By Tony Dee
The podcast currently has 17 episodes available.
There is a strength within each of us humans, that, when we purposely disconnect from from it for the sake of hate, you release turmoil in yourself and those around you, because you have lost the power that sustains your mental and physical well being. In this episode I tell you what it is and how to be sure to stay tapped in, while sharing it with others in it's entirety.
00:00 Music by Divine C.U.T.S.
Introduction
* lifestyle change.
* It’s so doable.
* It’s possible.
* It’s exciting.
* we have a life plan
* We act on it.
* We live by it.
* It’s not a Bible.
It’s just words on the paper. But it gives us some guidance. Something to go by. And we don’t have to go and look at it. But we know in our heart, what’s there.
That’s not gonna happen. But in the early years, we had some tough moments. We’re getting to really know each other on a deeper level, going through new experiences together, knowing each other’s temperament, when to give space and when to swoop in for support.
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00:00 Music By Divine C.U.T.S.
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In this episode we answer 'are my feelings truth' and, we’ll talk about how to recognize them for what they are.
Tony Dee: 0:52 This makes me feel so good. Your feelings say, get away from it as quick as possible. That’s F-E-A-R or false evidence appearing real or, my heart says, yes. When you look deeper into the situation, you will discover the facts. Finding facts isn’t the result of taking a surface view to reach a feeling, or feeling your way to a conclusion.
Finding facts is a result of taking time to move past the fear or lustful feeling, so you can get to know the deeper cause or get to know the person better or the potential result of what you’re looking at. Feelings are an indicator that you need to look deeper into it, whatever it is, not that you should run away or jump into it. That’s not what feelings mean. This all means rushed decisions could cost you dearly later.
Today’s topic is feelings. What role do feelings actually play in decision-making? Feelings Are Indicators.
Liz Merriweather: 1:57 You know, I like to say feelings are fickle. They are, as you said, literally an indicator of some thing. But unless it’s a life or death situation, reacting impulsively and emotionally to a feeling can end in a bad way.
So, yeah! Let’s take a minute to listen to Dr. Erin as she draws the connection between a person’s feeling state and the health of their relationships. Because she’s spot on. After she read your book, she had some real specific thoughts to share. Let’s listen...
The rabbit hole definition of feelings
Common Thinking Traps
Contact Tony
The brain on chemicals
The Book
Music: Divine C.U.T.S.
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Introduction: Tony Dee: 0:18 Hi, I’m Tony Dee, author of “Your Case For Love,” the book, founder of the “Bypass method,” helping you bypass the wrong person so you can get to the right person this time.
Liz Merriweather: 0:35 Hi, I’m Liz Merriweather, life coach, Psychotherapist, and co-host of Your Case For Love podcast.
Tony Dee: 0:42 Welcome to Your Case For Love. Guest Introduction
Liz Merriweather: 0:45 In this episode, we’re going to introduce you to Dr. Erin Mayfield, who we affectionately call Dr. Erin. Dr. Erin is going to be featured in a mini-series over the course of the next several episodes. And you’ll see why in just a minute.
Tony Dee: 1:02 Dr. Erin?
Dr. Erin: 1:03 Oh well, thank you so much. I’m so grateful to be here on your podcast. It’s just really an honor to share this time with you and with Liz. So I’m a physician whose passion is lifestyle medicine. I am a retired gynecologist. I practiced in the Covington and Conyers, Georgia area for almost 30 years. And those are suburbs of Atlanta. We moved to Pensacola Florida.
Getting License: Dr. Erin: 1:33 And in the process of getting my medical license, I had an accident, which required shoulder surgery and gave me a lot of time to read. That’s how I discovered lifestyle medicine.
Childhood: Dr. Erin: 1:45 Growing up, I had very loving parents. However, my father was a very angry man. And he had a lot of issues from his childhood. He grew up in the depression. He was out on the streets when he was six years old collecting trash, trying to bring home pennies to help support his family. So he had a really hard life.
To help you start setting expectations start with the right person challenge
Codependent Relationship: Dr. Erin: 2:05 And there was a lot of anger there, a lot of anger that was never processed until he was quite elderly. So when I was growing up, he verbally abused my mom. And I was very defensive of her. So there was this codependent relationship between the two of us, which really extended with me into adulthood.
Marriage: Dr. Erin: 2:30 So when I married the first time, I also married into a codependent relationship. And the man that I loved turned out to be an alcoholic. We struggled for years. And he finally volunteered to go to rehab, which I congratulate him for that.
Problems in Marriage: Dr. Erin: 2:48 And it was rough. But that’s when I really learned about all of my emotional problems and how I contributed to the relationship, how my codependency contributed to his alcoholism and how I really supported him, in doing that, even though, I thought I didn’t want to. So that was a critical transformation for me and that takes a long time to work through. I mean, there’s this initial emotional crash, where you feel like the whole world is coming at you. And there’s this black cloud that I felt like I was living under that I kept going to counseling, I went and went and went and when I was faithful with it, and things started to get better.
Divorce:Dr. Erin: 3:27 And we eventually divorced, because we realized we weren’t compatible. That was okay. Had I not gone through that transformation and all of that counseling and really understood what codependency was, and how it affected my life, and how I affected other peoples’ lives in that space, I would have never been able to have the healthy relationship that I have with my husband, Steve.
Today’s Topic: Liz Merriweather: 4:13 In this week’s podcast we’re also asking why create an avatar? Please see the full footnotes on our website: https://podcast.yourcaseforlove.com/what-is-an-avatar
Please don't allow sections of this video to offend you. It's for educational purposes.
Your Case for Love – Episode 12
Music by Liz Bills and The Change
Introduction
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Musical interlude by Liz Bills and The Change
Lust Defined
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Research
Liz Merriweather:
If you think about it, we’re made... It’s in our DNA. We’re made to have this emotion to drive us to procreate. If we didn’t have a very strong desire to do that, we as humans wouldn’t spend her energy on that.
The Scientific Study of Lust
So it’s basically hormonal. And I’ll say some more about that in a minute. But this particular researcher, with a team of scientists led by Dr. Helen Fisher, the article that I referenced, and it’s linked in the show notes references a team of scientists led by Dr. Helen Fisher at Rutgers University. And that team basically broke down the concept of romantic love into three categories:
• lust
Lust
And what they identified through their research is that lust is literally driven by the hormones testosterone and estrogen.
After the period, that initial period of, and you know it, it’s that feeling when you get the butterflies in your stomach...
The Buzz
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01:33 When George Floyd happened, when the event happened, I realized right at that point that, and I cried for 3 weeks or more. It was just uncontrollable. I couldn’t put out a podcast because of that. I realized at that point that people need to know love on a general basis. Just as though you understand what the word ‘the’ means. Love needs to be understood just as well. So, and the podcast was called “Love Creativity” back then.
02:06 So, Love Creativity Podcast has now transitioned to Your Case for Love Podcast. And Your Case for Love exists to demonstrate that kind of love I’m talking about, “how people can sustain love with compassion?” It should come from inside the home to outside, to the world as a whole.
02:30 Looking at the core, we really need to be working towards world peace starts with people having compassionate relationships with each other, on a one on one basis, like with your neighbor, your colleague, or stranger at the grocery store. Some people even believe, though, sad to say, that it’s okay to have a relationship that thrives on fighting and arguing with each other, but.
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Today I'm reading the content and introduction from Alienable Rights, a book that listed out laws that embodied systemic racism in America. Learning these laws and taking them to law makers who can lift them is extremely important in these times. The reading is stumbled and emotionally hard for me, but I thought it was important for me to post it anyway for the benefit of African American progress in justice.
There is a strength within each of us humans, that, when we purposely disconnect from from it for the sake of hate, you release turmoil in yourself and those around you, because you have lost the power that sustains your mental and physical well being. In this episode I tell you what it is and how to be sure to stay tapped in, while sharing it with others in it's entirety.
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The podcast currently has 17 episodes available.