Your Biggest Breakthrough

What happens if you discover that you have an incurable cancer and that you just have months to live? What would you do? How would you handle that?

In this episode, we're talking about the C word...Cancer. The chances are that maybe you, a loved one or someone you know has experienced a cancer diagnosis. Sadly this is a topic that is never too far away from any of us.

Today, we talk to Clayton Bjelan, who did something really, really remarkable. After Clayton's mum, Rhonda Bjelan was diagnosed with terminal cancer, she agreed to do a podcast with him to document each step in her journey form diagnosis to death.

Why would they do that? The answer is simply so that they could help others who are experiencing something similar through the process. Incurable, the podcast, is a conversation between mother and son through the emotional roller coaster that all families experience when faced with the reality of losing a loved one. In the podcast, they work through difficult emotions, disbelief, the struggles of facing death, the preciousness of time and what really is important.

The podcast also addresses the big question that we all have, which is, 'Why would God let this happen?'

In this conversation, you'll hear...

-Why so many of us are afraid to talk about death...04:00

-How Clayton dealt with interviewing his mum, knowing she was going to die...05:45

-How a vision Rhonda had over 30 years ago came true through the podcast...06:45

-What it was like to record through such a painful grieving process...09:50

-How Clayton balanced doubt and his faith in God...11:55

-Clayton's advice on how to talk to people going through a difficult health journey...15:45

-How and when to talk to children about a cancer diagnosis...17:30

-How Clayton juggled his day to day responsibilities, marriage, kids and quality time with mum...20:15

-How Clayton and Rhonda recorded through constantly changing hospital environments...24:20

-Rhonda's magnetic connection with the doctors and nurses...26:00

-What to do when regret and guilt start flooding in...27:55

-Chasing healing vs. living peacefully through the last few weeks...31:15

-The importance of talking about death and how to live without fear of it...34:35

-Where to find a strong support system if you don't already have one...38:00

• Clayton's Facebook group: The Incurable Podcast Group
• Incurable podcast

-What Rhonda would say today about living and dying...40:50

• "Jesus has something special for you"
• "Trust in Jesus" - Rhonda Bjelan

About Clayton

Besides creating an incredibly fascinating podcast, Clayton Bjelan has spent 20 years in Christian radio, the majority at 89.9 The Light in Melbourne, Australia. He has also held the roles of Music Director, Content Director, Head of Product Development, General Manager and Chief Operating Officer. Currently he is the Group Transformation Manager at PositiveMedia (home of 89.9 TheLight). 

Clayton hosts the radio program, ‘In Conversation’ - a full length feature interview program. He’s interviewed over 1500 guests including Prime Ministers, sports stars, musicians and former mafia bosses. 

By far the most challenging of Clayton's experiences has been producing and co-hosting his mum's 3-month journey from cancer diagnosis to her death. It shares Rhonda’s innermost thoughts and struggles during this time. The aim of the podcast is to give others hope if they were to be diagnosed themselves (and let everyone else listen in to what this time is like for the patient and the family). Listen and find out more at www.incurablepodcast.com.

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To learn more about Wendie and her Visibly Fit program, visit wendiepett.com

To find out more about Todd and his coaching program for men, find him on the web at toddisberner.com.

All the links you need to subscribe to the podcast are at both our websites! And if you feel so inclined, we'd be honored if you were to leave a rating and review of our show. It definitely helps with us being more visible to more people.

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Have you ever felt like the cards you were dealt have led to a life filled with betrayal, disappointment and pain?

Do you ever struggle with feelings of hopelessness, abandonment or feeling unloved?

How do you not lose hope when things get really tough? Is it even possible to experience love or success after a life filled with negativity and loss?

Today, we talk to Rob Dempsey, who walks us through some amazing stories of incredible breakthroughs he's had in all areas of his life. You'll be amazed, encouraged, and well equipped to cope the next time you feel like everything is crumbling around you.

Rob's experience with loss started from a young age. He was faced with abandonment, abuse, death of a loved one and even struggled with severe obesity. Now, Rob is a die-hard radio guy on HIS Radio Network. He is a devout Christian, a community leader, a dad, and has successfully dropped more than 140 lbs.

