When your child lies about homework, screen time, or where they’ve been, it can feel like a punch to the gut. But what if lying isn’t a sign of bad character, and instead a normal part of growing up?

In this encore episode of “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens and Teens,” psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan look at lying from a developmental standpoint and help parents understand what’s really going on when kids bend the truth. A request for privacy doesn’t always mean something sneaky, and your response can make all the difference in whether your child learns to be honest.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- Why kids lie (and what their lies may be trying to protect)

- Ways to make truth-telling feel safe in your home

- How to model integrity and forgiveness when mistakes happen

- What it really means for kids to develop a healthy conscience

Originally released in 2021, this encore episode feels just as timely today for parents navigating honesty, trust, and growing independence.

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Episode keywords: teen lying, why kids lie, child honesty, parenting trust, tween behavior

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It’s not always easy to be a seventh grade boy. Their confidence may be fragile, they tend to lag behind girls in terms of pubertal development, and at school-a place that can feel like it's built for girls- boys may start to feel like they’re falling behind. When that happens, they can become vulnerable to harmful influences and start adopting views–even sexist ones–that can worry parents.

In this episode, psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan unpack what’s really going on developmentally for boys in early adolescence, and how parents can respond with empathy and understanding instead of fear or frustration. You’ll learn why boys often struggle more in school at this age, how their neurological growth differs from girls’, and what you can do to protect your son’s confidence and values as he grows into himself.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- Why seventh-grade boys face unique biological and neurological challenges

- How school environments can unintentionally favor girls’ developmental strengths

- How figures like Andrew Tate prey on boys’ vulnerability, and what parents can do about it

- How to keep communication open and help boys find confidence in healthy ways

This episode is a must-watch for any parent of a tween or teen boy who wants to understand what’s really happening beneath the surface — and how to support his growth with empathy and confidence.

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Episode keywords: boys, puberty, development, self-esteem, sexism, parenting

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When your hormones are downshifting and your teen’s hormones are surging, it can feel like an emotional collision course. If you’ve ever wondered why your tween or teen seems moody, distant, or irritated (and you’re also running out of patience and estrogen), this episode is for you.

Psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan unpack the double whammy of puberty and menopause under one roof: Why it feels so intense, what’s actually happening biologically, and how families can navigate it with more empathy and less guilt. Lisa also opens up about her personal experience with menopause and how finally seeking treatment changed everything.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- Why menopause symptoms are real medical symptoms, and what kinds of treatment and support to ask for

- What’s normal about your teen’s mood swings and distance

- How to connect with your teen, even if they don’t want to talk

- How understanding the hormonal and developmental changes in both generations can ease the tension at home

This episode helps parents understand what’s normal for their teens (and what’s happening within themselves) so they can respond with more calm, connection, and compassion.

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Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com

Episode keywords: puberty, menopause, perimenopause, parenting teens, hormones, family dynamics

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If your tween or teen lies awake with worries spinning in their mind, or if you’ve wondered whether it’s anxiety, hormones, or something more, this episode is for you. Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan break down why anxiety and sleep are so deeply connected, and how parents can help kids find calm at night without turning bedtime into a battleground.

In this compassionate conversation, Dr. Lisa explains what’s normal about changing sleep patterns during puberty, when to worry about anxiety, and how to help your teen create healthy routines that set them up for better rest and less stress.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- Why teens naturally want to stay up later (and why that’s normal)- How anxiety and sleeplessness feed each other- Practical strategies to help teens wind down before bed- How to talk with your child about what’s really worrying them- Ways to normalize anxiety so kids don’t feel “broken” when they struggle

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Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com

Episode keywords: teen sleep, anxiety, bedtime, parenting, mental health, sleep hygiene

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How do you tell your teen not to drink or use weed… while also letting them know they can let you know if they’ve made a bad choice? It can feel impossible to balance rules with approachability. In this episode, psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan unpack how to have open, judgment-free conversations about alcohol and marijuana--conversations that keep kids safe and keep communication flowing.

Substance use among teens can feel scary and overwhelming, especially with today’s high-potency marijuana and the social pressure to experiment. Dr. Lisa shares science-based guidance that helps parents know when to start these talks, what messages really matter, and how to model healthy behavior at home.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- Why it’s best to start the substance conversation early — ideally around 7th grade

- How to frame the discussion around safety instead of punishment or judgment

- What to say about the risks of alcohol and marijuana for the developing brain

- How to respond if your teen says, “But you drink,” or “Everyone does it”

- How to keep communication open so your teen knows they can always call you, no matter what

Warm, practical, and grounded in real science, this episode gives parents a roadmap for navigating one of the hardest (and most important) conversations you’ll ever have.

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Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com

Episode keywords: teen substance use, weed, alcohol, parenting advice, teen safety

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How do you get your kids to like each other… or at least stop fighting all the time?

If you’re parenting tweens and teens, sibling conflict can feel endless. One moment they’re laughing together, the next they’re at each other’s throats. You want them to grow up valuing each other, but the daily bickering (and your role in it) can leave you wondering: Am I making things WORSE?

