Many children with big emotions struggle to express what they need. Some tend to demand that things go their way…while others rarely stand up for themselves. How can we teach our children to ask for what they need without offending others or letting others walk all over them?

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why we need to identify what's causing our children's behavior before we try to change it

• The scientific reasons why a child might struggle to be assertive (and why our pushing usually makes things worse)

• How to teach important life skills -- like standing up for themselves respectfully -- without harming their self-esteem or our parent-child relationship

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Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with school counselor and author Ashley Bartley, who is the author of five social emotional learning books for children.

Listen as I ask Ashley the 3 questions: 1. How can I help my child with time management? 2. How can I establish routines in my home to make the mornings go more smoothly? 3. What strategies would be helpful for a child experiencing separation anxiety?

Listen as Ashley asks me the 3 questions: 1. How do you handle kids refusing to do homework? 2. How do you handle kids refusing to do chores? 3. How do we minimize screen time with our children?

When we are raising children with big emotions, we have to take care of ourselves, too.

But how do we find the energy we need when we're exhausted by meeting everyone else's needs and have NO extra time?

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The scientific reason why our bodies are constantly in fight or flight mode

• The differences between self-care and self-treatment

• Three questions you can ask yourself that will give you more energy…right now!

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Let's be honest: Raising a child with big emotions can feel HARD. As we try to manage their reactions, their behavior, their emotions (on top of everything else in our lives), we may feel exhausted, helpless, resentful. How can we continue to support our kids when things just seem so difficult?

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What we can do when we feel stuck in our Yuck

• A new perspective to help regulate our emotions and keep our cool

• A tip that allows us to respond from our values, even when we're struggling ourselves

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Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with coach and consultant Nadine Stille, who helps moms find more balance and joy as working parents.

Listen as I ask Nadine the 3 questions: 1. How can moms/ parents prioritize their own wellbeing?  2. What are quick ways to get calm and grounded for when it's stressful all around you? 3. What are some ways to bring more joy into everyday life of a busy mom/ parent?

Listen as Nadine asks me the 3 questions: 1. Even with routines in place and plenty of advance acknowledgements, what else can parents and caregivers do, to avoid drama, knowing that their child reacts strongly to certain words and activities,  like 'It's time for bed', 'Let's get dressed' or 'We're having dinner now and we'll switch off the tv'? 2. What's one activity that parents can do to help both young and older kids to be more confident in their own abilities and worth?  3.  For anxious kids that get easily overwhelmed or stressed by new situations, what's an easy step to help them build more resilience?

If you are raising a child with big emotions, you may be gaining confidence handling outbursts in the safety and privacy of your own home. But what happens when our kids get anxious or frustrated in public places? How do we help our kids handle their big emotions in crowded stores or at family events?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why the judgment of other people affects us so much and makes outbursts even worse

• In-the-moment strategies to help when children express big emotions in public

• Tips to give your child what they need so that these outbursts are less frequent 

We want our children to get along with their siblings -- both now, when they’re young and living in our house, and in the future, when they are all adults. But sometimes, kids with big emotions struggle to have healthy relationships with their siblings. How do we know if we should get involved in their conflicts? And how can we help them all get along?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why our current parenting strategies aren’t reducing sibling conflicts

• When we should step in and help our kids resolve conflict and when we shouldn't 

• Three important factors we should consider when it comes to sibling conflicts + simple action we can take to get results

Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with Carly Adams, home organizer, owner of Tidy Revival and The Tidy Revival podcast. 

Listen as I ask Carly the 3 questions: 1. What tips to you have to start decluttering when you feel overwhelmed at home? 2. What are some tips to create simple systems so that my family can get on board with home organization & Mom doesn't need to be the gatekeeper? 3. How do you find time to create systems / declutter & organize when you're already stretched thin as a parent?

Listen as Carly asks me the 3 questions: 1. As a parenting specialist, how do you recommend that parents approach decluttering and organizing when they have children with big emotions? For example, how can parents balance the need for structure and organization with the potential stress and anxiety that decluttering and reorganizing may trigger in children who struggle with big emotions? 2. Many parents of children with big emotions find themselves feeling overwhelmed and drained, which can make it difficult to prioritize self-care and maintain their own mental and emotional health. What recommendations do you have for parents who want to create a more balanced and sustainable approach to parenting, while also managing their own stress levels and emotional well-being? 3. How can I help my child develop emotional regulation skills and build resilience, especially when I'm feeling overwhelmed myself? Are there any specific decluttering or organizing strategies that can support these efforts?

Sometimes when our kids have big emotions or big reactions, we handle it with confidence and patience… but other times we respond with frustration and annoyance. It may seem like it would be impossible to react consistently when we don't know how our kids are going to act or feel! However, when our reactions are predictable to our kids, it actually helps THEM be more resilient. And it’s much easier to respond predictably than you’d think.

In this episode, you'll learn 

• How OUR reactions foster more resilience in our children 

• What it’s like from a child’s perspective when we react differently based on our mood 

• A simple plan that will allow you to immediately become more predictable

It can be frustrating when we ask our children to go play on their own for a bit (so we can get things done!!) and they just keep coming back to us. How can we encourage our kids to play independently…without losing our tempers or resorting to unlimited screen time? In this episode, you’ll learn two reasons why many kids resist playing alone. You'll also hear a simple shift in perspective that helps us lose our cool less so we can motivate our kids more, plus practical steps that we can take to help our kids be successful at entertaining themselves…so we can do what WE have to do.