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In Series 3, The Social Rules We Stopped Following as a Couple, we’re questioning the unwritten rules that quietly shape how we live, from what we’re expected to do for friends and family to how we’re “supposed” to behave in social situations. We explore what happens when you stop following the script and start making choices based on what actually feels right for you.

We kick off the series by questioning five rules we never realised we were allowed to break, from going to every wedding and splitting the bill to staying until the end, drinking alcohol and getting up to dance. We share why we’ve chosen to do things differently, even when it means disappointing people, facing judgement or making things awkward, and ask whether a little friction now is worth a lifetime of feeling more free and more like yourself. 

In “Scott’s WTF of the Week” we look at a couple whose relationship rules sparked a huge debate over where healthy boundaries end and control begins, while “Shelby’s Good Vibes Only” introduces a married couple who have spent 15 years breaking one of the biggest expectations of marriage, and somehow made it work.

Chapters

(04:04) – You Have to Go to Every Wedding

(14:13) – We Always Split the Bill

(19:40) – Stay Until the End or You’re Old

(24:02) – Drink Alcohol or You’re Boring

(30:23) – Get Up and Dance Mr Miserable

(35:48) – What Do We Actually Think About All This?

(36:39) – Scott’s WTF of the Week: Couple Go Viral Over Strict Boundaries

(40:56) – Shelby’s Good Vibes Only: Couple Shock Relationship Experts for 15 Year Running

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📺 Series 2: Finding The One When You're Not Everyone's Type🎧 EP1

🎧 EP2🎧 EP3🎧 EP4

📺 Series 1: Travelling as a Couple: Dream vs Reality🎧⁠⁠ EP1

🎧⁠ EP2⁠🎧 ⁠EP3⁠🎧 ⁠EP4

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Stories SharedScott's WTF of the Week

🚧 Couple Go Viral Over Strict Boundaries

Shelby’s Good Vibes Only

😱 Couple Shock Relationship Experts for 15 Year Running

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Transcript Keyword SummaryUnwritten Social Rules, Social Expectations, Societal Norms, Setting Boundaries, Personal Boundaries, Wedding Etiquette, Wedding Invitations, Splitting the Bill, Social Pressure, Peer Pressure, Drinking Alcohol, Alcohol-Free Lifestyle, Leaving Parties Early, Dancing at Weddings, Authentic Relationships, Relationship Boundaries, Relationship Freedom in Modern Relationships, Couple Adventure Travel, Couples Challenging Relationship Expectations, Couples Following Their Own Path in Life, Yalla Habibi, Yalla Habibi Podcast, Couples Podcast, Relationship Podcast

Transcript Quotes

“you have to work blooming hard to make money”

“I think the important thing is showing up, showing your face, connecting with people”

“you have every right to not have to drink.”

“We choose to live in a way that is aligned with who we are, rather than simply doing what we're expected to do.”

“Is a little friction, discomfort, or judgment in the moment really worth sacrificing a lifetime of feeling more free, more fulfilled, and more like yourself?”

“so this is like the extreme side of boundaries, but hey, this is what works for them.”

“They just decided to give each other that space, and Margaret says that the arrangement has given her independence, new friendships, and a career.”

Today we celebrate the biggest achievement of Scott’s life: running 100 miles non-stop, one of the toughest physical and mental challenges a person can take on. Although the race began at Edinburgh Castle, the real story started 11 years earlier with a dream that at times felt impossible. Shelby sits down with Scott to unpack the journey from his first steps as a runner to the setbacks, self-doubt, and defining moments that led him to the finish line. We relive the highest highs, the darkest moments of race day, what crossing that finish line really felt like, and the lesson that changed the way Scott thinks about limits forever.

Chapters

(03:35) – How Do You Feel Days After a 100 Mile Race?

(04:13) – The Biggest DNF Reason and How to Overcome It

(06:36) – Why Did You Choose a 100 Mile Ultra as a Goal?