Rob's constant battle with adversity and loss has led him down a path of resilience, triumph, and success. He is living proof of how powerful faith in God and a strong will to keep going can be.

In this conversation, you'll hear...

-Where Rob's story began...04:10

-What kept Rob going in his darkest times...10:20

• JOY FM radio station

-About the impact that radio had on Rob's transformation...16:30

-The breaking point that launched Rob's 140 pound weight loss...19:50

-Rob's advise for people struggling to keep going...27:25

-Rob's reunion story with his birth dad...31:30

-The most influential people in Rob's life...38:45

• President of radio station
• Mentor at radio station
• Youth pastor in Rob's teenage years
• Mentor = Bill Scott
• Jesus Christ
• "Faithful, endurance, not giving up"

Call to action:

To learn more about Wendie and her Visibly Fit program, visit wendiepett.com

To find out more about Todd and his coaching program for men, find him on the web at toddisberner.com.

All the links you need to subscribe to the podcast are at both our websites! And if you feel so inclined, we'd be honored if you were to leave a rating and review of our show. It definitely helps with us being more visible to more people.

And if we like it, we might just read your review on the podcast!

Mental health...a topic many of us can relate to, especially since the COVID pandemic started in March, 2020.

Many of us who have been dealing with ups and downs of our mental health have also developed coping mechanisms and tactics to not have to feel pain or discomfort. What if these coping mechanisms are actually attacking our mental health and spiritual wellbeing?

Could our avoidance in dealing with the pain lead us down a journey of becoming distant with the Lord?

In today's episode, we speak with Rebecca Carrell, a woman who is far too familiar with suffering. Rebecca shares her lifelong struggle with mental health, the coping mechanisms she's used over the years and what truly helped her heal.

She teaches us that when we start to acknowledge where we're at, God opens doors that allow us to breakthrough and in turn, heal.

Discover the path that took Rebecca from overwhelmed alcoholic to the "Joyful Jesus Lover."

In this conversation, you'll hear...

-The anxious road that led Rebecca to secret alcoholism...04:30

• Mental illness runs in Rebecca's family
• 12 years old when she started expressing mental illness
• Positively influenced by Episcopal church
• Negatively influenced by moving every 3 years
• Always trying to fit in + genetic predisposition to mental illness played biggest role in downfall of mental health
• Became an alcoholic after high school
• Low point came in 2009, after finding a bottle of pain killers

-Rebecca's transformative moment...13:20

• "I did a very good job of hiding my alcoholism"
• Luke 21:34
• Deuteronomy 30:19
• Journaled through the entire New Testament
• 12 years sober

-How Rebecca handled the conflict in her soul...19:25

• She was really good at justifying it
• Dr. David Henderson
• Over 90% of addicts are actually self medicating an underlying illness or condition
• Counterfeit comfort is fleeting, temporary relief

-Tips on seeking help without feeling shame and guilt...21:55

• Psychiatrist care, counselors and medicine
• Journaling
• Understanding the chemical imbalance: overproduction of glucocorticoids and adrenaline and underproduction of serotonin and dopamine

-How you may be shutting down the Lord's messages to help you...28:20

• James 5

-Where to start in helping a loved one seek help....30:30

• Intervention
• Do not discount prayer
• Maintain healthy boundaries

-How Rebecca's mental health journey has impacted her ministry...32:35

• "God will take the thing in your life that has caused you the greatest pain and shame and turn that into your weapon of warfare"

-Rebecca's books...35:30

• Holy Jelly Beans: Finding God through Everyday Things
• Holy Hiking Boots: When God Makes the Ordinary Extraordinary
• Rebecca's website

-Rebecca's biggest influences...37:00

• Dad
• Bible teacher named Jen Wilkin
• Rebecca, the 'Joyful Jesus follower' - "Joy is a fruit of the spirit and not a fruit of our circumstances"

Call to action:

To learn more about Wendie and her Visibly Fit program, visit wendiepett.com

To find out more about Todd and his coaching program for men, find him on the web at toddisberner.com.

All the links you need to subscribe to the podcast are at both our websites! And if you feel so inclined, we'd be honored if you were to leave a rating and review of our show. It definitely helps with us being more visible to more people.

