If watching "Adolescence" on Netflix left you feeling worried about your son, this episode will help you turn your concerns into action.

Dr. Lisa Damour breaks down what the show gets exactly right about adolescent boys: why they're emotionally constrained by culture, how that vulnerability gets exploited by toxic online figures like Andrew Tate, and what parents can do right now to connect with their sons. This is our most-watched episode ever on YouTube — and we think you'll understand why.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why boys are often only "allowed" to express anger and pleasure at others’ expense 

- How feelings of inferiority in middle school can make boys uniquely vulnerable to toxic influencers who offer them a shortcut to feeling powerful

- Why modeling emotional honesty is one of the most protective things a father can do — and why moms alone can't close this gap

- How toxic and misogynistic content finds boys through algorithms, even when kids aren't looking for it — and the concrete steps parents can take to intervene

- How to watch "Adolescence" with your teen and use it to start a real conversation built on curiosity and care, not fear and anxiety

With Father's Day around the corner, there's no better time to revisit this episode.

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Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges.  Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday.

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If your child has just come out to you — or you sense they might be questioning their gender identity — you may be wondering what to say, what to do, and how to get this right. This episode is here to help.

Dr. Lisa Damour walks parents through one of the most important conversations of adolescence: how to respond when your tween or teen comes out as gay, lesbian, or bi, or expresses a non-traditional gender identity. From what to say in that first moment, to navigating sleepovers, sex, family disclosure, and community attitudes, this episode gives you a clear, compassionate roadmap so you don't have to guess your way through it.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why your first response matters so much, and the exact words that protect your relationship and your child's trust

- How to handle the complicated question of whether to tell your other parent or keep your child's confidence

- How to set sleepover and dating boundaries that are fair, consistent, and built on trust, regardless of your child's sexual orientation or gender identity

- What to do if your initial reaction missed the mark (and how to repair it)

- How to support your LGBTQ+ child even if your community isn't fully accepting (and where to find resources to help)

In honor of Pride Month, we're bringing this one back. Every family navigating this deserves guidance they can trust.

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Does your family hit September feeling more exhausted than when summer started? You're not alone — and it doesn't have to be that way.

In this episode, Dr. Lisa Damour shares her research-backed S.U.N. framework — Sleep, Unplug, and Nature — a simple, three-part plan for making summer genuinely restorative for your tween or teen (and for you). Whether your family is drowning in screens, running on bad sleep, or spending zero time outdoors, this episode gives you a realistic, concrete roadmap you can actually put on the calendar.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why protecting sleep matters even when summer schedules get loose — and the specific habits that make the biggest difference

- How to set tech boundaries that work as a family routine, not just a one-off rule

- What the research actually says about nature and why even brief time outdoors reliably restores attention and lowers stress

- Why a plan and a conversation are the two things standing between you and a genuinely restorative summer

- How to implement S.U.N. in your family in a way that sticks into fall

With summer just getting started, there's no better time to revisit this encore episode.

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- Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls – ⁠https://bit.ly/UnderPressuretheBook⁠

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Does your tween or teen struggle with low confidence and self-esteem? Do you want to cultivate healthy self-compassion and self-worth in them — and in yourself?

In this special "Best of Ask Lisa" compilation, clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and co-host Reena Ninan pull together some of their most powerful conversations on self-esteem, confidence, and self-compassion, covering the full arc of the tween and teen years. 

Whether your child is drowning in negative self-talk, paralyzed by perfectionism, or just seems to have lost the spark they once had, this episode will help you understand what's normal, what's not, and what actually works.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why confidence naturally dips around ages 5-9 (and why that doesn't mean you've failed as a parent)

- Why girls often experience a sharp confidence drop around age 12, and what's really going on for boys during puberty

- The "tributaries and the lake" framework for building self-esteem that lasts across a lifetime

- How to respond when your kid spirals into harsh negative self-talk, including the exact phrases Dr. Lisa recommends

- Whether it's okay to tell your daughter she's beautiful

- How modeling self-compassion is one of the most powerful confidence tools you have

This episode draws on insights from guests Dr. Tovah Klein, Dr. Sue Varma, and Dr. Traci Baxley, alongside Dr. Lisa's own research and clinical expertise.

Your child's confidence struggles are workable; making small, consistent shifts in how you respond can make a real difference over time.

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Your teen does everything right. Homework done. Pays attention. Stays organized. Has study skills. And still struggles with tests.

​​Sound familiar? You're not alone, and this is not your kid's fault.

In this episode of “Ask Lisa,” clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan dig into one of the most frustrating and confusing problems parents face: the capable, motivated teen who just can't seem to perform on assessments. 

Drawing on the science of learning and memory, Lisa explains exactly why this happens, what's actually going on in your teen's brain, and how you can help without turning study time into a battleground.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why being great at class has almost nothing to do with being great at tests

- Why the transition to high school catches so many teens (especially boys) off guard

- The study habits that feel productive but actually don't work (and what to do instead)

- A step-by-step approach to starting the study skills conversation with your teen

- Why your teen probably won't take your advice, and who they will actually listen to

- How to broker the right kind of help so your kid feels supported, not managed

Whether your teen is heading into finals, is making the jump to high school, or has been struggling for a while, this episode gives you real, research-backed tools to help them turn things around.

BOOK: Outsmart Your Brain by Daniel T. Willingham, PhD

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It's prom season, and one mom is facing a tough call: her son wants to go to an unsupervised after-party two hours away. Other parents are saying yes. Her gut is saying no. And her son is saying he'll skip prom entirely if she doesn't let him go.