(10:43) – Do You Realise What You Have Achieved?

(13:30) – How Did You Find Training and Nutrition?

(16:30) – What Was the Biggest Setback in the Training and Race?

(20:56) – What Percentage Is Physical and Mental to Complete a 100 Mile Race?

(24:11) – What Advice Do You Have for People to Cope with It Mentally?

(30:10) – What Did You Learn from This Journey?

(33:22) – Where Did It All Start?

(34:34) – What Is Your Next Goal?

(37:15) – Scott's Final Piece of Advice?

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🎧 EP49 | Scott’s 70 Mile Ultra, Trailor Swift Life & Rafael Nadal's Farwell | Yalla Habibi Podcast

🎧 EP23 | Crushing PBs in Paula Radcliffe’s Hometown and Shelby’s Close Calls with Murderers | Couples Podcast

🎧 EP35 | Riyadh Marathon, Insane Giveaways, Clueless Reps & Our Big Rebrand | Couples Podcast

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Transcript Keyword Summary100 Mile Race, Ultramarathon, Endurance Running, Marathon Training, Mental Resilience, Running Motivation, Ultra Running, Race Nutrition, Running Recovery, Endurance Mindset, Goal Setting, Personal Growth, Running Journey, Rat Race 100, Edinburgh to Glamis, Overcoming Challenges, Achieving Dreams, Relationship Freedom in Modern Relationships, Couple Adventure Travel, Couples Challenging Relationship Expectations, Couples Following Their Own Path in Life, Yalla Habibi, Yalla Habibi Podcast, Couples Podcast, Relationship Podcast

Transcript Quotes

"We're talking about Scott's huge achievement of running 100 miles, and that was, that's not 10 days of 10 miles. That is starting and stopping once he reaches 100, which is insanity." 

"I got really excited by the number 100. There was just something about when I looked at the number 100, it just felt big. It felt unachievable."

"There was one particular moment where... I saw myself drop to the floor on my knees crying... and then I just somehow caught it and just went, 'No. No. No, not today.'"

"When you feel as if you are coming down... you have to change something. You can't just run in that."

"It always felt impossible... until it wasn't really."

"I've learned there's three people on this journey. There's the people that will never achieve their limits, there's the people that will achieve their limits, and there's the people that will redefine their limits year on year."

Here’s your ultimate guide to Mexico — we spent a month exploring ancient wonders and colourful cities to tropical islands and food we still think about today. We share why this country completely lived up to the hype, the moment Shelby learnt the Mexican sun plays by its own rules, and why the stereotypes your parents warned you about don't tell the full story. In “Jet Lag Judgements” we reveal the first impressions that hit us the moment we landed, while “Vegan Voyagers” puts Mexico's plant-based scene to the test in a country famous for its food. Finally, in “Worth The Trip” we give our honest verdict on Mexico, including one destination that didn't quite live up to its reputation and the one thing you absolutely need to know before you go.

Chapters

(01:35) – Does Mexico Have the Best Wonder in the World?

(03:28) – Why We Went and Where We Have Been In Mexico?

(06:09) – Jet Lag Judgements: Mexico

(08:24) – Vegan Voyagers: Mexico

(13:52) – Worth The Trip: Mexico

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Here is our latest one:

🎧 Ultimate Canada Travel Guide: Expectation vs Reality | Yalla Habibi Podcast

Discount Codes

Airalo: SCOTR7127

Airalo: SHELBY5873

Vegan Voyagers

🍽️ Señor Frog's | Cancún

🍽️ Señor Frog's | Playa Del Carmen

🍽️ Alux Restaurant Bar and Lounge | Playa Del Carmen

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Transcript Keyword Summary

Mexico Travel, Mexico Travel Guide, Chichen Itza, Cancun, Playa del Carmen, Mérida Mexico, Tulum, Vegan Travel, Vegan Mexico, Mexico Food, Mexico Vacation, Things to Do in Mexico, Mexico Safety, Mexico Culture, Mexico Beaches, Is Mexico Worth Visiting, Relationship Freedom in Modern Relationships, Couple Adventure Travel, Couples Challenging Relationship Expectations, Couples Following Their Own Path in Life, Yalla Habibi, Yalla Habibi Podcast, Couples Podcast, Relationship Podcast

Transcript Quotes

"People were super nice, we were looking a bit lost and people were just stepping in to help us."