And if we like it, we might just read your review on the podcast!

Let's be real, we've all experienced failure at some point in life.

The question is, are you learning from those failures or do you keep repeating the same failures time and time again?

Failures occur in all of our lives often and the truth is that without those failures, we could not experience breakthroughs.

In today's episode, we dive in to some of our own biggest failures that have also led to some of our biggest breakthroughs. We will talk about how to accept our mistakes and how to slow down enough to learn the lesson that each mistake brings with it.

In this conversation, you'll hear...

-What Wendie learned from her recent failure...03:00

-What Todd learned from a recent business investment failure...05:25

-How to stop repeating the same failing cycle...08:40

-A mistake Todd made that led to a huge breakthrough in his business...11:55

-Why we sometimes need others to help us point out our blindspots...14:35

-A big thank you to our amazing listeners...16:40

-How to be open to learning and growing through your failures...18:10

• The Apostle Peter

-About Wendie's Visibly Fit podcast and Todd's upcoming podcast...21:50

Call to action:

To learn more about Wendie and her Visibly Fit program, visit wendiepett.com

To find out more about Todd and his coaching program for men, find him on the web at toddisberner.com.

All the links you need to subscribe to the podcast are at both our websites! And if you feel so inclined, we'd be honored if you were to leave a rating and review of our show. It definitely helps with us being more visible to more people.

And if we like it, we might just read your review on the podcast!

Do you live with regret? Do you have any would've, could've, should've moments making you feel bad about something you did, or maybe didn't do?

Have you ever experienced a moment when it feels like the crumbs your kids or husband keep dropping around the house just keep piling up?

You feel like you're going to lose it, like you just can't take it anymore.

You've reached your breaking point and it's time to walk away.

Sometimes our fear and frustration gets the best of us and we're left with a decision to give in to that fear and frustration or to choose the Godly response. But how do we know what decision is the right one? At what point do we realize we might regret something if we don't make a change?

In today's episode, we talk to the 'No Regrets Woman,' Rhonda Stoppe. Rhonda is the author of 6 books and dedicated to helping women live a life of no regrets. She is a wife, mother and blessed grandmother that has experienced a life filled with nearly regretful moments.

Rhonda's wisdom and experience will help you discover the significance in God and his specific purpose for your life. She shares some of her nearly regretful moments and the ways in which she stuck with God and became the "No Regrets Woman."

In this conversation, you'll learn...

-What prompted Rhonda to become the "No Regrets Woman"...04:20

• We're often stuck in regret and we think God can't use us
• Rhonda stems from a long line of broken marriages
• She knew that if she didn't find help, she would regret the wife she became
• Titus 2 - Built a no regrets marriage
• The women in her church community helped her lead a no regrets life
• By dwelling on what we don't want to be, we attract and become just that

-How to clean up the crumbs of a challenging season...12:30

• Unmet expectations is the number one thing that unravels the love in a relationship
• Un-repented sin, resentment, anxiety and fear renders our prayers powerless

-Finding Godly mentors...15:45

• When God saves, he forgives to the utmost
• Start with a local church - Iron sharpens Iron
• Find Godly people who have experienced what you're experiencing

-The breakthrough moment in Rhonda's life...19:15

• The book of Philippians
• Psalm 119: 165
• Rhonda experienced a very regretful time in her marriage
• Suffered from post-partum depression
• Finally went to an endocrinologist to get help for her hormonal imbalance
• Constantly reading the bible, taking notes and spending time in praryer

-Why Rhonda almost walked away from her faith...25:45

• Her son's diagnosis with severe epilepsy
• Rhonda watched her dreams for her son fall away
• She was ready to give up and angry with God
• Psalm 119
• Eventually began to observe Brandon becoming a musician
• God used Brandon's epilepsy to bring the crowd to glory through his music

-Best advice for avoiding something regretful...29:50

• The book of Solomon
• If you want wisdom for your life, you must ask God for it

-Rhonda's favorite story...32:25

• Rhonda's daughter Meredith lost several babies from failed pregnancies
• When she finally had a successful birth, her daughter had years of surgeries and hardship ahead
• Meredith said, "Mom this is Ivy's trial"
• Your trials are not about you

