Confession time. For years, my first instinct when something felt off in my marriage was to fix it. Diagnose the problem, apply a solution, move on. Turns out I was using the wrong mental model.

Most of us have inherited a mechanical way of thinking about marriage. Your marriage needs fuel. It needs a tune-up. If something is wrong, find the broken part (or the broken person) and fix it. Although well intentioned, this metaphor can quietly reinforce unhelpful assumptions and unrealistic expectations.

In this discussion, I'll share why the mechanical metaphor falls apart under real-world pressure, why a garden is a much more accurate picture of what God designed marriage to be, and what it looks like to cultivate your marriage even when it has been in a long season of drought (spoiler: there are no shortcuts, and that is actually good news). Grab a cup of coffee and let's talk about it.

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