Why do I say your parenting is ineffective? Because you were never truly by your child's side when they needed you. Being there for your child is not just buying them what they need or even PAYING FOR THEIR EDUCATION... But rather guarding their subconscious mind and belief system from all that has the potential to destroy their living in the future. All of what can rob them of their true happiness is what need to be protected from and THAT IS YOUR DUTY AS A PARENT.  Even the youth watching this should learn and make changes in their behaviour and mindset so they do not make this mistake again. Now I am not saying you are evil or do this consciously but all this happens unknowingly. And all this just pushes your child further away from you. Your EXPECTATIONS for them make you impatient and take steps which cause harm to your child's mindset and subconscious mind. They lag behind in school, YOU SCOLD THEM, They want to opt for creative aspect, YOU PULL THEM DOWN by giving more importance to their marks, They share some story of their friends and peer group, YOU SCOLD THEM and impose the "RIGHT" thing according to you rather than explaining them what is wrong or right. AND there are countless more such examples.  To close the gap and get closer to your child, Make them feel heard, Listen to them patiently, Teach them by showing them all the aspects of the situation and see how well they respond to you and learn.  I know you are not doing this consciously but you need to take conscious steps to improve your relationship with your child. Because all this affects their mental peace and beliefs which alters their behaviour in the future.  Parenting tips for young and old parents alike. Learn how to get closer to your child.  ReeInstall The New You, with Amarrenndra