Today Emil interviews his son, Hunter Harker. 

Hunter is a college student and trainer for the Residential Treatment Center Parent Program. He explains the neurobiology of defensiveness and insecurity. 

Our brains have evolved to help us survive, but they have not adapted to the modern world. The primal part of the brain is hijacking our logic and empathy with even the smallest perceived threat. By fully understanding what is happening in the mind and body, and why, we can take steps to address the thoughts and reactions that no longer serve us. This allows for effective communication and the opportunity to connect with those around us. 

Here are some tips for controlling your lizard brain:

• Be aware of your emotions. When you feel yourself getting angry or scared, take a deep breath and try to calm down.
• Think before you act. Don't let your emotions control you. Take some time to think about the consequences of your actions before you do anything.
• Use relaxation techniques. Practicing relaxation techniques such as meditation or yoga can help to calm the lizard brain.
• Talk to someone. If you're struggling to control your lizard brain, talk to a therapist or counselor. They can help you develop strategies for managing your emotions.

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