You Ain't Imagining This!

Coping can keep us alive — but it also can come at a terrible cost.

In this Believe Black People episode, Ama-Robin shares a personal story of survival coping, connects it to the weight that we as Black people have carried for generations, and names the truth: resilience is not permission, and survival is not freedom.

Together, we'll move from survival coping to empowered personal and collective coping. You'll hear truth-telling, an empowering meditation, and practical steps to release the burdens we were never meant to carry.

Because coping is not consent.

And you ain't imagining this.

How to Carry Less and Live More: A Black Empowerment Choice

This episode is a modern folktale that asks: What are we carrying, and what might it feel like to finally set it down?

I'm Ama-Robin, your storyteller and guide at You Ain't Imagining This — the sanctuary where we name the chaos of living Black in white spaces and remember that we don't have to carry it alone.

It's a story meant for reflection and meditation, with river sounds and a calm, steady pace — an invitation to rest your body, quiet your mind, and imagine release. Afterward, we'll explore what this means for how we cope, both individually and as a community.

And stay tuned — this story is also a doorway into the coming of YAIT Town, a sanctuary of porches, gardens, rivers, and libraries where we learn to carry less and live more.

Because coping is survival. But survival isn't the end of our story.

I'm Ama-Robin, host of You Ain't Imagining This — the storytelling sanctuary where we name the chaos of living Black in white spaces and remember that we don't have to carry it alone.

In this episode, we sit on the porch with the fictional character, Mrs. Alberta Jenkins, a retired teacher and elder in our community, as she names something many of us know but rarely say out loud: the coping tax.

The coping tax is the high-effort coping we pay every day just to exist in spaces that weren't built for us. It's the price that shows up in our bodies, our spirits, and our peace of mind.

You'll hear stories, reflections, and a simple ritual for shaking a little of it off. Together, we'll explore how to recognize unhealthy coping — and begin reclaiming the practices that restore us instead of draining us.

In this episode, we talk about:

• What the "coping tax" is and how it shows up in daily Black life.

• Real examples of high-effort coping:

  • Working twice as hard for half the recognition.

  • Smiling or laughing when something isn't funny to avoid being labeled "angry."

  • Pushing through illness or exhaustion to prove you're reliable.

  • Code-switching until you barely recognize yourself.

• The illusion of "paying the tax" — and the true cost to our health, rest, and family.

• A small ritual from Mrs. Jenkins' porch to help you release some of the day's weight.

And this is just the beginning. Starting next month, we'll step fully into YAIT Town — a sanctuary of porches, gardens, rivers, and libraries where our stories and healing practices live. In this episode, you'll catch the first glimpse of that place.

Because coping is survival. But survival isn't the end of our story.

This final episode of the Black Summer Healing Session is a sacred invitation to pause. Across seven weeks, we've released burdens, reclaimed joy, and restored balance. Now, Ama-Robin presents this episode, While I Rest. This meditative episode offers a soft place to breathe and remember.

✨ You'll receive seven remembrances—one from each session—to guide your reflection. ✨ You'll hear a closing folktale that reminds us why rest is holy. ✨ You'll be invited into a gentle ritual of gratitude and self-affirmation.

Rest is not weakness. Rest is healing. Rest is liberation.

Asante sana for journeying through this Black Summer Healing Session. If this episode spoke to you, please like or share it with someone who needs a moment of rest today.

In this Espresso Talk, storyteller Ama-Robin names "the Hustle" for what it is—a survival pattern of overwork and over-achievement born from our history. It is stealing our rest, our joy, and even our health. From the based-in-truth story of Miss Josie Mae to the groundbreaking research of Dr. Sherman James, we explore how constant high-effort coping wears us down and how we can choose freedom instead. You'll walk away with tools to slow down, reclaim your breath, and live in alignment with your body, spirit, and community.