"Absolutely Mexico's in those top four. It just gives the best food."

"We got horrendous food poisoning. It actually brought us together, so I suppose there's one positive. We feel like we bonded over our food poisoning."

"People that'll tell us about all the dangers are the people that haven't visited there."

"I really can't think of anyone who wouldn't enjoy Mexico."

"I got a terrible sunburn. We've got a very funny picture of me that we've covered up my bottom with a sombrero, but I was bright red."

Here’s your ultimate guide to Canada. We talk huge fluffy pancakes drenched in maple syrup, the quiet family neighbourhood that made Scott feel like he had stepped back into childhood, and how Toronto somehow feels calm even when it is busy. We share the unforgettable beauty of Niagara Falls, nearly driving into the USA by mistake, the reality of getting around when taxis cost a fortune and why Canada felt far less American than Scott expected. In “Jet Lag Judgements” we reveal what struck us first after landing, while “Vegan Voyagers” puts Canada’s plant-based scene to the test, including one maple-covered dish we still think about. Finally, in “Worth The Trip” we share the highs, the frustrations, what you need to know before you go, and whether Canada earns a place among our favourite countries.

Chapters

(01:37) – Canada's Most Famous Debate

(08:25) – Why We Chose Canada

(09:56) – Scott's Childhood Came Flooding Back

(11:15) – Jet Lag Judgements: Canada

(14:46) – Vegan Voyagers: Canada

(20:00) – Worth The Trip: Canada

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Discount Codes

Airalo: SCOTR7127

Airalo: SHELBY5873

Vegan Voyagers

🍽️ Evviva Breakfast and Lunch

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Transcript Keyword SummaryCanada Travel, Toronto Travel, Niagara Falls, Canada Travel Guide, Vegan Travel, Vegan Food, Maple Syrup, Poutine, Wayne Gretzky, Drake, Justin Bieber, Toronto Food, Niagara Falls Travel, Canadian Culture, World Cup Travel, Travel Podcast, Relationship Freedom in Modern Relationships, Couple Adventure Travel, Couples Challenging Relationship Expectations, Couples Following Their Own Path in Life, Yalla Habibi, Yalla Habibi Podcast, Couples Podcast, Relationship Podcast

Transcript Quotes

"My first impression was that it was less American than I would've thought it would be."

"Everyone understood it. Eviva had six pages of a menu of vegan options."

"Chicken and waffles. You cover it in maple syrup. it's awesome."

"Toronto, even though it's highly populated, it is super chill."

"Canada was one of the calmest and most welcoming countries we've ever visited."

"I wouldn't say there's anyone that wouldn't like it, really."

Here’s your ultimate guide to Brazil. We spent three weeks exploring one of the most iconic countries on Earth, only to find ourselves spending a night at a rock gig with the Hells Angels. From Rio’s famous beaches and football obsession to the moments that genuinely surprised us, we unpack whether Brazil really lives up to the hype. In “Jet Lag Judgements” we reveal what caught us off guard the moment we landed, “Vegan Voyagers” puts Brazil’s plant-based scene to the test, and in “Worth The Trip” we share the moments that made Brazil unforgettable, the things we wish we'd known before arriving, and whether it deserves a place on your bucket list.

Chapters

(02:20) – Why We Chose to Stay In Rio De Janeiro?

