In this reflection, I contend with being an INTJ living in an SJ world.

Talking points: Singlehood as a heteronormative construct; Reincarnation; Intellectual stimulation: Recreation and leisure; Small talk versus getting-to- know-you banter; and Finding my people.

**A Pre-season Bonus Episode**

In this reflection I talk about about eight growth points for 2021, ranging from trauma to leadership.

In this reflection I talk about two YouTube videos I uploaded. I also talk about an exchange I had with a YouTube content generator (LiJo). Finally, I talk about an unexpected conversation I had with my sister tonight about our relationship.

This reflection starts with a conversation about love and the lies we tell ourselves when we want to hold onto toxic love. It ends with a conversation about self-gaslighting which is an inner rationalization process we activate that prevents us from getting our needs met.

Note: The name in the title is not capitalized on purpose. Look her up to learn more.

Typology reference: Ni and Fi.

In this reflection, I think through six common forms of gaslighting. [Heads up: I drop an F-bomb. ]

Type references: Ni, Fi, Ti and Si

Most of this reflection is a response to some YouTube content on teacher challenges and the current mass teacher exodus. In it, I both advocate for teachers and challenge them (to organize and push for change). I also share my story of being a school leader who has returned to teaching (and seeing a real gap in leadership across the board!).

While I deviated from my typical focus in this episode, I still ended it with a personal growth assignment for all (regarding leadership).

Main Themes: Seven types of toxic family structures; five mothers who can't love; and eight stages of psychosocial development.

In this reflection I talk about finally being ready to do trauma healing work. To assist in this process, I will be using two frameworks: 1) Erik Erikson's Lifespan Development and 2) seven types of toxic family systems. There will be a part 2 to this reflection.

In this reflection I talk about visiting family for the holidays (after taking a 12 hour road trip to get here).

Main themes: A Six Function Theory; Creativity in Functions 5 and 6; Existential utility in Functions 7 and 8; The subservient nature of Function 2; The priming of Function 1; and The obedience of Function 4.

Main themes: Liability of knowing the self; Liability of Introverted intuition; Supervision; Positionality; Downward growth as a concept: and Use and preservation of energy.

Type references: Ni, Te, Si, Fe, Fi, Se, Self preservation Type 8 and Type 5.