html

Blue eyes/Brown eyes experiment

http://www.janeelliott.com/

In this episode, we take on the elephant in the room - Donald Trump. How is he reflecting what we’re all doing, as individuals and as a culture? How is our desire for control and certainty enslaving us? And what can each of us do about it?

In this episode, we discuss how to be powerful without being a jerk, and how having more lighthearted fun can lead to a seriously happier life experience.