Let’s be honest: Raising a child with big emotions can take a lot of energy. Dealing with resistance, dramatic reactions, and everything else in your life can be exhausting, so it’s natural to lose your patience (and, unfortunately, your influence). This episode shares a specific strategy to stay calm and keep your influence… even when it’s taking longer for your children’s behavior to improve than you’d like. 

 In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• The 3 main reasons kids don’t do what we ask

• Why we tend to lose our cool when there is a setback in our child’s progress

• A simple technique to help you stay calm and supportive rather than resentful of your child’s behavior 

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Having a strong relationship with our kids is a huge priority for many of us. So when we’re setting limits or addressing our kids’ big emotions, we usually approach them in a nice (or what we think is “respectful”) way. Unfortunately, many kids won’t listen – or feel confident – when we’re being so nice. So how can we raise kids who follow limits and can handle hard feelings… without ruining our relationship? 

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• What it really means to “respect” your children 

• One question you can ask yourself when you’re struggling to influence your children 

• What simple quality leads to long-term security and healthier self-esteem for your kids (and less guilt for you)

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Often when our kids refuse to do what we ask, it can seem like they are being deliberately defiant or strong-willed. But often in these situations, our kids are having a hard time with something beyond their control…and our frustration with them only makes things worse. Fortunately, when you take a closer look at what is really going on for a “strong-willed” child, you can see what they really need in order to feel and act more positively. 

In this episode, we’ll look at several real-life situations from the dual perspectives of a child and parent. You’ll learn: 

• Why children with big emotions display more “strong-willed” behavior

• What’s really happen when a child is acting resistant or defiant 

• How we can can spend less energy addressing this behavior and expand their ability to handle things not going their way in the future 

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It’s natural to want to help a child when you see that they’re upset. But sometimes our attempts to soothe their big feelings and calm them down actually makes things worse, leaving us feeling confused and helpless. Ironically, doing less in those situations – not saying much! – actually does more to make the situation better. 

 In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• What happens when we do and don’t try to make our child feel better 

• How to handle a child who questions why we’re not doing more 

• How this simple strategy sets kids up to be more resilient in the long run

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This week, I’m doing something a little different: Instead of picking the topic myself, I’m answering parents’ questions.

These questions demonstrate challenges that many of us face behind closed doors — and I’m sharing practical ways to handle them with more confidence and calm.

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• How to respond to two specific situations as a connected and confident Leader Parent 

• What to do when children respond negatively to positive feedback

• Why kids with big emotions frequently complain of being bored but resist any suggestion you make 

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When we’re raising children with big emotions, it can be exhausting trying to handle their behavior, moods, and attitudes along with everything else on our to-do list. Sometimes we lose our cool and say things that we regret… Other times, we find ourselves being too permissive just to avoid a meltdown. However, one simple phrase can help you find a consistent balance and become a more powerful positive influence, even in the hard moments!

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• How to balance connection and confidence, so your kids want to follow your lead

• How to use this phrase in a variety of situations (with real-life examples)

• The long-term effects of this approach, including how it affects them and how it affects you! 

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When we’re raising kids with big emotions, we often learn how to navigate their behavior, moods, and attitudes to avoid meltdowns and dramatic moments. But sometimes, even when we’re doing everything “right,” our children’s behavior can throw us a curveball --  crying for seemingly no reason, refusing to do something they wanted to do, or getting disproportionately angry over a small inconvenience. These situations can leave us frustrated, confused, and powerless to help.

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• What we need to understand about our kids’ confusing behavior 

• Why specific reactions often make them more upset

• How to spend less energy addressing frustrating and confusing behavior 

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Many kids with big emotions seem to default to negativity—even after a day full of fun and connection. When we witness their lack of positivity, we often think things like, “Why can’t they just be happy?” or “Why are they acting so spoiled?” We feel frustrated that their mood can derail the whole family’s energy, and we feel helpless to do anything about it. But we are not helpless! 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Exactly kids focus on what went wrong, even when so much went right

• How we keep ourselves stuck in a cycle of negativity – and a simple way to break free

• A quick plan that takes less energy and helps you respond with calm leadership when the negativity shows up

Plus, you’ll hear more about a free event, The Negativity Reset, where you’ll learn exactly how to respond when your child is stuck in a negative loop—without rescuing, overexplaining, or letting it ruin your summer.

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Many children with big emotions also struggle with anxious thoughts. When our child feels scared, nervous, or overwhelmed, our first instinct is usually to reassure them that everything will be okay. But what if we are actually making it HARDER for them to feel better in the moment and build resilience for the future? 

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• Why, in our defense, we’re wired reassure our children when they feel anxious 

• What happens in our kids’ brains when we reassure them (and why they often feel more anxious after we try to help)

• Three things our children with big emotions actually need to regulate their nervous system

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When we see our kids struggling with things like schoolwork, or friend drama, or dealing with a teacher they don’t like, we often offer suggestions to help them get through those situations more easily. But what should we do when our children give short or snarky responses to our genuine attempts to help?

 In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• Why kids are so resistant to our suggestions, even if they know they’re good ones

• What we almost always do that makes the situation worse

• How to respond to this type of attitude so that you maintain your positive, powerful influence (and they don’t get away with anything!) 

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