You'll get in this episode:

• Real-life examples of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual hustle

• How hustle culture damages our health and spirit

• Practical steps to slow down and protect your well-being

Bonus: Grounding Ritual for Release

1. Sit in a comfortable position. Close your eyes if it feels safe.

2. Place your hands over your heart.

3. Inhale deeply for a count of 4. Hold for 2. Exhale for 6. Repeat three times.

4. Whisper or think: "I am more than what I do. I am enough as I am."

5. Imagine placing the weight you've been carrying into the earth beneath you, knowing it can hold it.

6. Open your eyes when you're ready, carrying only what's yours to carry.

In this episode, we mentioned the powerful work of several Black researchers, writers, and organizations who are helping us live longer, healthier, and more liberated lives. Their work supports us—let's support them back.

• Dr. Sherman James – Epidemiologist and creator of the John Henryism Active Coping Scale, a tool for understanding how high-effort coping affects health, especially in Black communities. Learn more about his research and take the scale here.

• Tricia Hersey – Founder of The Nap Ministry and author of Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto. Her work reclaims rest as a form of resistance and a healing right for Black people. Learn more here.

• The Association of Black Psychologists (ABPsi) – An organization dedicated to advancing Black-centered psychology, mental health, and community well-being. They remind us that our history and culture are core to our psychology. Learn more and support their work here.

We've worn emotional armor to survive—from slavery to segregation to being "the first" in white spaces. But healing means knowing when (and how) to set that armor down.

In this Comforting Moment, we honor what protected us and gently choose rest. Through breath, reflection, and a powerful gratitude meditation, we invite the safety of community, culture, and ancestral strength.

💛 In this episode, you'll receive:

1. A grounding visualization for emotional release

2. A cultural reminder that you are never alone in your healing

3. A soft but powerful meditation to thank your armor—and prepare for freedom

✨ Don't miss the Gratitude Ritual Gift in the show notes.

You don't have to carry it alone. Not today.

You'll need:

• A quiet space

• A comfortable seat

• A small object that represents protection (e.g. a scarf, stone, bracelet, or even your hand on your chest)

• A candle or soft light (optional)

Step 1: Settle and Breathe

Sit in stillness. Place your hands over your heart or on your chosen object. Take three deep, slow breaths. On each exhale, gently release some of the tension you've been carrying.

Step 2: Acknowledge the Armor

Close your eyes and name the armor you've worn:

• Perfection

• Silence

• Always being "the strong one"

• Smiling when you're hurting

• Preparing for harm, even when it doesn't come

Say softly (or in your heart):

"I see you. I know why you were needed. Thank you for protecting me."

Step 3: Honor Your Lineage

Speak to those who came before you:

"Thank you to the ones who wore this armor before me. Thank you for surviving, resisting, and preparing the way."

Name one ancestor, mentor, or community member who carried armor so you didn't have to.

Step 4: Release With Intention

Now, hold your object or place your hand on your chest and say:

"I am safe enough to set you down—for now." "I release what I no longer need to carry." "I am not alone."

Visualize the armor gently loosening, sliding off, or being laid beside you like a beloved coat that you'll only wear when needed.

Step 5: A Blessing Forward

Place your hand over your heart and speak this aloud:

"May I move through the world with tenderness and strength." "May I trust that I am protected by love, community, and wisdom." "May I prepare the way for those who come next."

End with a soft, full breath.

💫 Return to this ritual whenever the armor feels too heavy.

You're allowed to rest. You're allowed to heal. You're allowed to lay it down.

Letting go is never simple—especially for Black people living in predominantly white spaces-- where we've been expected to carry more than our share and to do it quietly.

But what if letting go is not abandonment, but liberation? What if it's an act of love?

In this warm, reflective episode, Ama-Robin invites you into three immersive stories —slow-paced, story-driven, and deeply rooted in Black cultural truth.

✨ Story 1: Dreams Left at the Door A woman returns to the porch where she first dreamed big, and grieves the pieces of herself she left behind.