(05:38) – Our Unexpected Crazy Night Out With Hells Angels

(16:23) – Jet Lag Judgements: Brazil

(19:33) – Vegan Voyagers: Brazil

(24:57) – Worth The Trip: Brazil

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🎧 Ultimate Peru Travel Guide: Is It Overhyped or Worth It | Yalla Habibi Podcast

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Airalo: SCOTR7127

Airalo: SHELBY5873

Vegan Voyagers

🍽️ Bardana Cozinha Natural

🍽️ Barletta

🍽️ Pop Vegan Food

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Transcript Keyword Summary

Brazil Travel Guide, Rio de Janeiro, Copacabana Beach, Brazil Travel Tips, Brazil Food, Brazil Food Review, Brazil Review, Is Brazil Worth The Trip, Vegan Travel, Vegan Brazil, Maracanã Stadium, Christ the Redeemer, Amazon Rainforest, Brazil Football, Flamengo, Brazil Safety, Hells Angels, Brazil Nightlife, South America Travel, Relationship Freedom in Modern Relationships, Couple Adventure Travel, Couples Challenging Relationship Expectations, Couples Following Their Own Path in Life, Yalla Habibi, Yalla Habibi Podcast, Couples Podcast, Relationship Podcast

Transcript Quotes

"All of a sudden, all the guys stood up around us. What are you doing? Why have you just walked into our club?'"

"It was actually one of the best nights out we've ever had."

"My first impression of Brazil was actually not the smelly cats, it was Copacabana Beach, much nicer than I expected."

"That's an easy five out of five. I would say you could walk five minutes in any direction, you'd get vegan food."

"The people are very welcoming, and they have a real buzz about them. They have a high energy, and it's absolutely true that they are football mad."

"My favorite thing was just being there and experiencing the vibes."

We’re joined by dating and relationship coach, author, and content creator Laura Forbes to put the biggest conversations from this series to the ultimate test. Do our conclusions about dating apps, shared values, and changing priorities actually match what an expert sees behind closed doors? Together, we tackle the question at the heart of the series: can you find a serious relationship on dating apps without compromising who you are? Laura shares the patterns she sees across thousands of clients and over 200k followers, helping us separate dating myths from reality. Finally, in “On The Record” we put Laura on the hot seat as she tackles some of dating’s biggest trending topics and answers the questions everyone wants to know.

Chapters

(02:51) – Laura Reacts to Our Episode 1 Conclusion: What's the Best Dating App for Vegans Looking for a Serious Relationship?

(05:06) – Have You Found There to Be a Superior Dating App Among Your Clients and Followers?

(06:15) – What Would Your General Advice Be to People Who Feel They Are Dating Within a Narrower Pool?

(12:13) – Laura Reacts to Our Episode 2 Conclusion: Do Successful Relationships Need Shared Values—or Just Mutual Respect?

(15:29) – What Do You Think About the Alpha Male/Red Pill Movement, and How Is This Affecting Dating?

(17:15) – Are There Any Red Flags You Can Look Out for When Dating?

(19:10) – Laura and Her Community React to Our Episode 3 Conclusion: What Happens When There Is a Big Shift in Someone's Values in a Relationship?

(25:40) – Series Conclusion: Can You Find a Serious Relationship on Dating Apps Without Compromising Who You Are?

(27:27) – Amazon Bestseller: "Quit Dating Idiots"

(28:21) – Who's the Biggest Idiot?

(29:22) – The Story Behind "Quit Dating Idiots"

(31:18) – On the Record with Laura Forbes

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EP1:🎧 ⁠⁠S2: What's the Best Dating App for Vegans in Their 20s and 30s Looking for a Serious Relationship? | Yalla Habibi Podcast⁠⁠

EP2: ⁠S2: Do Successful Relationships Need Shared Values—or Just Mutual Respect? | Yalla Habibi Podcast⁠

EP3: S2: Kids, Marriage and Changing Values, The Ruby Franke Case | Yalla Habibi Podcast⁠⁠

Laura Forbes

Get in contact with our guest here.