-The balance between being aware of regret and self sabotaging...36:45

• Your priority must be to love in God with all your heart
• Trust that God always has a plan for the greater good
• When someone is falling behind, be the person putting your hand at the small of their back to help them keep pace
• Be cautious of the people you surround yourself with

-Rhonda's gifts for you...41:40

• Free Gift: Sign up to Nurturing Letters and receive a free ebook, "The Money Myth"
• Gift: 35% Discount code for Audiobook, "Mom's Raising Sons To Be"
• Free: Summer book club via Facebook
• Rhonda's website

Call to action:

To learn more about Wendie and her Visibly Fit program, visit wendiepett.com

To find out more about Todd and his coaching program for men, find him on the web at toddisberner.com.

All the links you need to subscribe to the podcast are at both our websites! And if you feel so inclined, we'd be honored if you were to leave a rating and review of our show. It definitely helps with us being more visible to more people.

And if we like it, we might just read your review on the podcast!

Have you ever been told one thing, but it turned out that the truth was completely different? Can you imagine being told that you have a debilitating disease that you never had?

Today, we speak with Jean Abbott, a resilient woman with a mind-blowing story. Jean was misdiagnosed as a young child with Spastic Diplegia, a form of Cerebral Palsy

After 33 years of countless doctors visits, medical procedures, unnecessary medications she was correctly diagnosed with Dopa Responsive Dystonia (DRD) and given a new chance of life.

In this discussion, you'll hear...

-Why Jean says she would go through it all over again...04:30

• Always wanted to show people that they could stay positive despite their physical limitations
• Over 25 people got a correct diagnosis from hearing Jeans story

-Jean's faith journey...06:40

• Jean accepted her debilitating condition and continued to trust God
• "When I think about the positives in my life, that's when I realize how blessed I really am"

-The effects of Jeans diagnosis on her family and growing up...08:20

• Decided from a young age that she could still do everything all the other kids could do, but maybe just a little differently
• She had 2 older brothers and nobody ever babied her

-How to shift limiting beliefs...10:15

• Change prayer focus and how you're going about being close to God
• Devotionals
• Daily readings from Crushing by T.D. Jakes

-Jeans initial symptoms and diagnosis story...11:30

• Diagnosed around age 4 with cerebral palsy
• Limited mobility with legs and arms
• Sleep was a huge factor in symptoms
• Symptoms worse as she was getting older, which is abnormal for Spastic Displesia
• After having children, her symptoms were getting worse because sleep was declining
• Had to use mobility scooter
• No spasticity, no rigidity, lost all mobility that she had, couldn't even sit up in a chair
• Depression and anxiety set in
• Daughters were putting her to bed every night
• Started going to counseling with depression and anxiety
• Went back to another doctor and was told that something seemed strange and recommended a Neurologist
• Went to see new Neurologist and when she talked about the effect of her sleep. The doctor immediately said she thought she had DRD. Prescribed some medication
• Jean almost refused medication because she was in such disbelief
• Jean had new medicine and glass of wine at dinner that night and was able to walk alongside her husband to the car
• 3 days later, on Easter Sunday (at 33 years old) she was standing in a parking lot without holding on to anyone (first time in a decade), that's when I realized my life had changed
• Connection to God in that moment that she had never experienced before
• Amazing calmness came over her
• Everything was scary but she wasn't going to let fear affect her
• New doctor: Dr. Martha Nance

-Jean's best advice for those struggling with debilitating diseases...20:50

• Trust that God has a plan for each and every one of us
• If we hold on to the bitterness and hatred, we will be imprisoning ourselves
• Try to reach acceptance for what we cannot change
• Take things day by day or even hour by hour

-How the family responded to Jean's new diagnosis...22:05

-The importance of accepting support during hardship...23:50

• "If you let me help you, you're actually giving me a gift"

-Advise on asking for support...26:00

• Be as open as you possibly can to let them in
• If you say 'no,' you're pushing them away
• Jean's website

-How to develop an attitude of gratitude...27:15

• Start your day on a positive note (prayer, gratitude, intention setting)
• Being very specific with daily intentions
• When negative thoughts sink in, ask yourself how you can find the positive in that negative thought

-How to accept that pain might be purposeful...29:25

• Sometimes it takes more work than normal to stay positive
• Know when to turn to God more

About the guest:

Jean Abbott was misdiagnosed as a young child with Spastic Diplegia, a form of Cerebral Palsy. After 33 years of countless doctor’s visits, medical procedures, unnecessary medications and surgeries, she was correctly diagnosed with Dopa Responsive Dystonia (DRD) and given a new life! 

