The Unshakeable Life

You Can Forgive Someone and Still Not Trust Them

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What if the thing slowing your healing, clarity, and calling is not a lack of faith, but the pain you still have not released?

In this episode, Jim sits down with Donna Tashjian, founder of Vibrant Living International, for a rich conversation on forgiveness, identity, purpose, and what it really takes to move forward when pain has tried to define your story.

Donna shares how unforgiveness can quietly keep people stuck in old trauma, old disappointment, and old labels, even while they are trying to obey God and step into their calling. She explains why forgiveness is not trust, why it is not a feeling, and why it is one of the most important spiritual choices a believer can make.

Together, Jim and Donna unpack how hidden leaders get boxed in, how resentment can grow when you have been minimized or wounded, and how the Holy Spirit can use even painful triggers to bring deeper healing and freedom.

If you have ever felt stuck in your healing, weighed down by disappointment, or unsure how to move forward into the life God has for you, this episode will meet you with wisdom, truth, and practical next steps.


In This Episode, You Will Learn


  • What Donna means by a “hidden leader”
  • How to handle being minimized without becoming resentful
  • Why forgiveness is not trust, not access, and not a feeling
  • How unforgiveness can keep you trapped in trauma and limit your growth
  • What it looks like to partner with the Holy Spirit in deeper healing
  • Why self-forgiveness is often the first step forward
  • Three practical ways to begin moving from pain into purpose

    • Chapters:


    00:00 Intro
    00:45 Meet Donna Tashjian and Vibrant Living International
    01:23 What is a hidden leader?
    03:53 How to stay free from resentment when others minimize you
    07:21 Misconceptions about forgiveness
    08:35 Why forgiveness is not trust or emotion
    12:37 Partnering with the Holy Spirit in healing
    14:00 Forgiveness as layers and deeper freedom
    17:15 How unforgiveness affects purpose, identity, and success
    20:27 First steps for getting unstuck
    23:26 Where to find Donna and her free gift


    Key Takeaways


    • Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling.
    • Forgiveness is not the same as trust or restored access.
    • Unforgiveness can keep you tied to pain and disconnected from purpose.
    • Triggers may reveal a deeper layer of healing God wants to do.
    • Self-forgiveness, surrender, and support are often the first steps forward.


      • Connect with Donna Tashjian


      🌐 Website: https://www.ivibrantliving.com/

      📱 Social: Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook
      🎁 Free gift: “Walking From Pain Into Purpose” (message Donna on social to receive it)


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        The Unshakeable LifeBy Jim Burgoon