Book: https://www.lauraforbes.com/pre-order

Website: https://www.quitdatingidiots.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/quit_dating_idiots

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Transcript Keyword Summary

Laura Forbes, Quit Dating Idiots, Dating Apps, Dating App Strategy, Serious Relationships, Finding Love Online, Relationship Compatibility, Shared Values, Non-Negotiables, Relationship Compromise, Self-Abandonment, Opposites Attract, Red Flags in Dating, Alpha Male, Feminism, Relationship Deal Breakers, Relationship Freedom in Modern Relationships, Couple Adventure Travel, Couples Challenging Relationship Expectations, Couples Following Their Own Path in Life, Yalla Habibi, Yalla Habibi Podcast, Couples Podcast, Relationship Podcast

Transcript Quotes

"Dating's not a numbers game, it's an alignment game."

"I think you can't go wrong being true to yourself, right?"

"The superior app is the one that you prefer to use."

"What are your non-negotiables, what are your values, so that you know what you're looking for." 

"The real question was, does the life you imagined matter more than the person you imagined it with?"

"As long as there's no self-abandonment then, you know, it's all good."

We ask one of the biggest relationship questions of all: what happens when the person you love changes? From children and marriage to veganism and life goals, we explore whether there are some differences that love simply can’t overcome, and whether chasing the future you imagined is ever worth losing the person you imagined it with. Along the way, we share our own experiences of changing views on kids, marriage, and the values that have shaped our relationship. In “Scott’s WTF of the Week” we unpack the disturbing rise and fall of Mormon parenting influencer Ruby Franke, how a series of gradual changes led to one of the internet’s most shocking true-crime stories. Meanwhile, “Shelby’s Good Vibes Only” shares a powerful Seth Rogen quote that might completely change how you see your partner and what it really takes to build lasting love.

Chapters

(02:50) – What If Your Partner Changed Their Mind About Having Kids?

(14:35) – What Happens When Your Core Values No Longer Align?

(23:38) – Can a Relationship Survive a Change of Heart on Marriage?

(30:50) – What Would Make Scott or Shelby Walk Away? 

(33:27) – When Does the Life You Want Matter More Than the Person You Love?

(34:42) – Scott's WTF of the Week: Ruby Franke: The Warning Signs Everyone Missed(41:21) – Shelby’s Good Vibes Only: The Surprising Truth Behind How Marriage Changes You

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📺 Series 2

EP1:🎧 ⁠S2: What's the Best Dating App for Vegans in Their 20s and 30s Looking for a Serious Relationship? | Yalla Habibi Podcast⁠

EP2: S2: Do Successful Relationships Need Shared Values—or Just Mutual Respect? | Yalla Habibi Podcast

Stories Shared

Scott's WTF of the Week

⚠️ Ruby Franke: The Warning Signs Everyone Missed

Shelby’s Good Vibes Only

💍 The Surprising Truth Behind How Marriage Changes You⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Transcript Keyword SummaryChildren, Marriage, Shared Values, Compatibility, Deal Breakers, Relationship Advice, Relationship Goals, Long-Term Relationships, Relationship Problems, Veganism, Parenthood, Childfree, Mutual Respect, Dating Apps, Relationship Coach, Ruby Franke, Relationship Freedom in Modern Relationships, Couple Adventure Travel, Couples Challenging Relationship Expectations, Couples Following Their Own Path in Life, Yalla Habibi, Yalla Habibi Podcast, Couples Podcast, Relationship Podcast

Transcript Quotes

"Well, yeah, it's like you're choosing a human that doesn't yet exist over one that you very much love and does exist."

"At what point does chasing the life you want become more important than the person you want to spend it with?"

"I'm not gonna lose the love of my life over a marriage." 

"For us, happiness comes from spending life with our best friend." 

"Her 12-year-old son finally escaped from this hellhole through a window and went to a neighbor asking for food and water." 

"Marriage doesn't just change your relationship, but it actually changes you as a person."