Jean is the author of Misdiagnosed: My Thirty-Year Struggle with a Debilitating Disorder I Never Had.

She has appeared on the Today show, Good Housekeeping and the U.K.'s Daily Mail to share her story. Since then, an overwhelming number of people from around the world have contacted Jean to tell her how inspired they were by her journey from “wheels to heels”. 

As a mother of three children, Jean enjoys all the adventures of her new life, but wouldn't change the journey that brought her to where she is today. Her positive attitude is highly contagious as she encourages others to appreciate the little things in life.

Call to action:

To learn more about Wendie and her Visibly Fit program, visit wendiepett.com

To find out more about Todd and his coaching program for men, find him on the web at toddisberner.com.

All the links you need to subscribe to the podcast are at both our websites! And if you feel so inclined, we'd be honored if you were to leave a rating and review of our show. It definitely helps with us being more visible to more people.

And if we like it, we might just read your review on the podcast!

What happens when we experience a very hurtful loss and then how we breakthrough to find opportunities that God can provide through that loss.

Whether it's been the loss of a loved one, a job, a pet or even a future dream cut short. Everyone deals with some kind of loss at some time in their lives.

Today, we speak to Wayne Pederson, who teaches us that how we handle our losses determine the difference between prolonged pain and resentment or discovering new opportunities and freedom.

Wayne started his career in 1967. He was an announcer on KTIS in Minneapolis. He's the producer of a number of shows on the one of the first satellite shows in the country. He served on the board of the National Religious Broadcaster. He's on a number of boards and committees

In this episode, you'll hear...

-Simple beginnings...04:45

-Wayne talks about the loss of his wife, Norma...10:45

-Wayne's faith journey...19:25

-Questioning God after loss...23:35

-How Willie entered into Wayne's life...26:00

-How to deal with the loss of a job...29:20

-Wayne's advise to people suffering from a loss...35:25

-What it really means to finish well...39:55

Call to action:

To learn more about Wendie and her Visibly Fit program, visit wendiepett.com

To find out more about Todd and his coaching program for men, find him on the web at toddisberner.com.

All the links you need to subscribe to the podcast are at both our websites! And if you feel so inclined, we'd be honored if you were to leave a rating and review of our show. It definitely helps with us being more visible to more people.

And if we like it, we might just read your review on the podcast!

Who are Wendie and Todd, your hosts of this show? You've heard our voices. You've perhaps met us in person at some point.

But who are we?

We decided we should take a few minutes and let our hair down and allow you the listeners to get to know us personally.

We thought of some questions to ask each other, that quite frankly we would want to ask each other, then hit the record button and went to town.

And if you have some questions you'd like to ask us, please ask away at yourbiggestbreakthrough.com. The next time we have a Q&A type episode, we'd love to include it and also mention your name on the air!

Here are the questions we ask each other on this episode:

-Who is the biggest influence in your life?...02:49

-What are your biggest pet peeves?...06:50

-What do you love most about your life?...12:15

-What accomplishment in life are you most proud of?...17:30

-Whats' the best piece of advice you've ever received?...22:40

-What is one word of phrase that can sum up the entirety of who you are?...26:25

-What is one thing most people don't realize about you?...30:55

Resources mentioned:

YBB episode w/ Barbie Breathitt

Call to action:

To learn more about Wendie and her Visibly Fit program, visit wendiepett.com

To find out more about Todd and his coaching program for men, find him on the web at toddisberner.com.

All the links you need to subscribe to the podcast are at both our websites! And if you feel so inclined, we'd be honored if you were to leave a rating and review of our show. It definitely helps with us being more visible to more people.

And if we like it, we might just read your review on the podcast!

Do you dream? Have you ever wondered what your dreams are telling you? 

