In this episode of The Conscious Salon, we’re diving deep into the idea of personal responsibility and exploring how often we carry things that aren’t actually ours to hold.

Off the back of a wholesome weekend sleepover with our team (and their husbands), we reflect on a beautiful, chaotic night full of board games, too many wines and a spontaneous osteo appointment on the treatment table. But beyond the mashed potato pivot and parenting tag-teams, what really stood out to us was how often we, as salon owners and empaths, fall into the habit of trying to solve problems that aren’t ours to fix.

This conversation is all about understanding choice - the choices we have in how we respond, support and carry emotion. Because here’s the thing: just because someone tells us they’re not happy, doesn’t mean we’re responsible for making them happy. That goes for our team, clients, partners, kids and friends.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why so many of us assume responsibility for how others feel
• How to support someone without taking on their emotional load
• The common trap salon owners fall into with unhappy team members
• Why you’re not responsible for your team’s (or clients’) happiness
• The link between emotional labour and burnout
• How to ask the right questions instead of fixing everything
• Three practical strategies to start letting go of what’s not yours

We also share what’s helped us navigate these patterns in our own lives and business - and how it’s changed the way we lead our teams and families.

This episode is for you if:

• You’re a salon owner who struggles with boundaries
• You’ve ever felt guilty for saying no or putting yourself first
• You feel emotionally drained from carrying everyone else’s “stuff”
• You want tools to help you show up with compassion and protect your energy
• You’re ready to stop over-functioning for others

Our Three Practical Tips from the Episode:

1. Say nothing. Just listen. Let people share without needing to fix it. Holding space is powerful.
2. Ask: What is your responsibility in this? Empower others to take ownership of their experience.
3. Ask: How can I best support you? Don’t assume - ask them how they want support and meet them there.

This episode is a reminder that you can be loving and supportive without losing yourself. That you can be present without over functioning. And that choosing your peace doesn’t make you selfish - it makes you sustainable.

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