In this reflecting I talk about negotiating several experiences when they are not enough (or not to my liking) and navigating my way through those negotiations (especially when others are [and their ego/ feelings] are involved).

Supporting themes: Personal interest and situational interest; Beyonce and lemonade; Relationship design (per Solo.com); Psychology, therapy and power; Self-care and self-advocacy; Motivation and regenerative energy (which I really struggled with pronouncing); Aggression; Education and schooling; and Employment, self- employment and enterprising.

Typology: INTJ; Ni; Si; J (judging); Type 8.

In this reflection I explore four separate themes to help me contend with one problem I have yet to solve (even though I have been seriously trying!).

Supporting themes: Solo people; Hierarchies, pyramid people and power; Normalizing, harmonizing, dominant and creative subtypes; Building your people (i.e. team, squad or forest); Content generators and the life they give; Leadership and entrepreneurship; Trauma, abuse and love; and Race and gender.

Special note: This reflection was influenced in part by Personality Hacker and Dario Nardi.

Typology: INTJ8; Enneagram Subtypes

In this reflection I confront a difficult truth about abuse and "my person."

Trigger warning: For anyone who has experienced childhood abuse, please listen with care.

Critical notes: 1) I use the F- bomb (don't listen around children); and 2) I talk briefly about the indictments of Donald Trump (using it as a metaphor to something else).

Typology: Type 8, INTJ, and ENFP

In this reflection I explore my readiness to go solo (as in solo-polyish).

Supporting themes: Highly Sensitive Person (HSP); Typology and the solo community; Power and hierarchies; Attachment theory; Body storage of trauma; Intergenerational trauma; Dying and the breakdown of the body; and Sibling rivalry.

Typology: Introverted intuition and INTJ

This reflection is about domains of belonging and types of shifts when it's time to grow.

Supporting themes: Solo- poly; Sex; Work; Family; Culture; Politics; Geography; Social conflict; Schooling: African-Americans; and MAGA-Republicans.

Typology: Introverted intuition; INTJs and INFJs; Fi and Se; Type 8s.

Note 1: This reflection was influenced in part by an article published by the National Library of Medicine (go to my Twitter account to access the link: YourNiDom1).

Note 2: This episode marks the official start of Season 7.

In this reflection, I talk about the Social Eight as social, anti- social and uncover new discovery points for growth.

Supporting themes: Personality theories; Theory convergence and divergence; Social as emotional versus social as structural; Social hierarchies; The privileging of dominant groups and pathologizing of subordinate groups; Solo- polyamory; Romance and sex; and Self awareness and self-acceptance.

Special note: Text about the Social Eight was read from "The Complete Enneagram" by Dr. Beatrice Chestnut.

Typology; INTJ; Type 8; Te and Fe; Three intelligent centers in the Enneagram; Three subtypes for the Eight; Intuition; and Feeling.

This reflection is a Part 2 to my lifestyle conversation where I focus on relationships. I talk substantially about the ways solo- polyamory speaks to some of my core values and commitments.

Supporting themes: Identity; Sex; Relationship- tax; Self- Partnering; Singlehood; Monogamy; Patriarchy; Scripts and stereotypes for women (including black women within the historical context of slavery); Self- care; and Trauma.

Special note: This reflection was inspired in part by "Single, Self- partnered, or Solo Polyamory?" written by Amanda Pakutz.

Typology: INTJ- Masterminding; Type 8- Intensity; Enneagram subtypes (particularly Sexual and Self- Preservation).

I start this reflection with three separate but related topics on the brain: Three blobs; Anti- Social; and Business. I moved throughout the reflection linking all three until I concluded with a very important question about lifestyle and work.

Supporting themes: Masterminding (with a Capital M); Aims, Goals and Objectives (AGOs); Balanced living; Being visionary; Planning vs taking action; Entrepreneurship; Employment as a strategy; Automating the job searching process.

Social Note: This reflection was inspired in part by the book "Pivot and Pursue It" (by Pamela Mitchell).

Typology: Type 8; Subtypes and counter-types; and INTJ (planning and calibrating).

In this reflection I finally talk about the "rubber band" as a metaphor to explain my social-antisocial relationship with the outer world.

Typology: Enneagram Types 8, 5 and 1; Instinctual stack; Social and self-preservation.

Attempting to discuss the "rubber band" metaphor, I fall into a rabbit hole early on about self actualization. In the end, I challenge myself (and the listener) to consider three domains of wellness (structural, emotional and spiritual) that, at some point, will need to be integrated into a single wellness plan. Self actualization requires it!

Supporting themes: Abuse; Healing and recovery; Dating and polyamory; Education and teaching; Therapy and finding a good therapist; and Entrepreneurship and employment.

Typology: INTJ