In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Michael dive deep into the complex issues of school refusal and anxiety, particularly in children with ADHD. Joined by expert Kristen McNeely, they explore the critical differences between school avoidance and school refusal—what triggers these behaviors, and how can parents effectively respond? Are well-meaning accommodations actually reinforcing anxiety? As they unravel the misconceptions surrounding anxiety management, listeners will discover actionable strategies to support their children and learn why collaboration with schools is essential. Listen to learn what steps can parents take to prevent school refusal from becoming a long-term issue.

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[00:01:15] School refusal and anxiety.

[00:05:01] ADHD and school refusal connection.

[00:08:35] Family accommodations for anxiety.

[00:12:14] Accommodating children's anxiety misconceptions.

[00:15:10] SPACE therapy for childhood anxiety.

[00:20:49] Home environment for school refusal.

[00:21:40] Competitive reinforcers and school avoidance.

[00:25:34] School refusal and virtual learning.

[00:30:25] Enlisting supporters for school refusal.

[00:32:22] School refusal is treatable.

[00:35:40] ADHD resources and support.

In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Michael engage in a thought-provoking discussion with special guest Lenore Skenazy, founder of Let Grow. They explore the critical importance of free play and independence for children, particularly those with ADHD.

Find Let Grow @ www.letgrow.org

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[00:02:36] Importance of kids' independence.

[00:04:45] Importance of free play.

[00:09:12] Internal locus of control.

[00:12:18] Screen addiction and outdoor play.

[00:14:24] Letting go of parental control.

[00:20:38] Parenting children with ADHD independence.

[00:21:22] Parental fears and children's independence.

[00:26:06] ADHD parenting challenges.

[00:29:27] Let Grow Play Club concept.

[00:35:01] Feeling useful and competent.

[00:35:57] Independence as therapy for anxiety.

[00:41:06] Importance of free play.

[00:42:21] Kids' independence and free play.

[00:46:46] Kids' independence and responsibility.

[00:50:03] Let Grow experiences and anecdotes.

In this episode, Mike & Ryan discuss an insighful comment left by a parent on a video from Ryan's channel about moving kids from "prompt dependence" to independence.

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[00:02:30] Executive functioning skills development.

[00:05:30] Performance disorder, not attention disorder.

[00:09:38] Creating disability in children.

[00:10:42] Youth mental health crisis.

[00:15:40] The challenges of parenting.

[00:20:22] Outdoor play benefits for children.

[00:21:05] Outdoor play and mental health.

[00:24:27] Real world vs. virtual world.

[00:27:38] High expectations and empathy.⁠⁠⁠

This episode gets into the critical topic of parent training as the recommended treatment for children with ADHD, and how this compares with executive function coaching.

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[00:00:50] Parent training for ADHD treatment.

[00:05:42] Time horizon in ADHD children.

[00:08:04] ADHD and therapy effectiveness.

[00:12:00] Parent training in executive functioning.

[00:14:28] Importance of outdoor play.

[00:18:48] Independence and quality of life.

[00:21:57] Effective parent training strategies.

[00:27:07] Executive functioning in parenting.

[00:28:41] Independence and executive functioning skills.

[00:30:29] Parenting challenges and screen addiction.

[00:34:25] Things worsen before they improve.

In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Mike get into the often misunderstood concept of family accommodation. What happens when parents unintentionally reinforce their child's inflexibility and anxiety? Can accommodating behaviors actually make things worse for both the child and the family dynamic? As they explore practical strategies to reduce these accommodations, they pose critical questions: How can parents reclaim their authority without sacrificing connection? What role do supporters play in this transformative process?

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[00:02:28] Family accommodation and its effects.

[00:03:43] Family accommodation and ADHD behaviors.

[00:09:10] Family accommodation and emotional dysregulation.

[00:12:04] Authoritative parenting benefits.

[00:15:05] Enlisting supporters for children.

[00:19:49] Parenting strategies for ADHD children.

[00:21:12] Parenting shifts and control loss.

[00:24:12] Reducing family accommodation anxiety.

[00:27:45] Mailbag episode - questions welcome.

In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Michael engage in a thought-provoking discussion with guest Emily Cherkin, the Screentime Consultant. They delve into the paradox of technology in education—does it truly enhance learning, or is it hindering essential skills? As schools increasingly rely on devices like Chromebooks, how can parents navigate the challenges of screen time and its impact on their children's social skills? What strategies can families employ to opt out of excessive tech use in schools? Tune in to discover the answers and empower your parenting journey!

Find Emily @ thescreentimeconsultant.com

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[00:00:11] Friction and learning in technology.

[00:06:16] Tech intentional vs. EdTech failure.

[00:08:39] Chromebook homework battles.

