I've met younger people with more wisdom, kindness, and humility than people who are twice their age. Wisdom comes from learning, growing, admitting when you're wrong, and being willing to change. If someone spends years repeating the same mistakes and never learns from them, getting older doesn't suddenly make them wise. The same goes for blessings. Just because someone has lived a long life doesn't mean they're living the way God wants them to live. A long life is something to be thankful for, but it shouldn't be used as proof that someone is always right or above correction. I believe real wisdom is shown by how you treat people, how humble you are, and whether you're willing to keep learning no matter how old you get. We should respect our elders, but respect doesn't mean we have to agree with everything they say. Everyone, no matter their age, can still learn, grow, and even admit when they're wrong. In my opinion, you can be 25 and wise, or you can be 85 and still act foolish. Age is a number. Wisdom is a choice. What do you think? Do you believe wisdom comes mainly with age, or do you think it's something a person has to intentionally develop throughout life?

Ya Girl Renae Coffee Talk is a long-form podcast centered on real life, real conversations, and real faith. This is a space where we slow down, take a breath, and talk honestly about what’s happening in our lives and in the world—without the noise, the pressure, or the performance. Each episode feels like sitting down with a cup of coffee and having a heart-to-heart conversation. Renae talks about everyday life, current news, culture, and personal experiences, all through a faith-based lens that is thoughtful, compassionate, and grounded in truth.

I’m just going to say it how it is, because this has been on my mind heavy lately. One thing that confuses me about some people in the church is how easy it is for them to talk about the Word but not actually live it. And I’m not saying anybody has to be perfect, because clearly, none of us are. But there’s a difference between struggling and straight-up ignoring what you’re teaching. Like, how are you going to sit there and tell people how to live for Christ, but behind closed doors you’re doing the complete opposite? That’s where it starts to feel fake. And people can see that. You might think they don’t, but trust me, they do. Jesus made it clear we’re supposed to be doers of the Word, not just hearers. It’s easy to quote scripture. It’s easy to post about God. It’s easy to give advice.

But living it? That’s the real work. That’s where the consistency shows up.  And honestly, this is why a lot of people don’t take Christianity seriously. It’s not always the message—it’s the messengers. When people see hypocrisy, it turns them off completely. You can’t tell someone “God is love” but you’re full of hate. You can’t talk about honesty but you’re lying and manipulating people. That’s what makes people question everything. And then we wonder why folks don’t want to come to church or don’t trust believers. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being real.

If you mess up, own it. If you’re struggling, say that. But don’t act like you’re walking in something that you’re not even trying to live. That’s where the problem comes in.  Because when you’re in a position where you’re teaching, leading, or even just speaking about God, people are watching you whether you like it or not. They’re building trust based on what you say AND what you do. And if those two things don’t line up, your credibility starts to fall apart.

Ya Girl Renae Coffee Talk is a long-form podcast centered on real life, real conversations, and real faith. This is a space where we slow down, take a breath, and talk honestly about what’s happening in our lives and in the world—without the noise, the pressure, or the performance. Each episode feels like sitting down with a cup of coffee and having a heart-to-heart conversation. Renae talks about everyday life, current news, culture, and personal experiences, all through a faith-based lens that is thoughtful, compassionate, and grounded in truth.

Sometimes we get so caught up in what’s going wrong that we completely miss what God is actually doing. God ministered something powerful to me today: our inconveniences are often our greatest blessings. We don’t like discomfort. We don’t like delays. We don’t like when life shifts in ways we didn’t plan. But just because something feels inconvenient doesn’t mean it isn’t intentional. Think about this… There are moments in life where everything seems to be going “right”—traveling, spending money, being around people, enjoying life. But even in all of that, something can still be missing: a real, deep connection with God. Sometimes, it takes a disruption to bring alignment.

There was a woman who lived a full life on the outside—traveling, socializing, constantly moving—but she never slowed down enough to truly seek God. Then one day, she became very sick. And in that moment, everything changed. What once distracted her was stripped away. And in that stillness, she found something greater. She began to pray.

She began to read.
She began to trust.


She began to know God—not just hear about Him. What looked like a breaking point became a turning point. Now hear this clearly: God is not saying you have to reach rock bottom to find Him. But the truth is, sometimes it takes more to get some people’s attention than others. Not every hardship leads to destruction. Some hardships lead to transformation.  Even the small things we overlook carry purpose. You might get a flat tire and feel frustrated but what if that delay protected you from something you never saw coming? You might feel led to go somewhere at a random time and not understand why—but what if your presence changed something, or even saved someone? You may never get the full explanation—and that’s okay. Because faith isn’t about knowing every detail. It’s about trusting that God does. Even when people talk about you.

Even when life feels unfair.
Even when things don’t make sense. It is still working for your good. What feels like an inconvenience may actually be divine protection.
What feels like a delay may actually be divine timing.


What feels like a struggle may actually be your pathway to glory.  So instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?” Try asking, “God, what are You doing through me in this moment?”  Because nothing is wasted. Nothing is random. And nothing is without purpose. Even this… is working for you. Stay encouraged.

Ya Girl Renae Coffee Talk is a long-form podcast centered on real life, real conversations, and real faith. This is a space where we slow down, take a breath, and talk honestly about what’s happening in our lives and in the world—without the noise, the pressure, or the performance. Each episode feels like sitting down with a cup of coffee and having a heart-to-heart conversation. Renae talks about everyday life, current news, culture, and personal experiences, all through a faith-based lens that is thoughtful, compassionate, and grounded in truth.

Ya Girl Renae Shares Prophectic Warning After Talking About Repentence and Betrayal

Ya Girl Renae Coffee Talk is a long-form podcast centered on real life, real conversations, and real faith. This is a space where we slow down, take a breath, and talk honestly about what’s happening in our lives and in the world—without the noise, the pressure, or the performance. Each episode feels like sitting down with a cup of coffee and having a heart-to-heart conversation. Renae talks about everyday life, current news, culture, and personal experiences, all through a faith-based lens that is thoughtful, compassionate, and grounded in truth.

One thing we’ve got to remember as believers is that God has requirements. We can’t say we want to work for the Kingdom and then show up any kind of way — in spirit, attitude, or appearance. Every job you apply for has a uniform, an expectation of how you should present yourself. The Kingdom of Heaven is no different. When we say “yes” to God, we’re agreeing to represent Him — not ourselves. That means aligning our appearance, our lifestyle, and our behavior with His Word, not the world’s trends. If God says modesty, holiness, and humility are the standard, then that’s our spiritual dress code.

 It’s not about being legalistic, it’s about being recognizable. Just like you can tell a nurse from her scrubs or a police officer from his badge, the world should be able to tell who God’s people are — not because we’re loud about it, but because we live it. So the next time you feel like you’re being called to serve, take a moment to ask yourself:

👉 “Do I look like what God says I should?”
👉 “Am I wearing the uniform of righteousness?” Let’s make sure our outside reflects what’s happening on the inside, because in this Kingdom — representation matters.

Ya Girl Renae Coffee Talk is a long-form podcast centered on real life, real conversations, and real faith. This is a space where we slow down, take a breath, and talk honestly about what’s happening in our lives and in the world—without the noise, the pressure, or the performance. Each episode feels like sitting down with a cup of coffee and having a heart-to-heart conversation. Renae talks about everyday life, current news, culture, and personal experiences, all through a faith-based lens that is thoughtful, compassionate, and grounded in truth.