In this episode of “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens,” psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan dig into the complex world of sibling relationships. With warmth, humor, and research-backed insight, they unpack why siblings pull away in adolescence, how parents can support their bond without forcing closeness, and what really matters in the long run.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- Why siblings often distance themselves during the tween and teen years

- How comparisons and “fairness” struggles can fuel conflict

- When parents should step in—and when to step back

- Why forced apologies backfire (and what to do instead)

- Practical ways to build connection through one-on-one time and family experiences

- Why taking the long view helps parents worry less about today’s fights

Sibling relationships are complicated, but you don’t have to navigate them alone. Dr. Lisa offers strategies that are both realistic and compassionate, helping you set the stage for healthier family dynamics now and stronger sibling bonds later.

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Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com

Episode keywords: sibling rivalry, sibling conflict, teen conflict, family dynamics, parenting tips, sibling relationships

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Here’s the good news: today’s tweens and teens talk openly about mental health. Here’s the not-so-good news, sometimes they inaccurately diagnose themselves or organize their emerging identities around a diagnosis. So what happens when your child insists they’re depressed, and you’re not sure whether it’s sadness, distress, or something more serious?

In this episode of “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens,” Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan unpack how to navigate these deeply sensitive conversations with empathy and clarity. You’ll learn how to validate your child’s feelings without reinforcing restrictive labels, and how to guide them toward healthier ways of understanding themselves.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- The key differences between sadness and depression

- How to validate your teen’s experiences while being mindful about diagnostic labels

- Why TikTok and peer culture are shaping the way kids talk about mental health

- How to help your child find belonging and identity beyond mental health labels

- The critical question every parent must ask if a child says they’re depressed

With warmth, expertise, and practical strategies, Lisa and Reena help you approach these moments with confidence and compassion so your teen feels heard, but not boxed in.

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Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com

Episode keywords: teen mental health, depression, anxiety, parenting teens, TikTok labels

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Many boys are struggling, and parents are often left wondering how to reach them. If your tween or teen son seems distant, gives one-word answers, or is spending too much time online, you’re not alone. 

In this episode of “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens,” psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan sit down with Joanna Schroeder and Christopher Pepper, authors of the book “Talk to Your Boys,” to tackle one of the toughest challenges parents face: raising confident, caring young men in today’s complicated world.

Joanna and Christopher draw on decades of experience working directly with boys to reveal what they really want from the adults in their lives, and how parents can help them grow into emotionally healthy, compassionate young men.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- Why boys often shut down emotionally, and how to break through the silence- Practical strategies to start conversations that go beyond one-word answers- How to protect boys from harmful online influences and teach media literacy- Ways to talk about consent, respect, and healthy masculinity- How to support your son’s mental health and help him find purpose and connection

This conversation is full of warmth, honesty, and actionable advice. Whether you’re raising a middle schooler just starting to pull away or a high schooler navigating friendships, identity, and independence, you’ll leave with tools to connect more deeply with your son.

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Episode keywords: talk to your boys, joanna schroeder, chrisopher pepper, boys, parenting, teens, mental health, communication, masculinity, social media, emotions, raising sons

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What happens when your tween or teen turns to AI for advice… or even FRIENDSHIP? Today’s kids sometimes experiment with AI chatbots in ways that many parents don’t see coming. While some of their interactions may be harmless, the risks are real.

In this episode of Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens, psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan unpack the hidden dangers of AI companions, the developmental vulnerabilities of younger teens, and the steps every parent can take to keep kids safe without overreacting.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- Why AI “companions” can be especially dangerous for tweens and young teens- How AI captures kids’ attention using hyper-personal data- The real risks: sycophantic affirmations, harmful advice, no safety nets- Warning signs your child may be overly dependent on AI- The most effective guardrails: keeping tech out of bedrooms, building skepticism, and starting ongoing conversations- How strong parent–teen relationships are the ultimate protection against manipulative technology

This conversation turns anxiety into actionable, compassionate guidance, helping you protect your kids while staying connected in a rapidly changing digital world.

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Episode keywords: AI teens, parenting tech, digital safety, teen AI risks, AI dangers, parenting guide, teen technology, AI companions, digital parenting

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Your teen may already know about Zyns, even if you don’t. These discreet little nicotine pouches are popping up in schools, backpacks, and social media feeds, and many parents are only just starting to hear about them. But what makes Zyns so appealing to kids, and how worried should you be if you find them in your home?

In this episode of Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens, Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan unpack the rise of Zyns and vaping among teens. With warmth, empathy, and clear-eyed expertise, they explain what Zyns are, why teens are drawn to them, and how parents can respond without overreacting or losing their child’s trust.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- What Zyns are, how they work, and why they’re spreading among teens.

- The neurological and physical risks of nicotine use for developing brains.

- Why teens are vulnerable to marketing claims like “focus,” “confidence,” and “energy”—and how to push back effectively.

- Practical ways to start the conversation: what to ask, what to say, and what not to do.

- How to frame nicotine use as a matter of manipulation and control—so teens see how companies profit from addiction.

- Why matching your reaction to the actual threat level helps maintain trust with your tween or teen.

Parenting in today’s world means staying ahead of trends our generation never faced. This episode equips you with timely insight, expert perspective, and concrete strategies for tackling the Zyns conversation with confidence.

https://keck.usc.edu/news/use-of-nicotine-pouches-increases-significantly-among-u-s-teens/

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39002807/

American Lung Association on Zyns: https://www.lung.org/blog/zyn-nicotine-addiction

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Episode keywords: Zyns, teen nicotine, youth risks, addiction prevention

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