Your Intentional Life Podcast

What if confidence isn’t something you wait for — it’s something you’ve already earned? In this episode, Kima-Shai flips the script on one of the biggest myths women over 45 carry: that confidence is a feeling that shows up before the action. The truth? Confidence is evidence. It’s the record of every hard thing you’ve already done. This episode will show you how to stop waiting and start counting.

In This Episode:

•Why waiting to “feel confident” is keeping you stuck
•The real definition of confidence — and why it changes everything
•Why your brain hides your wins from you (and how to take them back)
•Why small evidence counts just as much as the big moments
•How confidence in one area of your life is proof of capacity everywhere else
•The 5-minute Evidence Audit you can do today

SOMETHING DIFFERENT FOR YOU!
This Week’s Practice — The Evidence Audit
Grab your journal and write at the top: “Things I’ve done that once scared me.”
Set a timer for 5 minutes. List everything. Don’t filter. Don’t grade them. Just collect.
Then ask yourself: If this were a court case, and you were arguing for your own capability — what would the evidence show?

Have you ever wanted something so deeply you could feel it — and then, in the same breath, heard that quiet voice that said “but not for you”? 

That’s split energy. And in this episode, we’re naming it, tracing it back to where it came from, and learning how to stop letting doubt make our decisions.

For so many of us, the wanting has never been the problem. We know how to dream. What we were never taught is that we’re allowed to receive. This episode gets into the roots of that fracture — generational messaging, cultural double-binds, survivorship conditioning — and why sitting at the threshold of the thing you want can feel more terrifying than never trying at all.

You’ll leave with a clearer understanding of what split energy is costing you, how to start healing the divide between desire and deserving, and three incredible affirmations to carry with you when the doubt gets loud.

You want it. That wanting is not a mistake. Let’s talk about what to do with it.

Hey Y’all! Got a good for you!

Ever been told to “write your vision down”, but really had no idea what your vision even is? Yeah, me too! 

In this episode, we’re getting real about the pressure to have everything figured out - especially in seasons where life is shifting and you are still “becoming”! You don‘t need a perfectly mapped out plan to begin. You just to the bravery and willingness to … begin! 

If you’ve been feeling stuck, uncertain, or something you can’t quite name just yet (talking to myself here), this conversation will meet you right where you are. Because the whole truth is, clarity comes from living and doing, not from overthinking!

Hey Y’all! 

So this episode is gonna get a little personal, all up in my business, and will be real raw. But it has a VERY important message for all of us.

Stop being so wrapped in obtaining/maintaining your PEACE, that you end up stagnant and not moving forward! 

Healing happens in Peace. Growth happens when you DISRUPT things! 

Cheers to Disruption!

Let’s Disturb Tha Peace! 

Y’all! This episode is very raw, very unedited, so very imperfect! 

It’s making me itch just uploading it knowing how bad the sound is in some places! 

But you know what? THAT IS THE VERY POINT! 

Action beats doubt every time! 

Perfection will never be better than progress! And progress for me is simply hitting ‘record’ then uploading it as is! 

They won’t all be like this, I promise! But I needed to rip off the bandaid of perfect to show you what ‘real’ actually looks like! 

Thanks for listening! 

Life is a series of choices. But too often we make a decision and then second guess it into the ground! 

In this episode, I’m sharing my thoughts on how to DECIDE and choose with clarity, TRUST your intuition, and stay on course when fear rears its ugly (but necessary) head! 

Think of this episode as a loving reminder, a gentle nudge to remind you: You’re much wiser than you think! 

Plus I really share something in this episode that should be embarassing, but I also explain why it absolutely is not! 

 Let me know what you think! Follow me on Instagram at @YourIntentionalLife and share your decisions! 

We love to glamorize the “fear of success,” but let’s be real—it’s just fear of failure showing up in a fancier outfit. In this episode, I’m breaking down how the pressure of maintaining success, the fear of judgment, and even our self-sabotaging habits all trace back to one thing: being terrified of failing.

We’ll talk about why we shrink ourselves when opportunities show up, how procrastination is really just protection in disguise, and why success isn’t a final exam you either pass or fail—it’s an ongoing evolution.

If you’ve ever wondered why you hesitate when things start going too well, this conversation is for you.

✨ Reflective question for you: Where in your life are you calling it fear of success, when really it’s just fear of failure whispering in the background?

Also here’s the youtube link to that video I watched that gave me the gut punch. Sharing is caring! 😇😉

I had never heard of the man before today, but I like his style and will certainly be learning more! 

https://youtu.be/N65NPYRN8z8?si=-soYt0hvNtrUo5NG

Let’s tell the truth, friend… when did “rest” start feeling like failure? Somewhere along the way, we learned to measure our worth by how much we do, how full our calendar is, and how little we sleep. But in this episode of The Midlife Reset, we’re flipping the script.

Because rest isn’t retreat. It’s resistance. It’s a radical act of reclaiming your time, your energy, and your joy—without needing to earn it through exhaustion. 🧘🏾‍♀️✨

In this soul-nourishing episode, we’re diving into:

• Why rest feels foreign but is actually your birthright
• The toxic myths about productivity that we internalized (and how to unlearn them)
• What it means to redefine success on your own damn terms
• How to build intentional rest into your life without guilt

Whether you’re burnt out, secretly fantasizing about disappearing for a weekend (or a month 👀), or just craving more being and less doing—this episode is your gentle (but firm) reminder that slowing down isn’t giving up… it’s leveling up.

Ever feel like your brain is a browser with 37 tabs open, and you can’t figure out which one is playing music? Same chile, same! 

In this episode of The Midlife Reset, we’re talking all about the power of decluttering, not just our physical spaces, but our emotional closets, our mental inboxes, and the chaos that’s been hitching a ride in our lives for way too long.

This isn’t just about tossing out old clothes (though yes, that way-too-worn sweater from 2004 can go). This is about creating emotional and energetic space for the version of you that you’re becoming. We’re digging into the invisible clutter—the guilt, the old expectations, the toxic habits—and gently, intentionally clearing them out.

You’ll walk away with a few simple ways to start letting go, making room, and giving yourself permission to live lighter. It’s time to declutter your way to clarity, peace, and forward motion. You ready? Let’s clean house, inside and out. 🧹💜

What if *not* having all the answers was actually your secret weapon? In this refreshingly honest episode, we’re breaking down the magic that happens when you stop pretending you have it all figured out — and start giving yourself permission to live in the beautiful messiness of “I don’t know.” 

Together, we’ll explore why releasing the pressure to "have a plan" is one of the most freeing and transformative gifts you can give yourself in midlife. If you’ve ever felt like you were "behind" or stuck because you couldn't map out every next move, this episode will help you breathe deeper, trust more, and remember: not knowing isn’t a failure — it’s an opportunity.