We explore one of the biggest questions in modern relationships: do opposites actually attract, or is long-term love built on similarity dressed up as compromise? From vegan and omnivore dynamics to Conservative and Labour worldviews, and even the clash between feminist thinking and alpha male ideology, we break down where difference adds depth and where it starts to quietly test a relationship’s foundations. Along the way, we ask whether holding onto your identity means you’re incompatible—or just honest about what you need. In “Scott’s WTF of the Week” we look at a study that flips a common dating belief on its head and reveals what actually seems to be true about what holds couples together. Whilst in “Shelby’s Good Vibes Only” we share a simple but powerful finding about relationships that might say more about compatibility than any difference ever could.

Chapters

(02:49) – Can a Vegan and an Omnivore Actually Make It Work?

(11:05) – Can a Conservative/Republican and a Labour/Democrat Supporter Really Make It Work?

(20:08) – Can a Feminist and an Alpha Male Live Happily Ever After?

(27:15) – When Does Compromise Become Self-Betrayal?

(28:09) – Scott's WTF of the Week: 89% Alike? What Science Says About Compatibility 

(30:36) – Shelby's Good Vibes Only: What Happy Couples Do More Often

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Scott's WTF of the Week

🧬 89% Alike? What Science Says About Compatibility

Shelby’s Good Vibes Only

❤️ What Happy Couples Do More Often⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Transcript Keyword Summary

Vegan Dating, Omnivore Dating, Political Differences Dating, Opposites Attract Myth, Relationship Compatibility, Shared Values Relationships, Feminism in Relationships, Alpha Male Dating, Manosphere, Red Pill Movement, Couples Similarity Study, Relationship Compromise, Modern Dating, Lifestyle Differences Couples, Gender Roles Relationships, Communication in Relationships, Relationship Freedom in Modern Relationships, Couple Adventure Travel, Couples Challenging Relationship Expectations, Couples Following Their Own Path in Life, Yalla Habibi, Yalla Habibi Podcast, Couples Podcast, Relationship Podcast

Transcript Quotes

• "In fact, partners matched on around 89% of the traits, examined."
• "Nobody agrees on everything."
• "I never considered dating a vegan a problem."
• "I don’t do politics."
• "A man can be a feminist."
• "opposites attracting may actually be a huge myth."
• "Perhaps the most important question isn't, do we agree on everything, but can we still laugh together?"

In Series 2, Finding The One When You're Not Everyone's Type, we're exploring a question that millions of people wrestle with: can you find a serious relationship on dating apps without compromising who you are? Using veganism as a case study, we examine what happens when your values, lifestyle, identity, or circumstances shrink your dating pool, and whether staying true to yourself actually helps or hurts your chances of finding love. 

We kick off the series with a question that sounds simple but turns out to be anything but: what’s the best dating app for vegans looking for a serious relationship? We share the challenges of putting yourself out there when something that matters deeply to you already narrows the dating pool, the apps we loved and hated, how we eventually found each other, and why we think most people are asking the wrong question entirely. Along the way, we revisit our catfish stories and explore whether dating profiles tell you anything meaningful about compatibility at all. In “Scott’s WTF of the Week”, PETA runs a dating app experiment that produces a result nobody saw coming—raising a bigger question about what people are really looking for when they swipe right. Whilst in “Shelby’s Good Vibes Only”, a surprising piece of relationship research challenges one of the most common pieces of dating advice and offers a more hopeful perspective on finding the right person.

Chapters

(02:43) – The Worst Dating App We Tried

(07:35) – When Veganism Became a Dating Problem

(09:10) – The Biggest Fear Vegans Have on Dating Apps

(13:01) – The Best Dating App for Vegans Looking for a Serious Relationship

(20:50) – Can You Judge Compatibility from a Dating Profile?

(21:32) – Our Wildest Catfish Stories

(26:11) – What Dating Profiles Really Reveal

(33:33) – Wider Net or Smarter Dating?