Perhaps you experience nightmares or no dreams at all. What could these dreams, or lack thereof, be telling you? Could your dreams actually be guiding you to live out your most fulfilled life? 

What if the key to reaching our life achievements was being told to us nightly through dreams? Wouldn't you want to interpret those dreams immediately to see how to reach your highest success?

In this episode, dream expert Dr. Barbie Breathitt breaks down the importance of interpreting our dreams through Christ. She discusses why our dreams are so important, what they can reveal for you and what God has in store for you through your dreams. 

“If I believe it so, it is so.”

In this episode, you’ll hear...

-Why we should take our dreams more seriously...04:15

-How Barbie got started...06:40

-Barbie’s relationship with God...09:30

• “Why did God change?”

How can we interpret our own dreams?...12:00

• Website: dreamsdecoder.com or barbiebreathitt.com
• Giving a FREE GIFT: Dream journal at decodemydream.com
• Books: 
• Dream Encounters
• Gateway to the Seer Realm
• Dream Interpreter
• Dream Seer
• A - Z Dream Symbology

-How not to be afraid of the supernatural...15:00

• “God told me, ‘I change not. I was the same yesterday, today and forever.’”
• John 14
• God’s in an abundant mansion and wants us to move in
• Keep a child-like faith

-Night time dreams and lifetime goals...20:55

• First, we must believe, then we will see
• Lucid dreaming = creative ability
• “Nothing is impossible”

-How to get believers to believe in their dreams...24:00

• Prayer: “Lord, release your creative realm to me so I can see”
• Gratitude
• “If I believe it so, it is so”

-Nightmares and Night terrors...27:05

Where nightmares come from

• Isaiah 35
• Revelation 4

-What to do if you don’t have dreams...30:20

-Ways to enhance dreams…32:55

• Book: A-Z Dream Symbology

-Who to share our dreams with...36:10

-How dreams can lead us to a breakthrough…37:50

• Barbie’s breakthrough dream
• Wendie’s breakthrough dream

-Something most people don’t know about Barbie…43:20

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Dr. Barbie L. Breathitt is an ordained minister and experienced revelatory teacher of the supernatural manifestations of God. She is recognized around the world as a leading master dream analyst, published best-selling author, certified life coach and healing minister. 

Barbie has ministered God’s love in the streets, prisons and hospitals and through television, radio and the internet throughout the world. Her deepest desire is to see people fulfill their unique destiny here on earth. 

Barbie is a dedicated businesswoman and entrepreneur who has established prophetic training centers. She currently resides in Texas. 

***Breath of the Spirit offers a variety of courses on healing, revelatory gifts, angels, the Kingdom of God and dream interpretation as well as evangelistic outreaches and discipleship through the commands of Jesus. Many individuals have been miraculously healed during her meetings and conferences, while others have experienced the presence of the Spirit as never before. 

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ASK BARBIE is a powerful resource and personal ministry time that helps clients understand new strategies, develop plans and apply the direction God gives them through prophecy, encounters, dreams and visions. 

Barbie is an active member with Dr. Chuck Pierce's Global Sphere's Network, Cindy Jacob's Generals International Prophetic Counsel, Harvest International Ministries with Dr. Che' Ahn, Apostle John Kelly's International Coalition of Apostolic Leaders and Xtreme Prophetic with Patricia King.

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To learn more about Wendie and her Visibly Fit program, visit wendiepett.com

To find out more about Todd and his coaching program for men, find him on the web at toddisberner.com.

All the links you need to subscribe to the podcast are at both our websites! And if you feel so inclined, we'd be honored if you were to leave a rating and review of our show. It definitely helps with us being more visible to more people.

And if we like it, we might just read your review on the podcast!

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” -Proverbs 22:6 

What if the person you look up to the most taught you everything you're not supposed to do in this life?

How would it affect you?

It would probably make you afraid of everything. Your father, teaching you to steal, then chiding you for getting caught - even when you follow his exact instructions on what to do should you get caught.

And this happens when you're six years old.

That basically sums up the childhood of Danny Baideme (pronounced “Bay-de-may”). Danny’s father (whom she was named after) was a bookie in the ghetto of Omaha, Nebraska. Respected by all who knew him outside the home, life was absolute hell on earth inside it.

