Your Marriage Matters

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz episode YMM#040 The Power of Thanksgiving In Marriage ... and Life!

We feel so blessed to be able to do this work that we do and blessed that you would follow us. We are prayerful this Thanksgiving for all of the marriages out there and wanted to pass on a Thanksgiving 2018 podcast to encourage you!

As always, we do have a great exercise at the end of this podcast and encourage you to take some time to do it. And then, share it on the Facebook Group at

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1017258051759978/

We look forward to seeing your responses!

Happy Thanksgiving from Team Jacobus ... 

Jim & Christie Jacobus

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz with Jim & Christie Jacobus. This episode is Introducing "The 5 Love Languages" And How You Can Use Them To Strengthen YOUR Marriage! We are going to plug everyone into this awesome work done by Dr Gary Chapman and the folks at www.5lovelanguages.com!

This is another in our series on how to be intentional about building your marriage! In this episode we talk about the 5 Love Languages:

• Gifts
• Quality Time
• Physical Touch
• Words of Affirmation
• And ... Acts of Service

To get the most from this podcast we recommend you download the 5 Love Languages assessment tool and take it before listening. You can access the survey at any of the following ... 

1. Our Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1017258051759978/
2. Our podcast blog page - http://marriagematters.libsyn.com/
3. 3. At the 5 Love Languages website - www.5lovelanguages.com 

Get ready to learn yet another way to intentionally build YOUR marriage!

Jim and Christie Jacobus 

 

Hey gang ...

With Thanksgiving just 2 weeks away we wanted to run one of our most popular podcasts ever on "How Will You Decide Where To Spend The Holidays"! We think you will enjoy how we, as Team Jacobus, go about making those tough decisions even after 31 years of marriage!

We trust you will enjoy ... 

Welcome!  Today’s episode is about Holidays.  Where will you spend them?  Have you and your spouse had this important conversation?  This topic involves the expectations you have of your marriage and ties to family beliefs and traditions.  There are several variables to consider:  stepfamilies, geographic location, travel, and children.  This topic is best addressed before marriage and is certainly one that requires couples to work together.  

Consider the following about your holiday plans:

• Assess what the different holidays and traditions mean to each of you.
• Try to begin new traditions with your partner.  Remember that your marriage relationship comes before any other family ties.
• Once you make decisions, “have each other’s backs” and don’t blame the other partner.
• Negotiate “win-win” situations for both of you.
• “Rate the debate” based on how important each element is to you: 1st choice, 2nd choice, and 3rd choice.
• Establish communication and exercise your problem-solving skills.
• This is NOT the time to be selfish and demanding!

What can you expect if you handle this conversation well?  

• You achieve teamwork and unity with your spouse in the eyes of friends and family.
• You may end up enjoying the family traditions and the bonding opportunities with your spouse’s family.

Listener Question of the Week:  I am really frustrated.  My fiancé and I have been together for several years and have been through many birthdays and holidays.  He likes to give practical gifts, and I like fun, crazy gifts.  What are your recommendations as to what to do?

Fun Question of the Week:  What is your idea of a great gift?

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #037 ... How To Make YOUR Spouse Feel Loved! Getting the Most From YOUR Survey ... 

We have a great show for you this week as we dig into being intentional about building strong, vibrant marriages and learning what our relational needs are and how they give us the keys to making our spouse feel loved!

This week we are digging deeper into last week's podcast and going through a debriefing process that will bring a lot of clarity around what do I do exactly to make my spouse feel loved! 

We have a Relational Needs Debriefing form you can download at ... 

1. Our Your Marriage Matterz Facebook page - Click Here
2. Or, go to our podcast blog page - Click Here
3. Or, e-mail Jim and put SURVEY in the subject line and he will send it to you ... [email protected] 

On the podcast we model the debrief for you and while doing it we learned new things about each other even after 31 years of marriage. We are excited to hear what you learn in your debrief!

Let us know if you have any questions or if we can help you in anyway ... 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #036 ... How To Make YOUR Spouse Feel Loved! Understanding Relational Needs In Marriage!

We have a great show for you this week as we dig into being intentional about building strong, vibrant marriages and learning what our relational needs are and how they give us the keys to making our spouse feel loved!

We have a Relational Needs Survey you can download at ... 

1. Our Your Marriage Matterz Facebook page - Click Here
2. Or, go to our podcast blog page - Click Here
3. Or, e-mail Jim and put SURVEY in the subject line and he will send it to you ... [email protected] 

In this survey we measure 10 different relational needs ... Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, Attention, Comfort, Encouragement, Respect, Security and Support. Here are some things you will learn:

• Doing the survey will provide a lot of clarity around the mystery of how do I make my wife/husband happy!
• Why doesn't he/she respond when I (try to make them feel loved with what makes me feel loved)? 
• Some great ways to communicate what you want from your spouse and learn what they want from you!
• Clear up a lot of sources of frustration in your marriage you may never have even known existed!
• A great plan moving forward for being intentional in your marriage1

We know you will enjoy this week's podcast so download the survey, complete it and let's get started!

Jim & Christie Jacobus 

Hey gang ... 

Welcome to a replay of one of our most downloaded episodes from the archives of the Your Marriage Matterz podcast! Today we are going to tackle 5 Fundamental Principles For Building A Vibrant Healthy Marriage!

Our definition of a principle is that it "will work anywhere, any time and for anybody"! The principles in this podcast will make us better business men and women, better golfers or tennis players, better men, women, mothers, fathers and yes ... better husbands and wives! They will make us better, even extraordinary, at anything we choose in life. 

The principles we will share with you in this podcast are as follows:

• Be passionate about your life and you marriage
• Be committed to it 100%
• Have a big vision, or dream, for your marriage
• Keep learning and growing in your marriage
• Take total responsibility for your life and your marriage

We trust you will enjoy these principles!

Jim & Christie Jacobus

 

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Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #034 The Power of Prayer In A Marriage ... 4 Keys To Success!

We are following up on our podcast last week on 4 Ways To Be Intentional About Growing YOUR Marriage by diving off into the power of prayer in a marriage. 

This week we give you 4 Keys To Success as you introduce prayer or, if you are already praying together, into your relationship! This has been a game changer for us and we know it will be for you as well!

Welcome to Your Marriage Matterz podcast YMM #033 ... 4 Ways To Be Intentional About Growing YOUR Marriage! And, something you can do RIGHT NOW!

Time is flying by! In the process it is easy to overlook those we love and even take for granted they are even going to be here another day. This episode is focused on 4 Ways You Can Be Intentional about your marriage, getting to know your spouse at a deeper level and growing the quality of your relationship.

Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz episode YMM #032 ... How To Get YOUR Spouse To Change!

Lately Christie and I have heard a lot of "our marriage would work if he/she would just (fill in the blank)! So, we said, let's do an episode on just that! How do you get YOUR spouse to change. 

We trust you will enjoy this episode!!!

PS ... you might want to get out a pencil, something to write on and a mirror for this one!

The 4 Dangers Of Social Media (And, What To Do About Them)

First things first! We love social media. We love our Facebook communities, Twitter followers, Instagram followers and our LinkedIn followers! There is nothing wrong with any of the social media platforms!

That said, there are inherent dangers and we see them impacting marriages in a negative way every day. In this podcast we are going to discuss what they are and what you can do about them to protect and strengthen your relationship!