The ADHD Parenting Podcast

In this episode, hosts Ryan and Michael engage in a thought-provoking discussion with Dr. Camilo Ortiz, the creator of Independence Therapy. They explore the alarming rise of anxiety in children and the surprising role of parental overprotection. What are the hidden dangers of micromanaging kids? Can fostering independence actually reduce anxiety? As they delve into the innovative approach of Independence Therapy, listeners will discover how discomfort, risk, and the "4 D's" can empower children.

Find Dr. Ortiz @ www.drcamiloortiz.com

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[00:03:57] Kids' independence and anxiety.

[00:06:09] Overprotection and child anxiety.

[00:09:25] Risks of child independence.

[00:12:39] Permissive parenting and anxiety.

[00:16:35] Mega doses of independence.

[00:22:32] Independence and grit in children.

[00:23:32] Getting out of comfort zones.

[00:28:22] Reducing family accommodation in ADHD.

[00:32:19] Pseudoscience in neurodiverse parenting.

[00:36:10] Eliminating demands parenting consequences.

[00:39:03] National licensure for telehealth.

Ryan and Mike discuss the critical topic of prioritizing long-term goals for children with ADHD. They explore the challenges of time blindness and the importance of fostering self-awareness and accountability in young adults. Are parents inadvertently over-accommodating their children, and how does this impact their future independence? What practical strategies can parents implement to ensure their kids develop essential executive functioning skills?

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[00:00:39] Long-term goals for ADHD children.

[00:03:48] ADHD and self-awareness challenges.

[00:08:25] Accountability in IEPs.

[00:10:25] IEPs and long-term accountability.

[00:15:01] Feel-good parenting on social media.

[00:19:10] Social media and parenting narratives.

[00:20:35] ABA vilification and misconceptions.

[00:24:33] Anti-science movement in mental health.

[00:27:36] Expectations for children with ADHD.

[00:30:53] Cultivating flexibility in children.

[00:34:15] Realistic future conversations with teens.

[00:36:49] Executive functions and success.

Ryan and Michael discuss their top tips for a successful school year for children with ADHD. They cover the importance of not tainting the parent-child relationship over homework, the benefits of enlisting supporters, and the significance of letting children communicate with their teachers independently. They also touch on the impact of written agendas, setting limits on Chromebook usage, and the value of realistic IEP goals. The guys emphasize the need for a good relationship with teachers and offer insights on navigating school challenges.

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Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube

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[00:02:08] Do not toxify homework relationship.

[00:04:09] Homework strategies for ADHD children.

[00:08:17] Kids' Homework Communication with Teachers.

[00:11:47] Learned helplessness and self-advocacy.

[00:15:03] Importance of school activities.

[00:17:43] Therapy oversaturation in children.

[00:19:41] Kids are anti-fragile.

[00:22:08] Incorporating agendas for homework.

[00:26:02] Managing homework distractions.

[00:29:27] Teacher training challenges.

[00:32:20] Executive functioning challenges in schools.

[00:36:53] Unstructured play at school.

[00:39:16] Non-sporty kids and alternative activities.

[00:42:29] Maintaining positive teacher relationships.

[00:45:36] ADHD kids and accountability.

[00:48:57] Resiliency and dealing with challenges.

[00:50:47] Negative teacher talk repercussions.

[12:45:22] Mental health conditions.⁠⁠⁠

The ADHD Guys welcome their very first guest on the podcast, Dr. Katie Davis, to discuss the difference between diagnoses, labels, and educational classifications. They get into the confusion surrounding these terms and explore the impact of social media on parenting kids with ADHD.

Find Katie @ www.drkatiedavis.com and her Substack

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[00:01:49] Substack and maternity leave project.

[00:04:28] Difference between diagnosis and label.

[00:09:50] Educational Classifications and Stigma.

[00:14:10] Misdiagnosis and treatment implications.

[00:15:29] Social media pressure on parents.

[00:19:55] Labels and confusion in diagnosis.

[00:24:51] Sensory processing disorder label.

[00:29:29] Oppositional Defiance Disorder in ADHD.

[00:31:29] ADHD as a evolving spectrum.

[00:36:42] Self-diagnosing through online communities.

[00:39:07] Benefits of authoritative parenting.

[00:41:57] ADHD resources and services.

In this episode, Ryan and Michael dive into concerning trends in parenting social media, uncovering misinformation and pseudoscience that may be impacting families. They discuss topics like the rise of ADHD influencers, the dangers of self-diagnosing, and the controversial idea that screens help kids self-regulate.

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[00:02:40] Self-diagnosing social contagion of PDA.

[00:06:20] Pathological Demand Avoidance.

[00:07:20] Self-diagnosing children with PDA.

[00:10:50] Fear mongering in parenting.

[00:16:20] Planned Ignoring for Better Behavior.

[00:17:20] Sensory-seeking behaviors in children.