She was taught how to steal cigarettes when she was 6. If one of her father’s petty heists went awry, Danny would soon feel the blunt end of his Size 11 boot - and it wasn’t just on the backside either.

Is it any wonder that Danny chose to embrace “the dark side” spiritually? 

Then a literal slap in the face changed everything. Meaning Danny slapped a guy while on a date. The guy reacted in a non-threatening way, i.e. the way Jesus would want a person to react, and it was over. She wanted to know more about this Jesus person in the man (who is now her husband). 

After accepting Jesus as her savior, and spending years as a “toe in the water” Christian, a providential meeting with a roving security guard at a museum compelled her to take up the cross she bears to this day.

In our conversation with Danny Baideme, you'll hear:

-Danny's childhood groomed her to be a thief and a con...04:55

• father was a bookie in an Omaha, Nebraska ghetto
• people would owe his dad money and dad would go after them, shoot them, run them over with a car, etc (while Danny was in the car)
• youngest memories are lying, stealing, listening to dad beat her and her mom up
• "You're stupid, you're worthless, you're nothing"
• "If I'm doing bad, he's proud of me. If I'm doing good, he's beating me and locking me up"
• No friends and didn't belong anywhere

-The 'first' time Danny's dad took a shot at her...09:50

• Danny was 6 years old

-What led Danny to become an atheist...12:00

• father shot guns in the house
• cocaine frenzy/lost his mind for 24-48 hours and would just shoot stuff
• Dad locked us each in our rooms, shooting a gun and laughing as he slowly walked to each room and said, "I'm coming to kill you"
• "God, if you're really there, I'll do whatever you want, just kill my dad." (11 years old)
• Dad still came in and destroyed her room and beat her up a little
• This was the night Danny became an atheist.

-Selling out to the Devil...17:50

• So filled with hate, she had no conscious anymore
• She started shoveling drugs in her nose, smoking, selling her body, ran away from home, dad almost blinded her
• Dad would be nice to her to get drugs for her
• No moral guide led to her not caring
• I empathize with them because I understand what it's like to be a monster and not have any feelings.
• Adopted a very tough persona "I wanted to be as big of a monster as he was"

-Meeting Phil...20:50

• Worked at a casino - she got clean to get the job and learned to look more feminine
• Phil was a kind computer nerd
• Smacked him in the mouth on 2nd date - he grabbed her hand and said, "If we're going to do this, you can't do that"
• He smiled at my brokenness - strongest, most masculine man I'd ever met
• Danny started asking questions like, "If God is really real, ....."
• Phil used scripture to answer Danny's questions

-Danny becomes a toe-in the water christian...26:00

• 22 years old she read John 3:16, asked for forgiveness and gave her life to Christ
• By this time, Danny had 2 abortions and never felt anything about them, despite knowing abortion was a sin
• Day after being saved, she began witnessing to her family
• Phil and Danny were soon married and started a family
• Phil wanted to go to church but Danny felt she didn't belong
• started scheming to get Phil drunk on Saturday so they could skip church on Sunday
• witnessed often, didn't pray, didn't read anything biblical

-Danny's biggest breakthrough...30:10

• "These God people" kept coming to the house
• Our church, River Valley had a 7 day prayer challenge cards
• Phil encouraged Danny to volunteer at the prayer challenge
• "God, if you want me to volunteer or anything stupid like that, you better hit me in the head with a 2X4"
• 16 years of marriage
• She was "comfortable" being a toe-in-the-water christian
• Made eye contact with the security guy, "You two are down with the bible, huh?" - What?!?
• Always dressed to get hit on - "I don't look like a lady who believes in God"
• Security officer says, "I think I'm supposed to tell you you're supposed to volunteer or something."
• Prayed with and witnessed to people at the men's shelter

-How Danny became comfortable with ministry...43:10

• We all have to do our parts, collectively
• Driving vans and picking up kids in the inner-city
• Women are breaking free from prostitution, choosing not to get abortions
• Friday Night Street Ministry in Minneapolis
• Befriend Danny on Facebook to get involved

Resources:

Danny's book: Godcidence: Chased by the Devil But Caught by Christ

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