✨ Story 2: Auntie's Place A neighborhood elder helps visitors release the pain they've been told to forget, through ancestral ritual and quiet resistance.

✨ Story 3: Laying It Down at the Door One woman reflects on the sacred art of not carrying everything—not for everyone, and not forever.

Each story reminds us that letting go isn't erasure—it's making room. It's how we reclaim our breath. And how we practice self-love that is not Eurocentric, individualistic, or shallow—but cultural, communal, ancestral, and real.

This episode includes:

• Grief and rage naming rituals

• Ancestral practices of release

• Black psychology of emotional weight

• A Beyond the Story reflection on self-love and sacred release

At the end, you'll hear a short breathing cue and reflection to help you ease into your own ritual of release.

📍 You ain't imagining this. And you never had to carry it alone.

Here are a few simple, sacred practices to support your release:

🕊️ Name & Water Ritual Whisper the name of what you're releasing into a bowl of water. Pour the water out under an open sky.

🔥 Burning the Lie Write down a false belief or racist message you were told. Burn the paper safely and say: "This no longer belongs to me."

🌿 Herbal Holding Hold a grounding item—like a smooth stone or fresh herb (basil, rosemary, or sage). Say aloud: "This is heavy. But I am not alone."

📓 Journaling Prompt What have I been asked to carry that never belonged to me? What am I ready to lay down at the door?

Alafia, fam!

"Some circles can't be saved. But new ones can be born."

In this third episode of the Black Healing Summer session, Ama-Robin invites you to slow down and breathe as she takes you on a journey through an insightful folk tale. You'll hear about an African village's sacred circle disrupted by an outsider's influence, leading to important lessons about the strength--and fragility--of our own sacred spaces.

Ama-Robin draws a powerful connection to our present realities, shedding light on the importance of protecting our circles and knowing when it's time to rebuild.

Stick around for the 'Beyond the Story' segment, where you'll dive deeper into these themes and reflect on your own sacred spaces and boundaries.

Remember, sometimes it's okay to walk away to protect your peace.

"This isn't just a story. It's a mirror—and a warning."✨💫

Three Reasons to Tune In:

🥁 Immerse yourself in a beautiful folk tale that carries deep truths.

🌟 Learn how to recognize and protect your own sacred spaces.

💬 Reflect on your own circles and consider what keeps them whole.

If this resonates with you, be sure to subscribe and share it with someone who needs to hear it.

You deserve to feel safe, in rhythm, and connected. See you there!

What if you had a space where you could breathe, release, and remember who you are—no explanations, no performance, just presence?

In this episode, we step into The Black Healing Room—a sanctuary we can carry with us, anywhere.

This is Part 2 of The Black Healing Summer Session—a season-long journey into rest, release, and renewal.

You'll experience a special Comforting Moment guided visualization to help you imagine your own healing space. And in the Beyond the Story segment, Ama-Robin explores the importance of both individual and collective Black healing—and the radical, liberating power of daydreaming.

✨ Come as you are. ✨ Take what you need. ✨ You ain't imagining this.

In this first episode of The Black Healing Summer Session, host and storyteller Ama-Robin invites you into a powerful reflection on what happens when we stop carrying everything alone.

Through an immersive story, she shares the experience of a Black woman professional who finally decides to lay down the invisible burdens she's been holding: perfectionism, hypervigilance, and the relentless pressure to prove herself.

In the Beyond the Story segment, Ama-Robin reads Paul Laurence Dunbar's poem "We Wear the Mask," and explores how generational expectations to stay "strong" have shaped—and strained—our spirits.

✨ 3 Things You'll Hear in This Episode:

• A moment of quiet liberation in a work parking lot that becomes the start of real healing

• A reflection on how ancestral wisdom helps us unlearn what exhausts us

• Simple, powerful practices to release what you no longer want to carry

This is the beginning of The Black Healing Summer Session—a season-long journey into rest, release, and renewal.

Come as you are. Take what you need. And remember: you ain't imagining this.

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