If you and your spouse have read The 5 Love Languages and 

still feel empty, this episode is for you. And if you've 

never picked it up, this is the conversation that will 

make you wish you had years ago.

We break down Dr. Gary Chapman's framework through 15 

years of Christian marriage and show you why most couples 

are speaking the wrong dialect to each other, even when 

they're trying their hardest.

If you're tired of unrelated fights, resentment, and that 

"I'm doing everything right but my spouse still feels 

unloved" feeling, the love tank concept will reframe 

everything.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Intro

01:50 Why this book has been our marriage cliff notes for 15 years

05:04 The love tank concept and why your spouse feels empty

07:05 Words of affirmation: why how you say it matters and the double whammy of public criticism

13:11 Quality time: moving past Netflix and chill to intentional connection

18:45 Acts of service: taking the mental load off your spouse

22:21 Receiving gifts: it's not materialism, it's being truly known

29:18 Physical touch: separating biological needs from soul connection

34:19 How to discover your primary love language plus the 6-Month Challenge for couples who aren't aligned yet

47:16 Parenting with the love languages: the 5-Minute Front-End Rule and the No-Release Hug

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keep our marriage and family connected to God and each 

other. Download at http://www.ourhouse.faith

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RESOURCES MENTIONED

The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman

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