(39:40) – Everyone's Asking the Wrong Question

(41:22) – Scott's WTF of the Week: The Surprising PETA Dating Study

(44:20) – Shelby's Good Vibes Only: Do High Standards Help You Find Love?

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Transcript Keyword SummaryVegan Dating, Dating Apps, Online Dating, Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, Veggly, Catfishing, Serious Relationships, Dating Advice, Relationship Compatibility, Shared Values, Vegan Relationships, Online Dating Success, Modern Dating, Finding Love, Relationship Freedom in Modern Relationships, Couple Adventure Travel, Couples Challenging Relationship Expectations, Couples Following Their Own Path in Life, Yalla Habibi, Yalla Habibi Podcast, Couples Podcast, Relationship Podcast

Transcript Quotes

• "Everyone thinks they start dating at a disadvantage."
• "Hinge absolutely smashes it for me."

• "Dating profiles tell you almost nothing about compatibility."
• "The vegan profile received more than five times as many likes."

Today we celebrate a milestone achieved by fewer than 5% of podcasts worldwide: our 100th episode. We look back on the moments that resonated most with you over the last 100 episodes, from fleeing countries on the brink of war and being chased by bears to battling food poisoning, running ultramarathons, and visiting every Disney park on Earth. We reveal our most listened-to and watched episodes, uncover where in the world you're tuning in from, and reflect on the journey we've shared together. We also share how Yalla Habibi has evolved, and share what you can expect from the next one hundred episodes. 

From Scott and Shelby: “Thank you to everyone who has taken the time out of your day to listen to our podcast. Your support has made this journey far more meaningful than we ever imagined. We promise to keep creating the best content we can and to continue sharing it all with you. Thank you. ❤️”

Chapters

(02:00) – Is Shelby an Abuela Cougar?

(03:08) – How Yalla Habibi Started: From Idea to 100 Episodes

(09:00) – Thank You! Who Actually Listens to Yalla Habibi?

(15:10) – The Huge Milestone Fewer Than 5% of Podcasts Reach

(19:23) – Our Most-Watched YouTube Moments Ever

(28:32) – Our Most-Played Spotify Episodes

(36:13) – What's Next for Yalla Habibi?

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🎧 ⁠⁠⁠S1: Why Travel Arguments Escalate Fast & What It Reveals About Your Relationship | Yalla Habibi Podcast⁠⁠⁠

🎧 ⁠⁠⁠S1: 35,000 Daily Decisions and Why They’re Straining Your Relationship | Yalla Habibi Podcast⁠⁠⁠

🎧⁠⁠⁠ S1: No.1 Intimacy Coach: Does Travel Make or Break a Relationship & Warning Signs Couples Miss – Monica Tanner, Author: Bad Marriage Advice & Host: Secrets of Happily Ever After | Yalla Habibi Podcast⁠⁠⁠

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Transcript Keyword SummaryPodcast Milestone, 100th Episode, Podcast Journey, Podcast Growth, Travel Stories, Travel Adventures, Digital Nomad Life, Podcast Rebrand, Content Creation, Travel Couple, Relationship Discussions, Podcast Analytics, Travel Experiences, Independent Podcast, Long Term Travel, Adventure Lifestyle, Relationship Freedom in Modern Relationships, Couple Adventure Travel, Couples Challenging Relationship Expectations, Couples Following Their Own Path in Life, Yalla Habibi, Yalla Habibi Podcast, Couples Podcast, Relationship Podcast

Transcript Quotes

• "We've bared it all."
• "We are actually, I'm gonna start with a headline, we are in the top 5% of podcasts for longevity because only 4.8% of podcasts ever reach that point."
• "It was one of those moments where people just stare at us in confusion."
• "Actually Albania's actually quite cool. We just faced a couple of idiots."
• "Laos is, I'm gonna be on the record, it's definitely one of my favorite countries we've visited. I might even say my favorite country I've ever visited."
• "It's very much about a couple that are drawn to adventure, challenging the expectations, and following what feels right in life."