Ever opened your mouth at your child and heard a fourteen-year-old version of yourself come out?If so, this week’s audios are for you.

We’re returning to your inner teenager - because some of you asked to - and because she’s livelier and far more involved in your parenting than you might like to admit. You may think you’ve grown past her, but she hasn’t gone anywhere. She’s simply been waiting for you to notice when she grabs the wheel.

This piece explores those moments when a tiny irritation - socks on the floor, an eye roll, a door closing - suddenly lights a fire inside you. A heat, a sting, a rage that does not match the circumstances. And before you know it, you’re speaking with a voice you haven’t used in decades. The voice of the younger you who once felt dismissed, powerless, humiliated or unheard.

Most of us were never taught this: when you’re triggered as a parent, it’s often your younger self reacting. Not the adult you’ve worked so hard to become. Your inner teenager isn’t trying to ruin your day. She’s trying to protect you from old hurts - the ones you pushed aside because you had to.

But she is not the one who should be parenting your child.

So this week, the challenge is simple and brave. When a big reaction rises, pause. Put a hand on your chest, notice who is speaking inside you, and quietly say, “Hello inner teen. I see you. I’ve got this now.” Let her remind you what it feels like to be small and overwhelmed, but keep your grown self in charge.

Your inner teenager carries the history. You carry the wisdom.

Thank you for pausing with me. Take care.

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