[00:11:45] Technology's impact on social skills.

[00:15:11] Skills before screens.

[00:19:40] Technology's role in education.

[00:21:43] Opting out of digital learning.

[00:24:30] Opting out of school screens.

[00:28:20] Navigating 504 plans and IEPs.

[00:30:45] Digital distractions in classrooms.

[00:35:40] Power in numbers for parents.

[00:38:10] Low demand parenting misconceptions.

[00:41:58] Unplug EdTech Toolkit.

In this episode, hosts Ryan and Michael engage in a thought-provoking discussion with Dr. Camilo Ortiz, the creator of Independence Therapy. They explore the alarming rise of anxiety in children and the surprising role of parental overprotection. What are the hidden dangers of micromanaging kids? Can fostering independence actually reduce anxiety? As they delve into the innovative approach of Independence Therapy, listeners will discover how discomfort, risk, and the "4 D's" can empower children.

Find Dr. Ortiz @ www.drcamiloortiz.com

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[00:03:57] Kids' independence and anxiety.

[00:06:09] Overprotection and child anxiety.

[00:09:25] Risks of child independence.

[00:12:39] Permissive parenting and anxiety.

[00:16:35] Mega doses of independence.

[00:22:32] Independence and grit in children.

[00:23:32] Getting out of comfort zones.

[00:28:22] Reducing family accommodation in ADHD.

[00:32:19] Pseudoscience in neurodiverse parenting.

[00:36:10] Eliminating demands parenting consequences.

[00:39:03] National licensure for telehealth.

Ryan and Mike discuss the critical topic of prioritizing long-term goals for children with ADHD. They explore the challenges of time blindness and the importance of fostering self-awareness and accountability in young adults. Are parents inadvertently over-accommodating their children, and how does this impact their future independence? What practical strategies can parents implement to ensure their kids develop essential executive functioning skills?

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[00:00:39] Long-term goals for ADHD children.

[00:03:48] ADHD and self-awareness challenges.

[00:08:25] Accountability in IEPs.

[00:10:25] IEPs and long-term accountability.

[00:15:01] Feel-good parenting on social media.

[00:19:10] Social media and parenting narratives.

[00:20:35] ABA vilification and misconceptions.

[00:24:33] Anti-science movement in mental health.

[00:27:36] Expectations for children with ADHD.

[00:30:53] Cultivating flexibility in children.

[00:34:15] Realistic future conversations with teens.

[00:36:49] Executive functions and success.

Ryan and Michael discuss their top tips for a successful school year for children with ADHD. They cover the importance of not tainting the parent-child relationship over homework, the benefits of enlisting supporters, and the significance of letting children communicate with their teachers independently. They also touch on the impact of written agendas, setting limits on Chromebook usage, and the value of realistic IEP goals. The guys emphasize the need for a good relationship with teachers and offer insights on navigating school challenges.

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[00:02:08] Do not toxify homework relationship.

[00:04:09] Homework strategies for ADHD children.

[00:08:17] Kids' Homework Communication with Teachers.

[00:11:47] Learned helplessness and self-advocacy.

[00:15:03] Importance of school activities.

[00:17:43] Therapy oversaturation in children.

[00:19:41] Kids are anti-fragile.

[00:22:08] Incorporating agendas for homework.

[00:26:02] Managing homework distractions.

[00:29:27] Teacher training challenges.

[00:32:20] Executive functioning challenges in schools.

[00:36:53] Unstructured play at school.

[00:39:16] Non-sporty kids and alternative activities.

[00:42:29] Maintaining positive teacher relationships.

[00:45:36] ADHD kids and accountability.

[00:48:57] Resiliency and dealing with challenges.

[00:50:47] Negative teacher talk repercussions.

[12:45:22] Mental health conditions.⁠⁠⁠

The ADHD Guys welcome their very first guest on the podcast, Dr. Katie Davis, to discuss the difference between diagnoses, labels, and educational classifications. They get into the confusion surrounding these terms and explore the impact of social media on parenting kids with ADHD.

Find Katie @ www.drkatiedavis.com and her Substack

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[00:01:49] Substack and maternity leave project.

[00:04:28] Difference between diagnosis and label.

[00:09:50] Educational Classifications and Stigma.

[00:14:10] Misdiagnosis and treatment implications.

[00:15:29] Social media pressure on parents.

[00:19:55] Labels and confusion in diagnosis.

[00:24:51] Sensory processing disorder label.

[00:29:29] Oppositional Defiance Disorder in ADHD.

[00:31:29] ADHD as a evolving spectrum.

[00:36:42] Self-diagnosing through online communities.

[00:39:07] Benefits of authoritative parenting.

[00:41:57] ADHD resources and services.