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Today we have a topic that many of you might relate to. We're talking about comparison - how we compare ourselves to others and why we should stop.
Exactly, comparing ourselves to others can make us feel bad. But don't worry, Leo and I are going to explain why comparing can be harmful. We'll also give you simple tips to help you focus on yourself.
Are you ready to start this journey? Then let's get started.
Why People Compare Themselves
Have you ever thought about why people compare themselves to others? Leo
Well, people compare themselves to other people for different reasons. Some want to know how they are doing compared to others. Others feel stress from friends or society.
Oh yeah, comparing can help them see what they are good at and what they need to improve. But it can also make them feel sad or like they are not good enough.
So comparing ourselves to others can be bad. Have you ever thought about why this can hurt us?
Let me explain it to you. When we compare ourselves to others, we often feel like we're not good enough. For example, if you see someone who's more successful, smarter or better looking, you might think "why am I not like them?" This can make you feel sad and stressed.
Yes, and when we focus too much on what others have achieved, we forget to work on our own progress. It's like being in a race but you're always watching others instead of focusing on yourself. I also talk about comparison, but it's about looking back at how you've been comparing yourself over time.
Exactly, everyone's life is different. We all have our own challenges, strengths and goals.
So comparing yourself to someone else is like comparing apples to oranges. It doesn't make sense.
Here's something interesting from a study by the American Psychological Association. It showed that people who often compare themselves to others are more likely to feel anxious.
That's a great point, Gwen. So what can we do? How can we stop comparing ourselves and start feeling better about our lives? Let's talk about that.
One good way is to focus on your own progress. Even small steps are important.
Gwen, How can our listeners see their progress?
Well, you can look back at where you started. For example, if you're learning English, think about how much better you are now than a few months ago. Maybe before you couldn't understand English movies, but now you can understand some words. That's progress.
Yes, remember progress takes time.
You can't learn English in just one day. But if you practice every day, you will get better.
A good way to see your progress is to write it down. Keep a notebook. Each week write one thing you did better. For example, this week I learned 10 new words or I spoke English with my friends.
That's a great idea. You can also make a success board. Put notes or pictures of your achievements. This will help you see your progress.
Yes, even small steps are still steps forward. Even if you feel slow, you're still moving forward.
Social Media and Comparison
Do you think social media can stop us from feeling good? Let's talk about it.
Oh yes, social media like Instagram, Facebook, TikTok. It's everywhere. Social media can be fun, but it can also make us feel bad about ourselves.
Gwen, Why do you think social media makes us compare more?
Well, on social media people only show the best parts of their lives. You see nice pictures, happy moments and big wins. But you don't see the hard times, the failures or the problems they don't show that.
That's so true. It's easy to look at someone's vacation photos or a friend's new job and think "why isn't my life like that?" But what you see online is not the whole story.
We don't see the tough moments on Instagram or Facebook. Someone might show a picture of their new car, but they don't show the hard work they did to get it.
Or someone might post a picture looking great, but they don't show the effort it took to look that way.
So next time you look at social media, remember you're only seeing the good stuff. Instead of comparing, think about what you're doing well.