Making room for grace by eliminating unforgiveness and a sense of judgementalism. The trap of holding others at a distance for what they may have done to you or just what they may have done period destroys our ability to serve. It clouds our understanding and leads to “writing people off” which often alienates the wrong people in our lives. Unforgiveness and judgementalism leads to a series of shallow relationships which confirm our erroneous thoughts created by U and J. A vicious cycle begins and perpetuates itself into greater and greater isolation. The solution is grace, the intentional decision to forgive and serve others who may have or will fail us in the past, present or in the future.