Your Marriage Matters

Hey gang ...

This week we start a new series 5 Tough Questions About Money! And, Question #1 is ... Joint Or Separate Bank Accounts, Which Is Best?

And, the answer is? It depends! I know, that stinks for those of you that wanted us to solve the problem or the debate you and your spouse have ongoing on this subject. What we think you are going to value even more are the 4 Tips we give you to help you find the right answer that will work best in your, or any, situation!

Let us know what you think and please let us know what are your "what if" questions around this subject and how we can help you come to an effective solution in your marriage! 

Next week ... we will be tackling which is better? Spender vs Saver in a marriage! 

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

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Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #069 ... How To Make YOUR Spouse Feel Loved! Getting the Most From YOUR Survey ... 

We have a great show for you this week as we dig into being intentional about building strong, vibrant marriages and learning what our relational needs are and how they give us the keys to making our spouse feel loved!

This week we are digging deeper into last week's podcast and going through a debriefing process that will bring a lot of clarity around what do I do exactly to make my spouse feel loved! 

We have a Relational Needs Debriefing form you can download at ... 

1. Our Your Marriage Matterz Facebook page - Click Here
2. Or, go to our podcast blog page - Click Here
3. Or, e-mail Jim and put SURVEY in the subject line and he will send it to you ... [email protected] 

On the podcast we model the debrief for you and while doing it we learned new things about each other even after 31 years of marriage. We are excited to hear what you learn in your debrief!

Let us know if you have any questions or if we can help you in anyway ... 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #036 ... How To Make YOUR Spouse Feel Loved! Understanding Relational Needs In Marriage!

We have a great show for you this week as we dig into being intentional about building strong, vibrant marriages and learning what our relational needs are and how they give us the keys to making our spouse feel loved!

We have a Relational Needs Survey you can download at ... 

1. Our Your Marriage Matterz Facebook page - Click Here
2. Or, go to our podcast blog page - Click Here
3. Or, e-mail Jim and put SURVEY in the subject line and he will send it to you ... [email protected] 

In this survey we measure 10 different relational needs ... Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, Attention, Comfort, Encouragement, Respect, Security and Support. Here are some things you will learn:

• Doing the survey will provide a lot of clarity around the mystery of how do I make my wife/husband happy!
• Why doesn't he/she respond when I (try to make them feel loved with what makes me feel loved)? 
• Some great ways to communicate what you want from your spouse and learn what they want from you!
• Clear up a lot of sources of frustration in your marriage you may never have even known existed!
• A great plan moving forward for being intentional in your marriage1

We know you will enjoy this week's podcast so download the survey, complete it and let's get started!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

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Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz episode YMM #067 ... 5 "Vital Signs" That You Have A Vibrant, Healthy Marriage! In this week's episode we draw on Christie's experience as a nurse that teaches CPR, Advanced Life Support Systems and a number of other classes that teach other nurses how to check "vital signs" in their patients. 

We are going to look at 5 Vitals Signs we see in vibrant, healthy marriages. They are:

• Communicating effectively ...
• Dealing with conflict in a constructive manner ... 
• Planning and dreaming a future together ... 
• Constantly growing individually and as a couple ... 
• A deep love, appreciation and respect for each other!

So, check it out and assess your own relationship "vital signs"!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

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Welcome to YOU Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #066 ... 7 Great (and FUN) Texts You Can Send Your Spouse This Week!

After 8 intense weeks of studying Pastor Rick Warren's 40 Days of Prayer we thought it would be a good idea to lighten things up a little bit, have some fun and still do something that will improve the quality of our marriages.

So, here are the 7 days of texts we encourage you to send your spouse. Fill in the blanks however you see fit and please, let us know how it goes on the YOUR Marriage Matterz Facebook group! 

Day #1 - I wanted you to know I love the way you (fill in the blank)!

Day #2 - When I met you the first thing that caught my eye was (fill in the blank)!

Day #3 - One of the things I admire about you most is (fill in the blank)!

Day #4 - One thing I would love for us to plan to do together is (fill in the blank)!

Day #5 - I am totally in love with your (fill in the blank)!

Day #6 - I think you are so sexy when you (fill in the blank)!

Day #7 - What is one thing I can do to make you feel more loved?

Enjoy and have fun!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #065 ... What To Do When God Doesn't Answer Your Prayer the First Time? 

This is the final episode of the 40 Days of Prayer series and man have we learned a lot about prayer! Today we learn about unanswered prayer. As you will hear, all prayer is answered in one of 4 ways. 

God says ...

• No - I won't do what you ask because he knows what's best for us!
• Grow - I need for you to mature a little bit before I answer that prayer. 
• Slow - which means "wait" now is not the time. And, God's timing is always perfect!
• Go - this is the answer we always want ... YES!

We trust you have enjoyed the series and we trust you will enjoy this last, but very important, episode! 

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz episode YMM #064 ... How To Pray In A Crisis! This is our 6th week in Rick Warren's 40 Days of Prayer and we are going to learn the pattern for praying in a crisis from Jehoshaphat in 2 Chronicles 20 when 3 vast armies attacked the Israelites and Jehoshaphat had only 2 days warning! Talking about a crisis!

To summarize his prayer he basically said to God ... "I know who you are, I know what you have said, I know what you have done, I know what you have promised and I know you will do it again"!

Talk about trusting and depending on God! That is the model we want and need to utilize when our marriage, kids, family, health, finances or anything else is in a crisis!

We trust you will find this episode as valuable as we did!

 
Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YMM #063 ... Praying For A Breakthrough! We are in Week 5 of Rick Warren's 40 Days of Prayer study and this week we are going to learn the pattern for praying for a major change!

This week's lesson comes out of Daniel Chapter 9 and we are given the pattern Daniel used when he needed a breakthrough for the people of Israel who were in exile in Babylonia!

This is the same pattern we need to use when we are looking for a breakthrough in our marriages! 

We trust you will enjoy this week ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #062 "Why Change Is Critical To A More Vibrant, Healthy Marriage ... And, How To Make It Happen!"

Tommy Hopkins once said "the price of progress is the pain of change"! So growth can certainly be uncomfortable for sure and at times can be downright painful. In this episode we will discuss why it is so important to you and your marriage and we are going to provide you with a formula for making it happen in your lives!

We will be back next week with our next session in the "40 Days of Prayer" study!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matters podcast episode #061! This week we are tackling the second part of the Lord's Prayer and specifically how it applies to our marriages. 

We are in Rick Warren's 40 Days of Prayer study in our church, in our Sunday School Class (now called a Connect Group!) and we are following along here in our podcast as well! 

If you would like access to all of the resources we talk about in the podcast go to www.yourmarriagematterz.com/episode61. There you will find the videos, the powerpoint presentation and other awesome materials!

Enjoy this week's study! 

Jim & Christie Jacobus