[00:21:56] Misunderstandings about ADHD.

[00:24:17] Neurodiverse affirming.

[00:30:04] Lived experience vs. education.

[00:31:53] Kids do well if they can.

[00:36:50] Parental authority and discipline.

[00:37:43] Warped social relationships and parenting.⁠⁠⁠

In this episode of the ADHD Guys podcast, hosts Ryan and Michael discuss the three zones of executive functioning: home, school, and social. They challenge the traditional view of executive functioning, exploring the internal skills that are often overlooked. Listen to uncover the secrets behind successful executive function development and the impact on a child's overall success.

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[00:02:35] Academic executive function skills.

[00:05:50] Academic challenges in ADHD.

[00:07:55] Writing struggles in students with ADHD.

[00:10:16] Supporting oral storytelling for kids.

[00:14:28] Cognitive flexibility.

[00:19:16] Time management in ADHD.

[00:22:13] Social executive functioning.

[00:25:05] Perspective taking in social skills.

[00:28:36] Social executive functioning and awareness.

[00:31:59] Executive function coaching without parents.

[00:34:43] Improving behavior at home.

[00:36:25] ADHD educational content.

In this episode, Ryan and Michael take on the complex topic of learned helplessness in children with ADHD. They explore how this behavior is developed, the impact it has on a child's independence and self-esteem, and the dangers of enabling it.

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[00:01:24] Learned helplessness in kids with ADHD.

[00:03:48] Learned helplessness in children.

[00:08:18] Helping Kids with Learned Helplessness.

[00:11:22] Parental involvement in education.

[00:14:41] Importance of authoritative parenting.

[00:17:41] Learned helplessness in education.

[00:21:31] Enable independence with visual timelines.

[00:24:54] Emotional manipulation.

[00:27:27] Importance of self-confidence in parenting.

[00:29:48] Learned helplessness in social media.

Join Ryan and Mike as they talk about children's use of "noise", exploring how kids with ADHD often resort to complaining and negative talk to avoid tasks. They discuss the fine line between validating feelings and reinforcing negative behavior, touching on the importance of not giving attention to noise. How can parents navigate emotional manipulation and help their children develop resiliency? Tune in to discover the proactive strategies parents can employ to empower their children and foster growth.

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[00:00:15] The use of noise.

[00:06:15] Overcoming negativity in sports.

[00:08:29] Overcoming child's resistance to change.

[00:11:43] Noise leading to emotional manipulation.

[00:13:26] Kids and emotional manipulation.

[00:19:21] Emotional dysregulation in parenting.

[00:22:09] Brain voice vs. brain coach.

[00:24:47] Negative effects of talk therapy.

[00:29:20] Kids and anxiety resilience.

[00:32:35] Fishy for the negatives.

[00:33:57] Holding high standards for clients.

Join Ryan & Mike for the first mailbag episode where they directly answer YOUR questions! This round they explore topics such as managing inattentiveness in social settings, handling lying behaviors, and addressing aggression towards siblings. Are screens impacting behavior? How can parents navigate grumpy phases effectively? And what does it truly mean to be neurodiversity affirming? Tune in to uncover their strategies and perspectives on these crucial issues!

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[00:02:35] Social successes in ADHD teens.

[00:04:39] Social executive functioning tied into one.

[00:09:07] Screen time struggles and control.

[00:11:14] Unplugging screens for behavioral improvement.

[00:14:44] Controlling screen time for kids.

[00:19:07] Dealing with constant lying.

[00:22:35] Dealing with children's lies.

[00:26:35] Armchair therapist role.

[00:29:32] Dealing with aggressive behavior.

[00:33:17] ADHD and neurodiversity affirming.

[00:36:00] Independence and life skills.

[00:40:30] Neurodiversity-affirming approach.

[00:42:37] Emotional support stuffed animals.

[00:45:14] The importance of social acceptance.

[00:48:35] ADHD resources and support.

In this episode, Ryan and Michael delve into the intricate world of social perspective taking, uncovering the crucial role it plays in social interactions. They explore the misunderstood concept of social executive functioning, shedding light on why perspective taking is a foundational skill.

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[00:01:41] Social executive functioning skills.

[00:06:11] Social attention-seeking behaviors.

[00:09:08] Social executive functioning ADHD.

[00:11:12] Lack of social perspective taking.

[00:15:37] The importance of varied experiences.

[00:17:27] Boys need real friendships.

[00:21:04] Social perspective taking.

[00:23:56] Lack of perspective in adulthood.

[00:28:32] Lack of empathy and perspective taking.

[00:32:38] The effectiveness of social skills groups.

[00:35:15] Social skills groups for ADHD.

[00:37:52] Teaching perspective taking strategies.

[00:41:42] Teaching social competency.

[00:45:07] Social perspective taking.

[00:46:34] General informational and educational purposes.