Whether it's prom, spring break, or any other "big night" moment, dilemmas like this one can keep parents up at night. Should you trust your kid, or should you trust your instincts?

Dr. Lisa Damour, clinical psychologist and New York Times bestselling author, and Reena Ninan break it all down with the warmth, honesty, and research-backed guidance parents of teens actually need. No judgment. Just real talk about the hard calls parents need to make.

This episode is about every high-stakes moment when your teen's desire for fun and independence collides with your responsibility to keep them safe. And it's about knowing, with confidence, that prioritizing safety IS the right call, even when it's the hard one.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why your gut feeling about this isn't overreacting (and what the science says about teens, peer groups, and risk)

- How to hold a firm safety limit even when every other parent seems to be saying yes

- The "third option" strategy: how to get your teen out of all-or-nothing thinking and find an alternative you can both live with

- Why explaining the real risks (not just saying "no") changes the conversation entirely

- How to survive your teen being mad at you without caving, holding a grudge, or damaging the relationship

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- Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls – ⁠https://bit.ly/UnderPressuretheBook⁠

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Loot boxes, in-app purchases, Robux, skins — and a kid who won't stop asking for them. If you're a parent of a tween or teen gamer, you already know this pressure. But are these purchases actually harmful, or are you just out of touch with how gaming works today?

In-app purchases are one of the most confusing pressure points for parents of tweens and teens right now. The games are "free to download," but they’re not really free. And when real money turns into Robux or gems, it can disappear fast.

In this episode, clinical psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan break down exactly what's going on inside these video games, what parents actually need to worry about, and how to set clear, calm limits without turning every gaming session into a fight.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why "free-to-play" games aren't actually free, and how to explain the business model to your kid in a way that sticks

- The difference between cosmetic skins and loot boxes

- How virtual currencies like Robux and gems are specifically designed to make spending feel like it's not real money

- A simple framework for talking about whose money, how much, and what happens when it runs out

- How to stay warm and curious about your kid's gaming life in a way that prioritizes a strong relationship with your kid

Gaming isn't the enemy, but clever marketing is baked into these platforms, and your kid needs you to be one step ahead of it. This episode gives you the language and the confidence to do exactly that.

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In recognition of National Fentanyl Awareness Day, we're bringing back one of our most critical episodes — because every family needs this information.

Illicit fentanyl has contaminated the drug landscape and is causing record deaths among young people. How should parents talk with their teens about this fast-moving crisis? What can we say to help keep our kids safe?

Dr. Lisa Damour, who serves on the advisory board of Song for Charlie, and Reena Ninan are joined by Ed Ternan and Marcia Lee Taylor of Song for Charlie, the national nonprofit behind National Fentanyl Awareness Day. Ed, who tragically lost his 22-year-old son to a counterfeit prescription pill, and Marcia, former President and CEO of the Partnership for Drug-Free Kids, cover the basics about fentanyl and offer concrete guidance on how to have effective conversations with teens about its dangers.

If you've already heard this episode, share it with someone who hasn't. It could save a life.

Be sure to check out The New Drug Talk resources available at their website: ⁠www.songforcharlie.org⁠

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Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges.  Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday.

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Your tween won't shower, won't change their clothes, or lies about having brushed their teeth or washed their face...Sound familiar?

If you're in the middle of a hygiene battle with your tween or young teen, you're not alone, and you're not failing as a parent. This is one of the most common (and confusing) challenges of early adolescence, especially when basic resistance starts to take the form of sneaking or lying.

In this episode, clinical psychologist and New York Times bestselling author Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan unpack what's really driving your tween's hygiene resistance, why the lying is probably not what you think it is, and what you can actually do to move things in the right direction without constant conflict.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- Why tweens suddenly resist hygiene routines they never had to think about before

- How puberty and bodily autonomy are at the heart of the power struggle

- Why tweens sometimes lie about this

- What to say instead of nagging, checking, or trying to force them to change habits

- When to let it go, when to hold the line, and when to bring in outside help

- How to use habit science to make new hygiene routines actually stick

This episode will help you stop spinning in frustration and start responding in ways that protect your relationship, respect your child's growing need for independence, and actually get results.
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Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges.  Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday.

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Creatine for teens, supplements for teen athletes, and navigating gym culture pressure on social media… Dr. Lisa Damour answers the question parents of teen athletes are searching for.

Your teen's teammate is taking creatine. Now your kid wants it too. Maybe they're a serious athlete with real goals. Maybe you even take supplements yourself. But something still feels… off. This is genuinely a hard call, and you deserve expert guidance on how to start this conversation with your kid. 

In this episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan dig into one of the fastest-growing pressure points for teen athletes: supplements. From creatine to protein powder to "pre-workout," teens (especially boys) are being flooded with messages about muscle, performance, and products — all through social media, influencers, and even their own teammates. And most of them aren't asking their parents before they start taking them.

Dr. Lisa walks you through exactly how to think about this, how to talk about it with your teen, and where to draw the line.

💡 YOU'LL LEARN:

- What should always come before a "yes" or "no" to any supplement

- How to find out what's really driving your teen's request (performance, body image, peer pressure, all of the above?)

- What to say when your teen insists "everyone on the team is doing it"

- How to talk about supplement marketing and why influencers aren't looking out for your kid

- When to go from "keeping an eye on it" to "this needs an intervention"

- The red flag Dr. Lisa says worries her most about teens and gym culture

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 DR. DAMOUR'S BESTSELLING BOOKS

- Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood – ⁠https://bit.ly/UntangledBook⁠

- Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls – ⁠https://bit.ly/UnderPressuretheBook⁠

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Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges.  Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday.

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