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Your Not On A Date. You're On A Job Interview
You're Not on a Date. You're on a Job Interview.
It's crazy out here — and you're spending a fortune of energy for almost nothing. But not for the reason you think.
This week we're talking about the wasteland. The matches that go nowhere. The Sunday swiping that leaves you lonelier than before. The guy you almost texted yes to — not because you wanted to, but because you had nothing else going on.
You're competent, self-aware, and honestly? You look pretty damn good. But this one arena makes you feel like you're losing your mind.
You're not crazy. It IS crazy out here. But here's what nobody is saying out loud — it's not the men, the apps, or your age. It's how we date. We don't date. We interview. We show up with a clipboard and a list of questions, deciding if he's worthy of a job offer before the appetizers arrive.
This is Part 1 of Dating From Fullness — the series that walks you out of the wasteland. Not by trying harder. By carrying less.
IN THIS EPISODE
→ What the dating wasteland actually looks like — and why you're not imagining it
→ The real reason dating is exhausting (hint: it's the clipboard, not the men)
→ Red Light / Green Light — the date that went perfectly and ended in a fade
→ The Game of 26 — the season Coach Ivy stopped keeping score and everything shifted
→ Why you can't pour enjoyment into a cup that's already full of dread
→ The freedom of nonattachment — and why it's the most magnetic thing you can bring to a table
REFERENCE
→ Read the article this week on Substack: You're Not Crazy, and You're Not Alone — Midlife Dating Can Be Grueling
IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED
Send it to the woman in your life who's exhausted by dating and starting to wonder if it's her. It's not — and this episode will show her what is.
RESOURCES MENTIONED
→Lift the Veil Find Your Pattern → Download the Dating Pattern Guide
→Schedule Your Pattern Breakthrough Sesson
→Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: [email protected] — subject line: RLGL
CONNECT WITH COACH IVY
Instagram: @coachivyallen
Facebook: CoachIvy
Substack: Better Dating After Divorce
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By Coach IvyYou're Not on a Date. You're on a Job Interview.
It's crazy out here — and you're spending a fortune of energy for almost nothing. But not for the reason you think.
This week we're talking about the wasteland. The matches that go nowhere. The Sunday swiping that leaves you lonelier than before. The guy you almost texted yes to — not because you wanted to, but because you had nothing else going on.
You're competent, self-aware, and honestly? You look pretty damn good. But this one arena makes you feel like you're losing your mind.
You're not crazy. It IS crazy out here. But here's what nobody is saying out loud — it's not the men, the apps, or your age. It's how we date. We don't date. We interview. We show up with a clipboard and a list of questions, deciding if he's worthy of a job offer before the appetizers arrive.
This is Part 1 of Dating From Fullness — the series that walks you out of the wasteland. Not by trying harder. By carrying less.
IN THIS EPISODE
→ What the dating wasteland actually looks like — and why you're not imagining it
→ The real reason dating is exhausting (hint: it's the clipboard, not the men)
→ Red Light / Green Light — the date that went perfectly and ended in a fade
→ The Game of 26 — the season Coach Ivy stopped keeping score and everything shifted
→ Why you can't pour enjoyment into a cup that's already full of dread
→ The freedom of nonattachment — and why it's the most magnetic thing you can bring to a table
REFERENCE
→ Read the article this week on Substack: You're Not Crazy, and You're Not Alone — Midlife Dating Can Be Grueling
IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED
Send it to the woman in your life who's exhausted by dating and starting to wonder if it's her. It's not — and this episode will show her what is.
RESOURCES MENTIONED
→Lift the Veil Find Your Pattern → Download the Dating Pattern Guide
→Schedule Your Pattern Breakthrough Sesson
→Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: [email protected] — subject line: RLGL
CONNECT WITH COACH IVY
Instagram: @coachivyallen
Facebook: CoachIvy
Substack: Better Dating After Divorce