You say yes. Your partner hears no. What happened?

Today I’m bringing you a snippet from my book, 6 Steps to Better Marriage Communication.

1. You’ll hear why communication can get confusing
2. If you’re married to someone who’s typical answer to your idea is “No, I don’t think that’s a good idea,” I’ll offer you some hope
3. And I’ll explain why negativity is often fear in disguise and how you can fix that negativity with just one word

Habit for Your Happily Ever After

This week’s habit for your happily ever after is to notice the unconscious negative patterns you bring to your relationship.

Are you a person who says yes, but…?

This week notice each time you use the word “but” in a sentence after the word “yes.”

Date Night Discussion

This week I invite you to talk about the role of the word, “No,” in your relationship.

Hearing no on a regular basis can be demoralizing. These “no’s” make it tough to collaborate and they kill sexual chemistry.

• Are there occasions where your partner regularly says no to you?
• Do you feel free to say “no” to your partner?
• Where are the places in your relationship you want to feel free to say “no?”

Want more?

• Here’s an episode that will help you stop fear from polluting your relationship communication.
• While eliminating but from your relationship vocabulary will reduce lots of your conflict, you'll still probably disagree. And some of those disagreements will require a tender apology to repair your relationship. Here’s an episode where I lay out a formula for a really good apology.

Links I mention:

• Tina Fey says this “yes-but” answer will destroy the energy in a comedy scene

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