This episode tackles a few listener questions that we think are relatable to many. First, how do you work on increasing your rigid child’s frustration tolerance? And another mom wants a list of phrases to use in addition to “You can handle it!” Lynn offers a little variety, but as Robin points out, getting bored with worry’s tactics is actually the point!

Here are the past episodes that Lynn references in this week's show:

https://www.flusterclux.com/when-your-kid-is-a-blamer/

&

https://www.flusterclux.com/the-7-essential-anxiety-disruptors-for-families-1-expect-to-worry/

WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here⁠

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.

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Dr. Jean Twenge, a professor of psychology at San Diego University, has been a consistent voice of warning on the impact of smartphones and social media on children and teens. Her latest book, 10 Rules for Raising Kids in a High-Tech World, compiles over a decade of research into solid guidance that she and Lynn walk listeners through. She’s a mom to three teen girls and an all-around delightful person.

Find Jean's book here: https://www.jeantwenge.com/10-rules-for-raising-kids-in-a-high-tech-world/

WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here⁠

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.

WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!

We will select two listeners who complete our ⁠⁠listener survey⁠⁠. We hope it is you!

FOLLOW US

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

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Parents consistently ask Lynn for the language to use with their children and teens when the family is moving away from avoidance and accommodation. In this episode, Lynn provides a list of four key phrases and conversation starters that help navigate a shift into action.

WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here⁠

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.

WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!

We will select two listeners who complete our ⁠⁠listener survey⁠⁠. We hope it is you!

FOLLOW US

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

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Manners and social skills are important for some basic reasons: we want our children to learn how to move through the world with decency and respect. But in this episode, Robin and Lynn go deeper, talking about manners and etiquette as a potential bridge to kindness and connection. Oh, and there’s some crying.

WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here⁠

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.

WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!

We will select two listeners who complete our ⁠⁠listener survey⁠⁠. We hope it is you!

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Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

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Mary is looking for help with her 13year old daughter Reese who was Diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety in third grade. Successes are many, but after years of individual therapy, Mary wonders what tools Reese is learning. Mary wants this middle schooler to sleep in her own bed, something she hasn’t done for years. Dad is relegated to the couch. Both parents need a plan and some solid coaching. They know it’s important to support Reese’s independence, but they’re avoiding conflict…and the family is stuck.

Here is the past episode referenced by Lynn:

The 7 Essential Anxiety Disruptors For Families: #1 Expect To Worry

WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here⁠

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.

WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!

We will select two listeners who complete our ⁠⁠listener survey⁠⁠. We hope it is you!

FOLLOW US

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

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Struggle is a vital part of learning, growing and mastery. As the new school year begins, Lynn and Ed discuss the movement from awkward and uncomfortable beginnings toward mastery, a process that is repeated throughout life. How can parents tolerate, support and even foster struggle as a key skill?

WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here⁠

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.

WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!

We will select two listeners who complete our ⁠⁠listener survey⁠⁠. We hope it is you!

FOLLOW US

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:

Go to Quince.com/fluster for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!

Right now, our listeners get at least an additional 15% off any annual membership at MASTER CLASS.com/FLUSTER .

Head to lumen.me/FLUSTERCLUX for 15% off your purchase.

Visit Carawayhome.com/FLUSTER and you can take an additional 10% off your next purchase.

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Is your child heading off to college this fall? If it’s their first year, then the roommate uncertainty may be dominating your household. Sparked by a compelling listener question, we tackle the perks and the problems of roommates and what you can (and can’t) do to help. 

Here is the past episode that Lynn & Robin reference regarding preparing your children for college: https://www.flusterclux.com/raising-kids-who-are-really-ready-for-college-isnt-what-you-think/

WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here⁠

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.

WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!

We will select two listeners who complete our ⁠⁠listener survey⁠⁠. We hope it is you!

FOLLOW US

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:

Go to Quince.com/fluster for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!

Right now, our listeners get at least an additional 15% off any annual membership at MASTER CLASS.com/FLUSTER .

Head to lumen.me/FLUSTERCLUX for 15% off your purchase.

Visit Carawayhome.com/FLUSTER and you can take an additional 10% off your next purchase.

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Here comes school…which means it’s time for reminders and a chance for a reset. From morning routines to screens, from the language of uncertainty to using less language in general, we cover it all. So, go for a walk with Lynn and Robin and hear how to actively move into fall!

WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here⁠

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.

WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!

We will select two listeners who complete our ⁠⁠listener survey⁠⁠. We hope it is you!

FOLLOW US

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:

Go to Quince.com/fluster for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!

Right now, our listeners get at least an additional 15% off any annual membership at MASTER CLASS.com/FLUSTER .

Head to lumen.me/FLUSTERCLUX for 15% off your purchase.

Visit Carawayhome.com/FLUSTER and you can take an additional 10% off your next purchase.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this In Session episode, Lynn talks with Sarah about her 11-year-old daughter who has become increasingly insistent about her bedtime ritual of ruminating and catastrophizing. Sarah gets pulled in, trying to “talk through” her daughter’s worries and doubts, but it’s only getting worse. What does Sarah need to do to break out of this pattern?

WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here⁠

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.

WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!

We will select two listeners who complete our ⁠⁠listener survey⁠⁠. We hope it is you!

FOLLOW US

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:

Go to Quince.com/fluster for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!

Right now, our listeners get at least an additional 15% off any annual membership at MASTER CLASS.com/FLUSTER .

Head to lumen.me/FLUSTERCLUX for 15% off your purchase.

Visit Carawayhome.com/FLUSTER and you can take an additional 10% off your next purchase.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parents are encouraged to provide “consistency” with their anxious children. But the type of consistency that’s often prescribed is the opposite of what Lynn teaches families. In this episode, Lynn goes after the “consistency trap” and explains the important difference between working to give your child certainty & predictability vs. consistently helping your child move to develop key anxiety-management skills.

WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.

Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here⁠

For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.

Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.

WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!

We will select two listeners who complete our ⁠⁠listener survey⁠⁠. We hope it is you!

FOLLOW US

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU:

Go to Quince.com/fluster for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!

Right now, our listeners get at least an additional 15% off any annual membership at MASTER CLASS.com/FLUSTER .

Head to lumen.me/FLUSTERCLUX for 15% off your purchase.

Visit Carawayhome.com/FLUSTER and you can take an additional 10% off your next purchase.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices